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Should I stop trying to be intimate with my boyfriend?

I have a long happy relationship (happy cause eventhough with this problem I'm going to tell you about, we really get along well and we are caring of each other), I love him, but whenever I attempt to be more intimate with him (not sex, just caressing and kissing), he says any excuse and doesn’t allow it. I asked him why and he told me it’s because he “comes” quick. Then he told me I turn him on and that I have beauty in me, but nothing else.

This rejection thing has happened too many times and I feel so bad with myself, I would love to have a great intimate physical time with him, not sex, just a closer moment. I am very flirty with him (no one else, just with him) and he knows I am a virgin and I just want to be with him. He is the only boyfriend I've had, I would love to marry him and lose my virginity with him, I always tell him how beautiful he is (he is handsome) and I touch him and he allows me to touch most of the time, but when I want to go a little further he stops me.

I love him, I'd love him to understand how I feel. We're both between 28 - 31 years old, been together for more than 5 years, we've had intimacy with each other before (not intercourse though) but since some time ago we haven't done anything like that. He and I we're both religious and want to wait til marriage to do something further that line, but I really want to have some playful physical time with him.
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Superb Opinion

  • There are techniques that you can use with him to help his premature ejaculation issues. Offer to explore those with him with no expectation of sex, so he doesn't feel like he disappointed you.

    He can't expect you to remain a virgin forever without him trying to work on his issues. If he refuses to work on them, then you may want to ask him to consider letting you be a hotwife or something. Basically to find another man to help him to stay your sexual needs. It doesn't need to be humiliating for him. He will start off with you naked and then invite the other man to join once your boyfriend cums too fast. The other guy can help him to get you off and make you sexually satisfied.

    Whatever you choose, just know that your desires are totally normal and you deserve happiness.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Have you expressed all of this to him in the way that you wrote this?

Most Helpful Guys

  • Maybe you should stop until you married, intimate might be too much tease for him.

    https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TheTease

  • You need to tell him all of that and tell him you don't care if he cums quickly.

    • I told him I don't care and that I love him, but I don't think it helped.

    • Does he tell you he loves you?

    • Yes, he says it daily.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Have you seen him naked before?

    • Unless he's insecure about his body in some way then I dont know why he's hesitant to even let you get intimate with him.

  • why haven't you and him had intercourse?

  • Why don't you get married?

  • You and him have been together for more than a year now and still no intercourse yet?

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