Should I lose my v-card to my 3 month boyfriend?

I am going to be home alone for a while and thought it would be a good opportunity to do the deed. The thing is though I don’t feel that close with my boyfriend which I’ve been dating for 3 months and is my first boyfriend. He actually sees highly of me and I can definitely sense that he loves me but I personally don’t really feel the same way with him. I am pretty interested in sex, you can kinda call me the “horny” type and I’ve been thinking of losing my virginity for a while now. I always waited for the one (not someone I would marry in the future since I’m not thinking about marrying anyone but someone that I truly loved) but lately I’ve been feeling impatient. The thing I’m kinda having a fear about is that I believe that after having sex my boyfriend’s gonna be super clingy and think that we are inseparable or something which I don’t want. What should I do? Should I wait longer?

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1 mo
I decided to wait longer because I wasn’t really sure about my feeling towards him. So in conclusion I broke up with him. Thanks for your advices.
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  • Hmm girl this is tough! I totally get the curiosity about sex, but losing your V-card should really be with someone special I think. If you're already having doubts about your feelings for this guy, it might not be the best idea just yet.

    A couple things to think about - if you do it, he'll definitely catch feelings harder which could make a breakup messier down the line if you're not fully into him. Also it's your first time, so you wanna make sure you're super comfortable with the guy.

    Maybe wait just a little longer and see how things develop between you? No need to rush into anything! If in another month or two you still feel the same way about him, it's probably better to end it before going all the way.

    But if you do decide you really care about him, go for it girl! Just be careful - make sure to use protection and set clear boundaries so he doesn't get too attached. Ultimately do what feels right in your gut. Don't let the horniness make decisions your heart isn't 100% sure about yet!

    • Not a tough decision at all. When we let impatience make our decisions, we’re bound to make bad choices. Ask me how I know.

    • @all_hayl tell me about it, I agree with that

    • You agree? The first thing you said was “Hmm girl this is tough.”

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  • Lol 18 which I believe you are an 18 lady - no advice, and I'm far more innocent and older than yourself (I've been stood up for a date once - far as I ever got lol and ignored flirts from woman at bad timings) anyways - hell if I was the woman in this story, I'd say to hell with the boyfriend and find a better man that I actually cared for. OR if it doesn't matter, as in "losing it or doing it doesn't matter" - why not still dump his ass/arse and have passionate yet indifferent sex with just a long time or short time male friend with benefits - pick of the field lol 🏞️🏞️ farmland, farmland everywhere lol of guys ♂️♂️♂️

    • Ah well. I'm 30 and fine as I am. I never lost it so far, yet do I mind? I'm glad I don't have regrets though... or herpes... or offspring... or whatever worse, like a bad memory A permanent bad memory lol "aka I lost it to a chick I didn't even care for or enjoy" lol says imaginary, glad I never had that regret lol 😆😆

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  • Well, do you love your boyfriend & romantically attracted to him? Personally, I'd wait longer to have sex. 3 months might not be long enough for your heart to decide whether or not you like him that way. Just don't rush anything and take it slow, it is your first relationship, after all. If you rush things, then it might end badly. I know patience is hard, but it's always worth it in the end. Impatience will only cause hurt & disappointment. But if you really do know you don't like your boyfriend romantically, then be honest with him and breakup so you both don't waste time together. And so that way the both of you can find someone that's right for you (AKA the one).

  • No.


    LISTEN TO ME.



    Do what makes YOU! happy.


    Never do something just to make others happy.


    IT does not matter how long you were with your boyfriend, losing your virginity should never NE ABOUT the timing of your relationship.

    Whether you are in a relationship for 3 months or 1 year, it doesn’t matter.

    AS LONG AS YOU ARE MAKING THAT DECISION BASED ON YOU!

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  • If you are having doubts then it's a pretty good sign you should wait. Sex can be seen as a way to bond closer but if you are afraid he is going to become clingy then maybe he's not the one you should be having sex with.

  • If you think this particular guy isn't that interesting, don't simply use him for sex. Men have done t his for millennia. Don't follow in those shallow footsteps.

    Wait for someone you're more into. It'll be better for your first encounter, anyway.

  • May as well hire a professional at that point

  • If you’re leaving this decision to a bunch of strangers on the internet whom you don’t know, then you’re probably not old or mature enough yet to be having sex.

    And frankly, your “but lately I’ve been feeling impatient” statement tells me that you’re definitely not yet mature enough to be having sex. People will say that I’m wrong and that you should go for it. And that’s fine if they say that. The world is chock-full of impatient, ignorant, selfish morons who are quick to give their opinions and give terrible advice.

    In conclusion, it almost sounds like you’ve already made up your mind. Almost. Do what you do, but if/when you later regret it, just remember that one random stranger on the internet who tried to encourage not to let your impatience makes your decisions for you.

    And by the way, I’m speaking largely from experience. I’ve made many decisions out of impatience. Rarely have those situations turned out favorably.

  • It's your choice. Nobody else's.

  • Sigh of ffs! It's... You know what?
    No. You shall remain virgin till you meet God.

    Never feel the awesome feeling of sexuality.

    • I don’t believe in god

    • Till death then. 😒

    • Is that why you’re asking all these random strangers on the internet, from whom you have heard various opinions?

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  • V-cards aren't that big a deal. Trust me you feel the same after you lose it. I used to hold out the same way you did, but mistakes happen in life and it doesn't always go the way you want. If you don't feel close with the guy, then don't do it. But if you want to have sex and maybe create more intimacy, then I say give it a go.

  • You should do that with someone you love and respect and want to be with. The worst thing you can do is follow into the modern women's society where they whore around and then wind up single with a child and miserable. If you want happiness 1 and done works most of the time. Just have to find the right one and you will have an easier time doing that if you remain untainted

  • You can do the deed if you want but if I’d rather dump him first because you clearly don’t have a future with him and then find another guy who you’re actually attracted to

  • I understand you're impatient and in a rush to experiment new things but if you're not feeling the same as your boyfriend I'd suggest you to wait a bit longer.

  • dont go for anything u aren't sure of

    u might regret later

  • Should you? You tell us.

    It depends entirely how you feel about it. And based on the fact you have to ask, the answer is no.

    • And or, it's not the guy that could be better versus the guy that's just, shrug, well whatever. So yeah. There's no such "right guy" however - I also feel it seems that way, to have to ask, does sow some doubt lol

    • As you've said lol 🤣

    • Ah well. I'm 30 so whatever, I'm single bliss and enjoying single life

  • Do you want to continue the relationship? That's the key separate from virginity

  • Go for it.

  • If you aren't ready, don't do it

  • I wouldn't do it if you don't feel close to him.

    • We already broke up but thanks for the advice

    • I'm sorry to hear that. You'll find another guy!

  • dont make virginity a big deal.

    • It’s actually not for me. The question was more towards should I have sex with my boyfriend kinda.

  • Nope

  • After reading everything I think I am the one your are looking for.

  • I think 3 months is a good time to have sex. But only do it if you feel ready and you can stomach the idea of being naked infront of him

    • And what comes during, after and also - "was it worth and worth remembering it" in all contexts and overthinking ways lol. was it. 👌🏻✌🏻

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