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Sexual Health Should I leave my loving boyfriend for someone else over sex?
Vanessa94 Xper 2
Hi! No judgements please-only serious answers! My boyfriend of just over a year, who I love, adores me and despite the title I really love him as well. Before we met, I was having sex with a friend (this was after a previous brutal breakup) and we had an incredible sexual connection that I've never had with any other man. Since I got together with my boyfriend, I stopped having sex with my friend but I still saw him in class and everything. But last month my boyfriend and I had a HORRIBLE argument and stupidly I went over to my friend's and we had sex (didn't plan on sleeping with him). Embarrassed as I am to say this, the sex was mind blowing. I thought about what I did and decided to put it to rest, but later that week we did it again, and we've been fucking since. I now feel absolutely awful about doing this to my boyfriend, but I'm really in a dilemma now. My boyfriend isn't bad in bed (I climax about once or twice with him) but my friend is a complete stallion (I ALWAYS lose count of the number of orgasms). 2 days ago we had our first anniversary and after my boyfriend and I had sex I called my friend, went over to his house and we had sex for hours and the next morning I couldn't help comparing him to my boyfriend and the differences are really getting to me now (physical attraction, sexual connection, penis size, passion...) and I masturbate thinking about him everyday. Awful as this sounds, now when I have sex with my boyfriend I fantasize about my friend's gorgeous enormous cock brining me to climax. I can't keep this up and am seriously considering ending it with my boyfriend. He's a great guy and I can not hurt him so I'll try to make up some reason. My friend already says he wants to be with me and loves me so why not give it a shot, I mean we connect at every level, except on religion:I'm an atheist but he's a non-practising muslim, very liberal. However I don't want to throw away a year with my boyfriend. What should I do?
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Ok, the amount of hate I'm getting is beyond absurd. I cheated and it's wrong and I wish I'd left my boyfriend for my friend sooner at this point. But calling a woman a slut or whore gets you nowhere. I never did anything to you guys, so why are you all hating on me so much?
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9 33Considering the bigger picture, it's easier if you two broke up. Apparently, your relationship is a joke to you, therefore it only makes sense to call it quits.
You could confess at which point any guy with enough self-respect would finish this masquerade.
You could keep it a secret. You did insist on no judgments, but at this point I would be curious, whose time do you intend to waste? Yours or his?
The fact is you are weak-willed. Ending your current relationship would do a favor to the both of yous.
Damn cheater no wonder guys dont trust most girls now adays
No shit. The bitch won't even fess up. She's just going to, and I quote, "Make something up" to tell her boyfriend so she can leave him for a muslim with a bigger dick without telling him what she's been doing behind his back.
You should not waste your boyfriend time if you're intrested in another guy..
Simply breakup
First of all; I think it's incredibly hot that you fucked two guys in the same day. Hopefully they went in raw and finished inside you but I digress.
I live in New York City where maintaining a monogamous relationship is tough bc everyone is looking to trade up and there's always someone better around the corner.
I keep my actual answer short. If you're thinking about marrying your boyfriend then don't break up with him. If you're not thinking about it then you'll probably break up sooner or later so why not sooner. Have fun dating and maybe look for relationships that are non-monogamous so you won't have this dilemma again.
Thanks! :) No they didn't go in bare haha :D I think I've found my man and I'm done with dating. :)
You already threw away the year with your boyfriend
Stop being selfish and break up with him
Keep getting his cock behind your boyfriend's back.. You get your boyfriends love and affection then great sex with the other guy..
I imagine that doesn''t work too well emotionally, and I really want to settle with one guy
Just have to make a choice then... if the sex is irrisitible then you drop the boyfriend and get with the side guy.. If you can do without thee bomb ass sex then stay with boyfriend.
I simply can't do without sex with my friend (it's too special and exhilerating), but I could without sex with my boyfriend to say the cruel truth, so yeah I'm going to break up soon. I should have done this sooner. Thanks for the reply :)
End it cause if isn't love then move on
You should at least break up with your boyfriend. It doesn't make you a bad person we are animals. But it's not fair for the poor guy to get cheated on. You can be honest with him and tell him everything or just breakup and tell him a bs story. Learning that you cheated on him makes any man mind fuck and fuck up his confidence. I think nothing hurts more then that from personal experience. Hope you do the right thing
seems like a superficial reason to leave, doesn't it?
throw away your boyfriend and upgrade
will do that tomorrow hopefully. I'm already excited about starting a romantic relationship with my friend. I guess religion, culture etc can't get in the way of love
@SnatchFinderGeneral "I will hate you all until I take my last fucking breath." wow, you really need a job.
This is why good guys turn into assholes. I really hope this is just a trolling thread... if not... you're a terrible person.
You fucking said it, sir.
So you're a cheater. Good job!
Oh wow, very helpful.
@asker - Oh yeeaa what she said is very helpful... You should select that as a MHO
Yes break up with him. He deserves better.
Despite the hate, I appreciate your honesty. I know this post make me sound shallow, but it's difficult to explain my emotions online.
Sorry if I was a bit harsh.
It's fine, I really am a wreck at the moment. My boyfriend is great but I've been denying me feeling for my friend for a long time and trying to hide it. I guess you can't choose love. Thanks for the answer though.
@asker - This post makes you a slut and nothing else
@singlebee Calling a woman a slut just makes you a weak man who can't satisfy women and just resort to shaming them. This is 2016 so grow up boy.
@asker - And you cheating on anyone makes you a slut... I have no respect for women like you... This is 2016... So Do close your legs whore..
@singlebee you are clearly insecure. Would you be calling women whores if you could keep your own girlfriend happy?
@asker I called you a whore for cheating without having any regrets... Or shame what so ever... And your are one without a doubt... I hope one day your get the taste of your own medicine..
@asker - What emotions are your taking about?
@singlebee A doctor would definitely diagnose her as a narcissist or possibly even sociopath
Well if this isn't a troll I think you should do your boyfriend a favour and break it off with him because you clearly only care about sex and not him
And just lose one year together? No time for trolling so if you're gonna put me down just don't bother responding.
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