Should I tell my boyfriend that I’m not getting pleasure from our sexual encounters?

So my boyfriend and I have been together since July and when we first started dating the sex was amazing but it’s slowly going down hill. There used to be lots of foreplay and kissing before hand and now there’s barely anything going on before the encounter. It’s got to wear he inserts himself before I’m wet and it ends up hurting pretty bad for the first couple of minutes until I do get wet but by the time I start getting enjoyment from it he’s already finishing. Do I need to be upfront with him about or just leave it alone and hope it resolves itself. Because I know it can be sensitive subjects when it comes to telling guys you don’t enjoy what they are doing to you.
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  • Yes, and be articulate about it. Don't just be vague and expect him to know what to say. Use examples, in a helpful way. Understand you contribute to the vibe just as much as he does. So approach it like "teamwork makes the dream work" and offer possible micro-adjustments that can actually be implemented with baby steps. Being pragmatic about is the most mature you can be, whatever happens after that is "... and it was good"...(lol)

  • Of course you should

  • Please tell him. 🙏🏻 It is actually a good thing to make a man insecure in the bedroom he will love you harder. No one likes a participation trophy. My ex always told me the truth whether she came or not and it motivated me 10x

  • Yes, you should

  • I would ask him to do things that will give you pleasure first.

  • There should always be talking between 2 people. How else is one going to learn what their partner likes and doesn't like. What turns you on or doesn't. Both verbal and non verbal communication is needed.

  • Yes you should tell him.

  • Yes immedietly

  • He needs to know to finish you first

  • You should, absolutely

  • yes be open and bold.

  • Ask for more foreplay and oral

  • or you could quit spreading your legs

    • You must be 40 year old virgin lol

  • Lordy.