Should I let my friend go down on me even if I don`t like him that way?

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A friend of mine told me he wanted to go down on me (no sex involved). We`re not great friends so I`m not afraid to ruin our friendship. I told him I don`t like him that way and that I don`t want to have aex with him, he told me it`s fine, all he wants to do is to lick my pussy. I haven` been in a relationship for quite some time and I must admit I really miss having a man between my legs. Should I let him?

Ozanne · Accepted Answer

*Newsflash* Oral sex is still sex. Just because he means he doesn't want to have intercourse doesn't mean this still isn't an act of sex. You're not in to him, you don't want to ruin the relationship - two very good reasons for saying no. He's also NOT being a good friend to try and coerce you in to it anyway by reasoning that he won't "have sex" with you.

And "it's just licking pussy"? An extremely intimate moment that is reserved for two consenting adults who trust, respect, and usually kind of like or love each other? You're friends! If he wanted more from you, he should establish some sort of romance with you rather that try to talk you in to a selfish friends with benefits arrangement that only involved pussy-licking! You might miss having someone down there, so you're willing to sell yourself short to just take what you can get? Aren't you worth more than that?

This is the reason why women are giving the message that we'll just give in to everything now and why some men get crabby if we reject them. It's your pussy and your memory in time to come of what this experience is like. I'd tell him you want sex and more than friendship because that's what having your pussy will cost. Surely you have got enough going on for yourself that you can find a man in a relationship who wants all of you and is willing to give you pussy licking AND sex all without having to ask for it and pressure you in to it like a highschool boy does.

Unersheep · Accepted Answer

I guarantee he's going to try to stick it in after.

NotATotalDouchebag · Accepted Answer

"I cannot understand why he wants to do it, I mean, what does he get in return?"

Some guys just really like doing it—the same way some girls just like giving blowjobs. Personally, I get pleasure out of giving other people pleasure / making other people happy. He may just enjoy it and want the practice.

Lay the ground-rules explicitly—tell him if he breaks them, it's never happening again. If you're not so great friends, then you don't have much to lose.

Jaleel · Accepted Answer

Tbh I wish a girl would give me that opportunity. But if you don't value him enough to care about the friendship, I say go for it.

iamwoot · Answer

No. Of course not. You're just asking for all sorts of issues if let him do that.

Simmo · Answer

I dont see why not, give him a feist lol! Win for both of you

QandAgirl · Answer

No, you should not let him.

Andrew2128 · Answer

If you value the friendship then no but if you're not scared of losing this man as a friend then go for it

123jonhy · Answer

Its OK, all he wants is to make u happy, he cares for u , life taught me one, never let go a person who loves u a lot while we don't love them back, let them do whatever they want to, u will find ur answer yourself, feel safe.