Should I hurt a person who raped someone I love?

[Lubbock47]

Someone I love (I will call him Steve for the purpose of this question) has been raped in the past and recently opened up about it to me. I knew that he'd been raped before but it really broke my heart hearing him tell me the details. I know the girl who did it and I really want to get revenge on her for that. My mind is filled with anger and I want to kill that girl. Steve asked me to not do anything to her in order for me to stay out of any trouble but I really want to get revenge on her for him. She goes to my college so it would be easy to track her down. I don't think that I would get in big trouble for slapping someone. So should I confront her and slap her with all my strength in her face? She did horrible things and I really want to make her regret doing that but I don't want to disappoint Steve because he explicitly told me not to do that. What should I do?

[OlderAndWiser]

You have no legal justification for attacking her and anythiing that you do willbe treated as an assault and battery by law enforcement. You are not appointed to be judge and jury and slapping her will not help him. If you do want to help, encourage him to seek victim services and perhaps he can work to the point of reportng the crime and having her prosecuted.

I am fairly certain that you will not want to hear this, but there is always the possibility that he has a false memory of the event, is misreporting the details, or was impared at the time and perhaps that has clouded his recollectiion of events. It is also possible that he is delberately misreporting the event for some ulterior motive. Those are all possibilities which must be considered and the fact that you get angry over the suggestion being made would be proof that your involvement has clouded your judgment of what has transpired.

[Amegz]

I think you shouldn’t as long he explicitly demanded not to involve..

I understand what he feels and what you already feels..

If you really can not skip this, try to find out all the reasons why he doesn’t want you to involve, just in order not to hurt him just in case if there is still anything hidden he didn’t express. So, don’t unless you talk about it all.

Make sure that your revenge from that bitch will satisfies him more if he is ok with that. Even if he didn’t demand.

And I wish haven’t mistaken.

[NamerOfStars]

Let it go- if it's what Steve wants, then you shouldn't drag it out, tempted as you may be. It's better to try and build up a better life (even if it's for someone else) than to turn and tear someone else down, no matter how much they may deserve it.

[SnowedIn]

You should respect the wishes of Steve because he explicitly asked you to.

You wrote that you love Steve. Respect his wishes.

[slatyb]

He was raped by a woman? How exactly did that happen?

[Twalli]

Sex was without consent, I don't think we need to know the details

[slatyb]

@Twalli he was intoxicated? Underage? Restrained?

[Twalli]

Could be

[Kaneki05]

I would kill her but if one can't take it that far at least make her suffer maybe make sure she's in a wheelchair accidents happen.

[Dargil]

Revenge is mine, says the Lord. But you have the hands for it.

[AviatorTom]

Do nothing, like he asked you to.

[GOOSEBOY78]

please repect his wishes, he wants to move on.
because (her) can run to police and say that your boyfriend R her and you assulted her (unprevoked) and have you charged.

[exitseven]

The direct approach in never a good idea. Do some recon on this girl, find out her habits, whare and who she hangs out with and figure out a way to mess her up really bad that can never be traced back to you. After you do this you can never tell anyone, not even your boyfriend.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds feasible.

[FilmGuy93]

Don't go there. You'll just get yourself in trouble. Let things go.

[RockyHammock]

- it's not your revenge to take
- the victim asked you to stay out of it

What am I missing?

[AmeerX]

You should do what Steve tells you

[notwoke]

how exactly does a girl rape a guy? If she is huge and he is tiny, then I get it, otherwise I need to understand better, not pooping on this just curious

[Twalli]

If he didn't want to have sex and she knew it and then still had sex with him it's take, size doesn't matter

[notwoke]

@Twalli the physicality of that just escapes me. I don't see how I couldn't "resist and withhold".

[Twalli]

Intoxication

[notwoke]

@Twalli how does she make you hard when you are too drunk to push her away?

[Twalli]

enough stimulation will make the penis hard.

[notwoke]

@Twalli Ok, I'm not saying your wrong, but I think this is at least qualifies as "difficult to facilitate"

[Twalli]

It's harder if the guy is intoxicated, but not impossible

[OddBeMe]

Legally I can only say go to the police.

[Cheerfull009]

Be patient, do nothing ,

[Anonymous]

Don't slap her, go up close to her and whisper in her ear "rapist", keep doing it every chance you'll get. That'll be worse for her than slapping her and it's not like she'll bring it to the relevant authorities, because then her rape will come out.

[Anonymous]

No you can get punished

Find a pig farm, problem solved

[Anonymous]

"I don't think that I would get in big trouble for slapping someone"

Actually, you could.

But more importantly, you owe it to Steve to respect his wishes. Leave it alone.

[Anonymous]

And how would that solve anything. You can't fix broken people. You got Steve, Steve's got you and she's still trash. You've already won, she's already lost. And she did not get away with anything I promise you.

[Anonymous]

You would seriously be breaking the law if you did and you could be arrested. I get it with the anger but you still can't "take the law into your own hands" and commit an act of revenge such as that.

How was it where a woman actually raped a guy? Just curious as you normally don't hear this.

[Twalli]

Sex when the guy did not consent. A guy will get hard with wnough stimulation regardless of consent