Past years, meaning it happened years ago, or is it ongoing over the years? If in the past, it would be hard to prove now so reporting wouldn't likely get you anywhere. However if it's ongoing, you can get a rape test kit and you'll have your proof. If it's just things like touching etc, that's even harder to prove. Get a hidden cam or something maybe? But I doubt you'd have to go to court. But I know you don't want family etc to know, but it's important that they do, and they aren't going to think differently or any less about YOU, and they can maybe help you with the situation as well. Bottom line, I know it's scary and hard, but you can't let this fear run your life. That's how guys like this get away with doing this because the victims are too afraid to report it. Think about it this way, reporting it could stop this from happening to another woman! At least maybe from this guy?
It was ongoing for 3 years. I have proof over the years from the videos he would send me
Oh perfect. Yeah I'd report it.
Yes he need to be punished for wrong! There are to many afraid to speak out, just as your situation! This could lead to him going after younger women and hurting someone in even another way! Ask yourself this question can you live with yourself not doing the right thing if he say hurt a niece who's maybe 15 and she tries to fight or scream and he kills her!
Here's the thing. You have to tell someone. Keeping it bottled up is going to do two things. First, it's going to start making you feel worthless and gross. Neither of which you are. Nor is any of this your fault. Second, your silence will allow the abuse to continue unabashed. When you do tell someone, something needs to be done to remove you from him. Whether that's moving, a restraining order, etc., it has to happen. And your family will find out. Some will be supportive and some will not be. Just ignore the ones who are not supportive. Only you and he know exactly what happened. If you feel it was a sexual assault, then it should be reported. Even if he gets minimal to no time, at least it's on his record.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Did he hurt you? Rape? Or did you give in easily and make out with him?
I am asking because you could treat it as a family matter depending on if it was forceful or not.
What I am suggesting is, you give him chance to explain his abusive sexual assault on you to the family himself.
And depending on your answer to line 1.
Couple years ago he kissed me first and afterwards I blacked out from drinking and months later he showed me videos of me drunk and he was having sex with me. There's another picture he sent me my privates looked swollen like he forced himself on me when I was drunk and I woke up the next morning in pain and bruised. He's manipulative he made me think it was okay and I would have sex with him later on but I would be stressed. I talked to an advocate they told me it doesn't matter if I gave consent afterwards they say I'm still a victim since he did this to me first
I'm really scared because I dont know what he would do if he finds out im trying to report him. I can't even sleep at nights I just cry and want my life normal again. I miss being happy and just want him in jail
I know he wouldn't speak to my family about it he would just blame me for everything even tho I didn't kiss him first. He is also a narcissist
Reporting him will make it all public so if you are ok with that then go for it. If he absused you then that shouldn't matter make him pay the price
Think of it like this: What if he gets worse? What if he hurts you? And I mean really hurts you. Or worse?
Tell your parents first and tell them you want to go to the police. They might want to settle it in-family, but you need it documented and you need a restraining order because he might try to hurt you.
Say to them: "He could hurt me. You dont know him like I do. I need police to have a record of this, and I need a restraining order."
I'm scared I can't tell my family because my dad has cancer i dont want to put more stress on him
Report him to the father
My cousin is in his 40s and im in my mid 20s
Do what you have to do And just do it. Why would you let him touch you sexually anyway you have a fist ball it up and punch him right in the nose
I wish I was strong enough to punch him but he's way stronger than me
He deserves to be reported, but you weren't some innocent and naive minor, so why you didn't refuse his advances is beyond me.
I dont know either and I hate myself for it. I wish I was strong enough to tell him stop I wish I was able to not go out with him at all and it wouldn't have happened.
Hey, don’t hate yourself for what happened but consider seeking help if you think it will help. And stay away from that Cousin.
I hate him I'm trying to seek therapy because i been so depressed and because of him I have ptsd. It sucks when I can't even have time alone to talk on the phone or go to a therapist. My mom isn't letting me go out due to covid and my family is so noisy. Its getting to the point I just feel hopeless. I never thought I would go through this its the worst to ever experience 😥
Your stupid question will be answered I guess number 1, call 911 number 2, go to the police station number 3, call your family and tell what happened number 4, dont go were he is get a hotel or ask for protection for police like why you asking like you know what to do
Its a stressful situation its not easy when my parents are strict of my going home and work only. I'm scared
Call 911 or bring a weapon for self defense I'm sorry if I was straight forward but you should know what to do like kick his nuts 911 that is police he can get in trouble for being a sex offender stand up for yourself
Now let it be if has been a past thing.
You want to report him but fear him being released so
Kill him
bullet in the brain
he is a vile and violent predator
he won't get out of hell if you send him there
You'll be doing a great thing for society
how can u manipulate someone to sex?
if u had sex with him that was u choosing to do it, not manipulation,
its only rape if he forced you
u can't choose to have sex at one moment and then later say “actually i didn't want thag, he raped me” its the choice u made at the second it happened whether it rape or not, and since u chose to do it at that second, its not rape
Unless of course he blackmailed her or something. Manipulation is vague. But it is dangerous to just assume it's false
The first time he got me drunk I blacked out and he had me giving him oral and he was having sex with me. Later on he would send me the videos and I was worried he would use it against me
Yes, you should.
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