Should I stop having sex with him?

[Candykanelove]

I've been having sex with this guy for a year now. We met last year on a dating app. And then we went out to eat and then the second time we saw each other we had sex. And I've been hooking up with him since then.

I notice that he follows models on FB and pages that feature models. Recently I saw he started following this blonde chick. None of these women look like me all of them are skinny. I don't think he's attracted to me. It's as though none of the women he follows on FB look like me. He told me he wouldn't have sex with a woman he's not attracted to. He's also following a bedroom coach.

He's said that I have a cute face but that has nothing to do with my body.

I showed him a position that I thought would be good for riding him. And he said that's something we could try. And then I said you're not used to having sex with a curvy woman. Then he said it's something he'll have to get used to. I just don't know why he would admit he's not attracted to me.

Should I just stop having sex with him since he obviously doesn't like my type?

Should I just stop having sex with him since he obviously doesn't like my type?

Another thing is he asks me if I cum and when I tell him I do. He said women lie about having an orgasm. I think he's just using this as an excuse because he's really not attracted to me.

It also doesn't matter what I'm looking for. Whether or not it's just sex still means nothing. Because sex is physical and this man is seeing me naked. For that reason, it makes sense that I'd want him to be physically attracted to me.

[Anonymous]

Whether you continue to have sex with him or not is a personal choice based on your feelings about the situation. Here’s what I take from your story though. It’s true that a guy will have sex with a woman he isn’t attracted to. The opportunity to put his penis in a vagina is enough for most guys. That said, he has been coming back for more for a year. If he wasn’t attracted to you, he likely would have lost interest by now. I think you’re misreading things. Also, he keeps asking about your orgasm. That shows he is concerned about your pleasure, which is a good sign. I really think you’re overthinking this. He may look at models on FB. Let’s face it, models are tall and proportioned and beautiful but most women do not look like models but they’re still attractive to men. You might not have a model’s body but I feel like he’s attracted to you and wants to keep seeing you naked. Take him at his word.

[Candykanelove]

Yes, I know men can have sex with a woman he's not attracted to. He said he wouldn't have sex with a woman who he doesn't find attractive. I mean whenever I ask if I can come over he usually lets me and we have sex. So maybe he isn't lying about being attracted to me I don't know.

[Opinion Owner]

You might not be his perfect dream girl but I think he does feel attraction to you. I doubt he would have kept things going this long. Besides, him being concerned about your pleasure is a sign he’s not using you. If he wasn’t attracted and only wanted sex, he wouldn’t give a damn if it was good for you or not. I think he likes you more than you know and you’re letting your insecurities get in the way.

[Candykanelove]

I might not be his perfect dream girl? But nobody is perfect everyone has their flaws. He knows that I work out and I'm trying to be healthy for myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course we all have flaws. He may be looking at those perfect bodies on FB or wherever but that’s not attainable for most and I’m sure he’s not perfect himself. He’s probably happy with you as you are.

[Candykanelove]

He's looking at those perfect bodies because they aren't attainable? Yeah well even though bodies aren't even perfect. And he seemed to like my breasts when he first saw them.

[Opinion Owner]

So then why do you feel he’s not attracted to you?

[Candykanelove]

Because he follows skinny models and pages with skinny models on social media.

[Opinion Owner]

That might be his ideal body type but that doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to curvier women. I mean I’m attracted to Jason Momoa. I’d lay down and bear his children if he so much as asked but it’s fantasy. I’m still attracted to other guys who don’t look like him. The models might be his fantasy but you are what he keeps coming back to. Remember that.

[Candykanelove]

If that's his ideal body type then why did he like me on the dating app?

[Opinion Owner]

Only he can answer that for you. Obviously there was something about you that attracted him. Why not ask him if you’re feeling insecure about it?

[DevikaButts95]

If he told you he wouldn't have sex to women he isn't attracted to, evidently he is attracted to you. You need to stop comparing yourself to other women, if he's with you, he's with you. He can also find other women attractive and also still find you attractive as well.

[boggboss]

Wait how do u actually know he is not attracted to you and also does he have the options to get sex elsewhere or do u feel he has sex with u because he can't get the type of women he would want?

[Candykanelove]

I'm saying I don't think he's attracted to me. Because he only follows skinny women on social media. I don't know why he wouldn't be able to get the type of woman he wants. Dating apps have all types of women.

[boggboss]

Then at that I would assume at least to some degree he is attracted to you if he keeps coming back

[Lisia]

I mean he already knew what you looked like.. he could be attracted to you without you being his type. I don't know tbh if there are no strings attached I'm not sure why it really matters that much.

[Candykanelove]

It matters because he sees me naked that should be common sense...

[Lisia]

Yeah but you chose to have sex with someone you're not in a relationship with? He basically doesn't owe you anything. He could like all different types of girls.

[Candykanelove]

You do know that sex is physical and requires you to get naked right? Are you saying you wouldn't want a man you're having sex with to be attracted to you?

[Lisia]

Yes but I only have sex with my boyfriend and I know he is attracted to me. Also I'm pretty sure he is. I'm saying he probably likes all different types of girls.

[ShesRad80]

sounds like on his end he's using you, he can get his, sounds like you want more or expect it to be more? while true sex is physical- if someone just wants to get their rocks off they will take whatever is offered and keep using that person unfort, he can just close his eyes and you could be one of those models you know? for your own sanity and well being move on just stop having sex with him and move on

[Candykanelove]

I'm not sure why you assume he's using me. Do you know what friends with benefits means? It means two people who enjoy sex together that's not using. Did I say I wanted more? Again I'm not sure where you get this from. He can just close his eyes and you could be one of those models you know. Yeah right ok did you read where I said he told me he wouldn't have sex with a woman he's not attracted to? Or did you just skip that part? Sometimes he kisses me during sex.

[ShesRad80]

you are asking random users on here with limited facts we don't have his side of things only the bit you tell us, so you will get different conclusions. you do realize people lie to use others right? if someone wants sex that bad and not getting it anywhere else once in bed with you he could be imagining anyone was my point. you are pretty hostile for some odd reason and to the point of repeating yourself in the post two times the samething? at 36 you're an adult communicate with him because clearly its bothering you that much. you can't get mad at us users when you asked? without communication with him its pointless, you have to talk to him to actually find out, you spoke up and answered pretty much everyone on here, so tell him you need to talk to him about the situation.

[Candykanelove]

I'm not being hostile I'm just saying you don't know if he's thinking about someone else while in bed with me. You're making this up for whatever reason. And there are plenty of skinny and different types of women on dating apps. So it's not hard to find someone else. I'm not sure why you're saying I haven't communicated with him. When I've mentioned several times that he told me he wouldn't have sex with a woman he's not physically attracted to. We weren't naked and in bed when he told me this. We were sitting on the couch fully clothed.

[jshm2]

To be fair, if you've been with him for a year, then you're old meat, and should move on.

[Candykanelove]

To be fair you're just a troll who can't get laid you should probably just off yourself and move on.

[Thumper2thump]

It depends on where you are in your life. If all's you want is a friend with benefits or something more. No woman wants to be a holdover or one of many

[BarryLiverstone]

This seems like the same question you asked today

[Candykanelove]

Get a life you don't even know that a man will have sex with a woman he's not sexually attracted to.

[CubaPirate]

He obviously using you and know that. So yes make it stop you deserve better

[Candykanelove]

He's obviously using me? I didn't know you knew him personally...

[MasterKS]

No, better kick him out!

[Candykanelove]

troll

[MasterKS]

@candykanelove no need to troll you, look at my level! If you take honest opinion as troll enjoy it!

[CcgvbbbbN]

Stop instantly

[Anonymous]

You are asking for advice but also getting a bit defensive with some of the responses. Smh

I get the feeling that you like this guy and deep down want to be with him if you didn't who he fellows wouldn't bother you. You also wouldn't really care if he was sexually attracted to you. Sounds like this guy is only treating this as sex hence the reason for why he has sex with you without having any sexual attraction or feelings towards you and for why you are getting upset.

If you aren't in a relationship he has no obligation to be attracted to you. Most women who are only having casual sex with someone don't give a damn If the guy is attracted to her or not because they are just using each other for sex. Remember guys can and do have sex without the need of having to any attention towards her involved.

[Candykanelove]

It has nothing to do with me wanting to be with him. You can't understand why a woman wants a man to be attracted to her when he sees her naked? It's really not that hard to understand and it's not unrealistic. Which is why he is having sex without any sexual attraction towards me. How do you know he's not sexually attracted to me? There is no way you would know this. He said he wouldn't have sex with a woman he's not attracted to. Did you miss that part?

[Anonymous]

It depends. Do u like the sex or him?

[Candykanelove]

What difference does it make? I like the sexual things we do together.