Should I stop having sex with my boyfriend?

I am a 19 year-old virgin girl and my boyfriend is 22 year-old with experience (at least he tells so). We have been dating for 2 months and known each other for 5 years. We tried to have sex for the first time. At first, we kissed for 3 mins at most and then he undressed me. I have never been a insecure person my whole life, and I have a pretty good body. I always get compliments on how good my body is. I have really beautiful boobs but I have a pretty small mole on my left boob. I always think that it adds a special touch and looks sexy. He was the first guy who has ever seen me naked. When he saw my boob he screamed “what is that?”. I shocked and explained that it is just a small mole. However, during the foreplay he has not given me a single compliment. It really hurt me, it was my first time. Then he immidiately tried to put it in. I was not even turned on. However, he could not get hard. Then he got really nervous and started to pull his dick to get hard. I told him that it is okay and normal. He was also really small. Then he tried to put it in when it was soft but ofc he couldnt. He told me that he put it in but I apparently I can't feel. What the fuck does it mean? I had to tell him to put his dick lower bc he was trying somewhere else. However, after trying 1.5 hours we gave up bc he was soft. I gave him a head to make him hard. He was hard for a while but then he lost it. He did not give me a head or fingered me in return. Then we wore our clothes back and cuddled. Then he asked me if I am telling the truth about my virginity.
It was a horrible first time. I waited so long to have sex with the right person. It is okay that he couldnt get hard. But I felt so unimportant, unspecial and unsexy. He could have give a compliment, tell me that I looked hot, or give me any kind of pleasure. What should I do next? He invited me over.

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  • I can certainly understand your disappointment.

    You need to ask yourself a couple of questions:

    How do you REALLY feel about him?

    Does he have the morals, values, and life-goals you need to sustain a long-term relationship (and did you vet him for these things before you committed to him)?

    No question he made mistakes here, but I'm sure he was also very nervous, and very inexperienced, and that makes everyone kind of stupid. I don't know the guy, and you should certainly know him far better than any of us, so is he a genuinely good person otherwise? If so, and if you have strong feelings for him, then sit him down and talk about it. Let him know that you were disappointed and WHY (and how it made you feel), but don't be overly upset or accusing - just let him know. And then, let him speak. Hear his side. Maybe you won't like his answer at all, or maybe his answer will make you feel a lot better. You don't know until you have the talk.

    Relationships require communication, and back-and-forth, and forgiving some mistakes, because you'll both make some. If you believe he's already a total loss, then dump him and don't bother, but if you think these things can improve - because he's really a good guy who made mistakes - then do the work and get things fixed.

    Things like this are why character (morals and values) are SO important.

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  • Omg sis, I'm so sorry your first time was so awful and disappointing 😞 From what you described, it doesn't sound like this guy really knows how to properly treat a woman or make the experience special for you. A few red flags:

    - Making rude comments about your body instead of compliments
    - Trying to jam it in before you were ready/aroused
    - Not caring that YOU didn't finish/get any pleasure
    - Questioning if you're really a virgin after his failures

    You deserve SO much better for your first time! I know it's hard, but I think you need to have a serious talk with him about how his behavior made you feel unwanted, unsexy, and used. If he can't understand that or make it up to you, is this really the kind of partner you want losing your V-card to?

    You have your whole life ahead of you to find someone who will worship your body, make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world, take their time exploring each other, and make sure you finish too! Don't settle for this jerk. You're so special - don't let him steal your sparkle. There are caring guys out there who will treat you like the queen you are. You've got this sis! 👸

Most Helpful Girl

  • Break up with this guy. He is making you feel bad about your body and is a very inconsiderate lover. He is not worth your time.

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  • Sorry , I had a laugh at that story..

    This guy knows very little about breaking in a virgin.. hahaha , ( sorry ) you need patience , he needs to grow up , he has no idea.

    Piss him off , set him free.

  • Sounds like a lot of disappointment to come up if he doesn't learn quickly.

    You need to get him to enjoy foreplay before he moves onto sex it will also help give him chance to get hard!

  • Unless you have strong feelings for him, your account makes think why are you with him.

    With the mole get it checked for health reasons - not asethetic reasons. It is no big deal to have them removed. I have.

  • Your boyfriend is a wimp. But it shall pass

  • Yes stop it

  • It doesn't sound like you are sexually compatible with that guy.

  • This was pathetic. He’s a piss poor inexperienced lover