Should I find a new friends with benefits?

[Sweetgirlasking]

Hi all,
A guy that I hook up with once a month is getting verbally abusive, and insulted me even though I made it clear that I have to wait a few weeks until my final exams are over for our next hookup. Sometimes we talk just as friends. I was very emotionally supportive to him when he was going through stuff, and he recently was being coercive and mean to me. It's just really convenient to sleep with him because we're nearby but if it's going to cost my my dignity and mental health I don't think that's healthy. Should I forget about him and find a new guy to hookup with?

[darkcloud1945]

He is mad at you for being to easy to fuck and he himself is trying to get rid of you till he feels the need to fuck then nice nice then anger. As for your wanting an easy fuck no problem your entitled to do that and no one can say different. The same for him he is entitled too. but he is mad at you being an easy fuck and he can not deal with it. I would get rid of him before he beats you up, and he will say you caused him to beat you. But this is your move to make. Please think and make your move quickly before he acts.

[loveslongnails]

You already know the answer, so I suppose you're looking for validation? You don't suddenly "lose your dignity" because someone verbally abuses you - they lose theirs. Since you only see him once a month, how many months has he "been getting" abusive? It can't be too important OR convenient if you only hook up once a month. Dump him. There'll be hundreds to choose from.

[Emii_Urashima]

I see a friend-with-benefits as just that, a good friend that I also sometimes have sex with, without any attachments. We set our boundaries and respect each other. I would cut it off quick if my friends with benefits tried to get controlling or started to disrespect me.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Absolutely move on if he is going to be like that. Its not a benefit to you to deal with that nonsense

[Sweetgirlasking]

Thanks for your advice! :)

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Very welcome and good luck!

[DaisyM23]

Yeah not healthy to be with a controlling guy, find someone else and tell him to get lost but be careful, he seems to have his fragile masculinity so he might get more confident

[ohshee]

A friends-with-benefits supposed to be fun exciting if you have to deal with trauma to get laid it's not even worth it

[GingerGuy]

Yes. friends with benefits doesn't mean lack of basic respect and human decency (even though most people lack this).

[Luckycharms12]

I believe so deserve to be treated with respect

[Sweetgirlasking]

Thanks for your advice!👌

[Luckycharms12]

No problem any time

[jerdanro]

I think you should find someone else.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

friends with benefits

Is for pathetic losers, with no lives

[james_d0007]

Yes based on what you said, I don't think so he is a kinda guy you would want to be around with. You seem like a very good person and you should definitely be with someone who values you the same way like you do.

Better to get off this toxic kinda relationship before it worsens more in the future.
Good luck dear!

[Wild_Surpise]

Yep, time to find a new ride.

[Ally_007]

Yes you should. He's not even being a nice friend to you right now. You should cut him off from friendship and from benefits. Period.