Should I get a sex toy, or wait for the real deal?

I’ve gone back and forth on wanting to get a toy. Probably a rabbit vibrator. But I’ve heard mixed opinions because obviously a real dick can’t do exactly what that does. I’m a virgin and I don’t want to ruin sex for myself, but I’m also sexually frustrated and have never been able to orgasm with just my hands. I just don’t want to ruin regular sex for myself before I actually have it. I’d love opinions- will a toy ruin real sex for me? Is a rabbit vibrator a good place to start?
I also feel some shame for even wanting one as a virgin but I’m trying to get over that. I just don’t know if it’s weird to want a toy before ever being with a guy/if that’ll be a turn-off if whoever I’m with my first time finds out.
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  • You're exploring in search of orgasms; there's nothing to be ashamed of there. It's good that you're thinking this through, and that you don't want to push yourself too far, but you're probably worrying too much. If you need more stimulation than your hands can provide, it's only natural to turn to machinery. You can, in fact, overstimulate yourself into insensitivity (heck, I may have been one of those who warned you about that; I know I've mentioned it here before), but it takes a lot to do that- the key thing to remember is not to dash out in search of ever more stimulation, since diminishing returns can set in quickly. It's more about opening yourself up to what a given thing (a hand, a dildo, a penis, etc) can give you, and how you can make the most use of that. Relax into it. The danger is in mentally shifting your baseline into very strong sensations, not experiencing those sensations at all; the latter is perfectly fine. I'm sorry if I (or we, or they, as appropriate) made you apprehensive of sex toys; you shouldn't be. Just remember that everyone and everything has its limitations.

    And it's perfectly fine to want orgasms, even as a virgin. Your future partners will probably be glad you know how you like to be stimulated.

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  • Have you tried any different techniques? I like to put my middle finger in my vagina and my thumb on my clitoris and pretend to rub them together (like I would if my hand wasn't already engaged where it is). I'd try at least try a handful of techniques before going to the store and forking over some cash.

    • Yes lol I’ve been at this for many years and tried many things. I just can’t keep focus once I start feeling good/push myself over.

    • Yeah, in your case a vibrator is probably the best toy for you. If you're struggling to stay focused as you get close.

  • Get one. You won’t ruin your sex life at all, trust me

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  • how about a dummy

  • You should. You dont have to get a rabbit first out the gate if you feel thats too much. They make little bullet things that vibrate and are like the size of chapstick. Or you can go all put and get a massive footlong. Your body your rules.

  • Get the toy. Obviously you won't get the most average size of toy on the world but it let you explore more than your hands only. After that, you will know a little more about what is that you like and you could enjoy it so much.
    Take it from a guy with many female friends who shared the topic.

    • Haha sooo since you’ve been in conversations about this before, did they ever specify some good ones to look at? Kinds? I’m still kinda debating haha

    • Haha, this is for real. I was curious I just asked about sizes and for the first time they tried a small one (I already knew there are a lot of sizes) so after they could try differents before a real dick. Some of them even prefer to use toys in sex. The choice is yours.

  • You should get it if it's what you want. Nothing wrong with sexual urges

  • If you have an itch, scratch it.

  • Your a woman so cock is no problem for You so why waste Your time with a vibrator? It's not like Your a man that either has pussy throw at Him or You are one of the unlucky ones whom has to build a career before He gets regular snatch.

  • Get the toy

    • Any recommendations? Open to suggestions lol just want one that can go inside

    • what about a vibrator egg?

  • Just go for it. A well designed expensive sex toy might give you more physical pleasure but the emotional connection is important so it still won't compare to the real deal.

  • nothing wrong with it, personally I don't know if it can ruin real sex for you but consideeing that sex the first time has its chances of hurting then maybe stretching yourself out a little with a toy isn't such a bad idea, now if you want the most realistic and you aren't too focused on pleasure then buy a toy that doesn't vibrate, dicks dont vibrate lol

    • Lol true- not really going for anything realistic necessarily just want something that’ll help me with that last push to get myself over the edge haha

    • well if you are going for pleasure then i believe that vibrators are the best cause its what I've heard so go for a vibrator i guess 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • Real deal is best I guess

  • get the toy !

    • Why a toy.. it's better to enjoy reality for the first time @swettannie

  • If you'd like one, message me, I'll buy you one

  • If you've ever masturbated, it's not weirder. If you think you'll like it better, get the toy.

  • Go get one and explore discover and enjoy your sexual desires and preferences

  • You are 25 and Virgin? How? Why?