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Should I tell my boyfriend about my porn addiction?

If this isn't the right topic to put this under I'm sorry.
My boyfriend and i have been together for about a year. About 7 months back we made the deal neither of us would watch porn because it bothers both of us and makes us uncomfortable. But I slowly started to realize I was addicted and couldn't stop, we don't do much sexual things recently because I can't mentally handle it and after that started happening I became more addicted. He's voiced is paranoia and insecurity that I may he watching it and i lied, and I feel terrible.

I've been trying for months to stop. But it didn't work. I've decided to really double down recently and try more things. I got a app to track how long I'm clean. I've put a strong safe search on my phone and computer. I'm dead set on beating this.

But I don't know if I should tell him. If I should try it by myself first and if i relapse to tell him or if I should tell him right off the bat. I'm afraid he'll break up with me or hate me if i tell him and i don't want to lose him. Should I tell him or try and beat this on my own and keep it hidden
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Superb Opinion

  • Time for a reality check.

    Firstly, the desire to procreate is hard-coded into our DNA, and feeling horny and seeking orgasms isn't something to be ashamed of.

    Secondly, 99% of museums and art galleries around the world have artworks featuring nudes. That's because naked people are very interesting to look at. People can admire/perv on sculptures, paintings and photographs as much as they like, and their partner isn't going to get jealous because you can't have a relationship with a sculpture, a painting or a photograph.

    You say you have an addiction to 'porn', but this is actually really vague. (Porn might as well have it's own Dewey Decimal System). Do just like to look at others (like everybody else)? Do you crave for new experiences (like everybody else)? Are you seeking out new ideas on how to have great orgasms (like everybody else should be at some part in their lives)? Or are you fantasizing about sex with other people (which carries many risks)? If it is the latter, then his jealousy is legit, and you need to reevaluate if you two are a good match for each other. However, if you are simply curious and seeking new experiences, then your partner would probably love it if you brought him in to the conversation. Give him the opportunity to join in on the thrill you get from porn, but with him, and explain to him that porn makes you uncomfortable too, but this aspect of it is something that you need to get somehow...

Most Helpful Guy

  • Yes, but don't go into that conversation with the attitude that you were doing anything wrong, because you're not. Talk to him as an equal partner in your relationship and just be honest and straightforward about the issue without shame, guilt, or embarrassment, because you have nothing to be ashamed of.

    • Thanks for MHG

Most Helpful Girls

  • This is an appropriate topic, should you want to leave it here. If not, the only other suggestions I have would be "Dating" or "Relationships". I can leave it here or move it to one you choose, should you wish me to do so.

    Regarding the question, I think you should tell him. You have taken concrete steps to curb your addiction and he will only serve as support to help you though it.

    • Thank you for the MHO!

  • Just watch porn in peace, it's not a big deal. Don't tell him and forget about this topic. Also, "forgive" him if you ever find out he has watched too.
    I don't think yours is an addiction, addiction is when one watched excessively.

    • Whether it's an addiction or not isn't it better to tell him I've been watching it since we agreed not to? I betrayed his trust

    • It's not a bad thing and I think it's a white lie.

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  • Flip the question if this was your boyfriend asking this would u want him to tell u

  • Its completely ok... U don't need to stop watching... There is nothing wrong in enjoying it..

    And it's ok not to tell him...
    Just enjoy ur porn timing and b relaxed.. don't think too much on it...

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  • That’s so dumb. Just watch porn together. You don’t have to quit porn. Just take small breaks. Some people need to watch porn to masterbate. It sounds silly to break up over porn.

  • Tell him. If he dumps you then find someone who does enjoy porn as much as you do.

  • No reason to tell him.

  • Sure it could be a joint hobby lol

  • Just enjoy making yourself cum

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