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Should I have sex with her?

I loved this girl since I laid my eyes on her in 2017. She's the most gorgeous girl I ve ever seen and I really wanted to be with her back then. But I was too stupid and immature and made some really awful mistakes which separated us. I could never have her.
I really regretted my actions after that but I had chosen my path which was different so I moved on, began dating other girls etc.

However she was always in the back of my mind and my relationships weren't really that deep or genuine. They were mostly sexual with a girl I wasn't really that attracted to but was dating due to circumstances. That made me miss her even more and at times, I even had dreams of her and once I imagined her in place of my ex girlfriend while we were having s*x.
That relationship lasted 2 years.

Anyway, after we broke up, I met my crush accidently during lockdown. We were both in the same park and I spotted her reading a book in the fields. I was really amazed to see her after nearly 1 year. I had seen her last year and wanted to say HI but she didn't respond that time. I was kinda hurt but was dating my ex girlfriend so reconciled with the fact that she probably hated me.

She saw me staring at her and she too looked shocked to see me. This time I smiled in hopes she would talk and she did reciprocate by walking up to me and saying hi. We talked and sat down together in the park, finally exchanging phone numbers and social media. She was very reserved at first, not making much eye contact but now she's normal.

She's always cooking food for me, bringing food, fruits etc. Checking up on me , how im doing etc.
She always asks me if I had lunch. And she had the MOST soothing hands. I had a really bad headache 2 days ago and she bought me medicines and also gave me a head massage. My pain was gone in a few minutes and I had never felt so relaxed. She kinda blushes a lot when I compliment her, complimenting me in return.

. Do you think she still loves me?
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  • Yes, I know she still loves you. She is scared of being hurt and is guarding her heart. She is trying like hell to keep her walls up high where no one can get to her feelings and hurt her. I don't think she's just protecting herself against you specifically, but more so just men in general. She can't help but be vulnerable around you and wants to be able to trust you and love one another but she needs reassurance. You need to prove to this girl that you are willing to be vulnerable too. Reassure her that she can trust you with her heart. Tell her you know how dumb and selfish you were before, tell her you've had to live knowing that you messed up what could have been the best thing that ever happened to you and that you swore if you ever had the chance with her again that you'd never let her go. Tell her you're sorry. When you're talking to her about this, think of her feelings and perspective. Don't be a typical guy and let your ego control your actions. This is about making her trust you, and if she senses any hint of game or fraudulence, she's going to doubt you even longer. It sounds like you love her and trust her so confide your feelings in her. Show her that she's worth the risk of putting your heart and manliness out there. Let her know you'll be as patient as she needs you to be and that you want her to take her time so that she is sure. Convince her that you're not going anywhere regardless of what she decides. You let her slip away once but you couldn't live with the regret of doing it a second time. You'll fight for her even if it means just being friends-you'd rather have her in your life even if only as a friend than to not have her at all. She's too precious to you. Good luck!! Be sincere!

    • But why is she being scared? I hate it but I was a bit of bully , mean towards her when we separated

    • She's scared of having her heart broken again. It hurts so bad when you put yourself out there and fall in love with somebody only for it to not work out or they change up on you. It might not be just you, even-you have no idea what she's been through with other men. If you haven't apologized yet then I would start there. Just make sure you're ready to really follow through and treat her the way she deserves. It doesn't sound like you just want to sleep with her but if that is, by chance, the case then find a piece of ass somewhere else. Be honest with yourself as to what you really want and what your true intentions are. If you don't feel like you're ready to really commit and give her your all then you might want to hold off for a later time. You don't want to screw up with her twice. Just because you're not done playing the field yet doesn't mean you're a bad person. If you can see being with her and you are truly sorry then tell her exactly that. You don't want to act like it never happened but you don't want to dwell on it either. Let her know that you were still young and hadn't matured as a man yet but that you acknowledge the way you treated her was wrong. Tell her you're man enough now and ready to really try. Explain why you acted like a bully and tell her you're sorry and what your intentions are. Why were you a bully? I'm assuming you were hurt as well and that was your defense mechanism. Either that or you were trying to get a reaction out of her. My number one piece of advice is be honest and talk about how you feel. That's the biggest difference between men and women and probably our largest communication barrier. Men don't typically talk about how they feel and women base everything on how they feel. What kind of things did you do to bully her? Do you know why you did them?

Most Helpful Girl

  • Of course. Fuck her for a some months and dump her. She will be really submissive towards you

    • Why are you saying such things?

    • Because you don't deserve her. You never will

    • Why? I'm making amends

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I'd ask her out if i were you. The things she's is doing to make sure you're happy aren't the normal kind of 'friend' things (OK there are some instances where that happens) but it sounds like she is waiting for you to make the first move

    Ask her out on a date. Also don't force sex; it'll happen when it happens if at all. If you try and force it it may wind up with her thinking you're just using her for a happy ending

    • But what can be my happy ending if its only sex?

    • I'm going to quote the golden rule. Never enter into a casual relationship with someone you have intense romantic feelings for, it just ends badly. If your intention is just to have sex with this women normally i'd say "as long as your upfront your fine" but it's clear you care about this girl more than normal As hard as it would be if she doesn't want a relationship then it is best to walk away. Don't make it casual It just won't work out well and you may loose her even more than if she just rejects you

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