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Should I tell him I'm a virgin?

He's 21 I'm 19. I know he's not a virgin and he hasn't asked me about it but I can sense that he's gonna try and have sex with me soon. I do care about him and want to have sex with him, but I don't exactly want him to know I'm a virgin. At the same time I'm scared he won't be able to penetrate me and it's gonna be awkward anyway.

I masturbate and I'm used to inserting things up there, but nothing the size of a dick. So yeah that's making me kind of nervous especially considering I'm kinda old to still be a virgin.

Now I'm in a dilemma because I don't want him to know but I'm scared he will find out if we try and are not successful.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Honesty is always the best policy!! If it was me in his shoes, it would encourage me to be extra gentle, and monitor your feelings and state of mind more closely. I dont see any down sides of telling him unless he is one of those guys that dont like virgins, which is unlikely.

  • Yeah in my opinion you should tell him truth. I can understand that it is little bit uncomfortable for you to tell him that you are virgin as he is experienced guy.

    All the best for your first time. 😊

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think you should tell him he's gonna find anyway and it should help because then he should ease you into it or something I don't know

  • Why lie about it? I think it will be like a challenge for him and he will try to get your virginity

  • I think you should tell him when you begin to feel it's going to happen.

    • Thanks for the MHO!

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  • Sex is all about intimate communication. It's all about sharing your secret self. If you can't bear the thought of him knowing you're a virgin, you're not ready for a sexual relationship. Dropping barriers and sharing vulnerabilities is the essence of sex. Tell him, for crying out loud. Then he can help you both through it as a good experience.

  • 1. You are not too old to be a virgin. If the media and the society influenced you this way, then too bad.
    2. You should tell him that you are a virgin, in order for him to know how to act when having the intercourse with you.
    3. Virginity is not something that you should be afraid of or something that a person should dump another for.

    Conclusion: Feel free to tell him that you are a virgin and not be afraid of it.

  • Of course, being a virgin is not a problem, and if you tell him, he will know that his special to you, and believe me, we all love to be special to someone

  • Don't lie

  • He will be successful if you want him to be 😂

  • Yes, if your boyfriend is mature enough he will know to maybe take things easy the first time.

  • Just tell it when he starts talking about sex.
    You might want to read the answer I wrote here: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1178062-losing-ur-virginity-how-painful-it-is-guys

  • you are never too old to be virgin.

  • If he isn't a virgin. hey will likely pick up on the fact you're a virgin. Just tell him up front so he can guide you.

  • Save yourself for marriage?

  • You're a girl, virginity does not matter for you, guys don't care

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  • When it comes to virginity. I recommend telling him so that he knows what he can do and what he can't do. You're not too old to be a virgin either. also I've he knows you're a virgin he can be gentle with your first time and make it memorable in a good way.

  • Yes, be honest. Be firm. Make him prove he take responsibility for his actions by proving he will be there for you through thick and thin until death do you part. Otherwise, he's just looking for the 20 minutes of self gratifying cum dump, and not a lifetime commitment to care, cherish and provide for your needs.
    There are better fish to catch out there. Move on.

  • it's a huge turn on in my opinion

  • You should let him know. If he loves you it won't matter for him, moreover he'll be more sensitive with you and might push it less

  • He needs to know!

  • If he cares about you he won't care you're a virgin. If he knows he will take his time and make it better for the both of you.

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