Should I let him finger me or not?

So this guy and I have not met yet but we plan on meeting up this weekend because I asked if I could give him a blowjob. But he asked what we are going to do after. I'm not a big fan of like real sex but I'm okay with handjobs and blowjobs. I have body issues and feel awkward.
I feel kind of awkward now since the only thing we are actually going to be doing is just blowjobs. So should I just let him finger me if he asks or just stick to blowjobs?
Updates:
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I probably should have mentioned that my friend has known this guy for years on a very personal level and she told me he was a good guy. So it's not like I'm meeting a random man. I'm just meeting a friend of a friend.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You should do only what you feel comfortable with. You're under no obligation to give him a blowjob or let him stick his fingers into you or anything.

    If you're still reading this, though, I gotta tell you... Honestly, this just sounds like a bad idea to me from the get-go. You've never met before, and you're meeting for the first time to give him a blowjob? And you're thinking of letting him finger you, just because? You don't know him. He could rape you. This sounds way off to me. Bizarre, too say the least. Just, wrong. I would strongly advise against following through with this.

    I wish you the very best of luck and, if you do go through with it, I hope you remain safe through this encounter.

    • Your update makes it better, but it's still odd to me. My answer remains the same: do what you're comfortable with, and nothing more.

  • If you're looking for a casual friends with benefits type of thing, let him finger you and give you oral as well. It should be fun be equally fun for both of you that way.

    Now, if this is a serious relationship, please do yourself a favor, and slow down. Don't do that on the first date! That's called rushing.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You should feel no obligation to do anything you don't want to do. If the only thing you feel comfortable with is giving him a blowjob then tell him that and that's what you should do. If he tries to force you into anything, run.

    • I agree

  • You haven't seen him in real life yet and you're already trying to suck his dick? You don't even know where its been, gross! Have some respect for yourself.

    • My friend has known him for years on a personal level but I've never met him. She says he's a good guy. Also, I have respect for myself I just wanted to live a little. All I wanted was some advice. It's the same as going to a bar/club and hooking up with a random stranger. Except I know someone who knows this guy. So I'm being safe.

  • If you want to be fingered, yes. It's all up to you.

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  • it feels amazing when they do

    • Do you really like fingering?

    • @Bassim yes bc it feels great

    • Front or back?

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  • If your not comfortable with it then no you shouldn't let him do it

  • I don't see anything wrong with that...

  • If he makes your comfortable enough? Just try to enjoy the sex

  • Your in to deep, take a step back

  • Yes, let him.

  • Yes let him finger you

  • Let him finger you if you want to, I'm sure he'll enjoy it unless you want a blow job, then ask him.

  • You should only do what you feel comfortable with. The guy should respect your boundaries. I understand his desire to give you pleasure as well, but again it has to be something your comfortable with. This sounds like a hookup so make sure your safe.

  • I will be there

  • of course not

  • Doesn't sound like a "good guy" to me. Someone you never even met yet? (Call me old fashioned but I don't even kiss on the first date)

  • Let him if you enjoy it.

  • BJ is good enough for a first date