Should I let more people use me?

[fatcat700592]

I'm male and a bottom sub but I lost my virginity very recently and on that same day I was used by 7 total people at different times. I was very tired and sore and nervous so I have slowed down drastically but should I let people use me more like that?

And to clarify I say use because I'm not sure if I can use the other work on here or no. But I generally don't say no to anyone wanting my butt unless I can't do it at that time. I'm on grindr and after I put in my bio that I just want friends lots of people stopped asking for my butt. So should I change it back?

[PrettyPriya]

You should never let someone "use" you for anything. That includes sex for sure. Intimacy is something that is shared between two people that love each other (usually). At least that is the way it is for me. I am not interested in hookups or one night stands. That is just a personal decision.

I don't want to feel used like that was all I was good for. I want to feel loved. Only way that is happening is if I am in a committed relationship. I also don't have sex with anyone that I don't have an emotional attachment to.

I like that connection that my partner and I share, not just in intimacy but in life. Without it, sex is pointless to me and not enjoyable. That is just my view on it and others will differ.

My point is, don't let yourself be used by anyone, for sex or anything else. You will end up with that empty feeling down the road that sex was all you were good for.

[fatcat700592]

Thank you and I mostly use the work use so I don't have to say the f word. And I know that's not all I'm good for but I like helping people. But thank you very much for your advice.

[PrettyPriya]

You are welcome. Just wait until you find that special person that values you for you and not just sex. It will be a much more fulfilling relationship sharing more than a night with someone. Worth waiting for in my opinion.

[PrettyPriya]

@fatcat700592 Thank you so much for the MHO! 🙂

[fatcat700592]

No thank you yours was the most helpful.

[RobT312]

Sex is personal so do what makes you happy, but I personally don’t like the idea of getting uses. It’s also not very safe… be careful out there with all of the viruses going around

[fatcat700592]

Thank you very much for the advice.

[RobT312]

Sure dude. Anytime. Hey have u tried being a top?

[fatcat700592]

Not exactly. Someone I have been with a few times wanted me to try but it ended up being more like him being the little spoon and I didn't move much until after a while. I didn't really like it but I didn't dislike it. But I much prefer to bottom.

[RobT312]

👍👍

[Lottifan]

What you do is up to you. Just make sure that a condom is used.

[fatcat700592]

Thank you

[Lottifan]

My pleasure mate.

[Guy13]

That is never a good practice. Why did you?

[fatcat700592]

I mostly just went on grindr to see what it was about because I had been on tinder a couple times and I didn't like it. And a few people talked to me and wanted to use me but they found out more about me and didn't like either my distance, body, or lack of a car and left. A mtf Trans person said she would pick me up, and she did. I have a very hard time saying no to people.

[Guy13]

You need to start saying no to people today with all the diseases etc going around.

[fatcat700592]

Thank you very much for your concern but I always ask first if they are clean.

[Guy13]

You know people lie about that kind of thing, right?

[fatcat700592]

Why would they? If they aren't clean a condom will solve the problem.

[Guy13]

Okay. Be safe

[fatcat700592]

Thank you very much I will

[Avicenna]

No way

[fatcat700592]

Can I know why not?

[Avicenna]

Because you shouldn’t let anyone do that sort of stuff to you

[fatcat700592]

Oh I think I said something wrong. Everyone that day just had normal sex with me nothing freaky or kinky.