Should I tell my family that I have sexual relations with an object?

[Anonymous]

Ever since I was about 11 I've always had a fascination with objects. I would ask my mom for money so I could go to garage sales to buy more items for my collections, I had a collection of lamps, pillows, vases, cups etc.. (my favorite has always been lamps) by time I hit 14, all my friends were getting in relationships and I just didn't get how. I just dont understand, I can't imagine dating a person or catching feelings, I've tried going on date, hookups anything but I feel nothing towards people. But, I do have feelings for this one lamp. It's gold, with silver flower designs at the base and I can feel the lamp has feelings for me too. I know it might sounds weird but i can just sense an energy, like it has a soul. I've been telling all my friends and family that I just haven't found the "right one" yet, but it feels wrong lying to them. What should I do? Should I tell them?

[caring__1]

Generally, when people ask if they should share something personal with family members, it's usually a cry for help. If they didn't want someone to help them stop, they would keep it to themselves. It's not about complicating your family's life by involving them; it's about seeking professional help if you're not comfortable with the choices you have been making. Don't be quick to judge yourself. You probably found at an early age that this is something you can do to reduce anxiety and stress. Sometimes people will attach feelings to the activity to legitimize it, but I doubt it started with an emotional connection. The key is not to be critical of yourself and tell yourself to stop doing it but learn to understand it. Identify what needs are being met by this activity and then explore other alternatives that might work as well or better. When you're uncomfortable with a habit, it's not about stopping, but replacing with an effective alternative.

[God_of_Thunder]

Incidentally, that is called "Objectum Sexuality" and it is a legitimate condition/disorder.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Object_sexuality

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-019-56449-0

It's not harmful, as far as I can tell, but as it has been linked with autism, then it may be worth mentioning to your family, or at least getting yourself checked out. I don't mean because of your attraction to objects, necessarily, but just to make sure there are not bigger, more serious underlying issues that you should be aware of.

[On_cloud_wine]

Interesting

[CrazyGirl2]

Look, is it any different to having sex with a dildo/pocket rocket (or flesh-light for guys)? Maybe not? But I don’t think that anyone actually LOVES their dildo, or believes their dildo loves them back! I know that we are not supposed to “judge” anyone or anything, but when I read this, I honestly believe that this girl needs professional help! It’s not judging, it’s just genuine concern for a fellow human being. This is a VERY atypical paraphilia, and I really hope she gets the help and care she needs.

[psychoticanimallover]

Make sure you unplug it first.

[Red_Arrow]

Maybe a shocking experience will cause her desires to become more acceptable.

[Quackthulu]

Let me get this straight... You are a legal adult asking if you should tell your family that you masturbate? Why?

[On_cloud_wine]

Doesn’t sound weird to me! I think you have a mutual connection with a friendly ghost. Some spirits attach themselves to objects. I sage the air in all rooms to purify them especially if I buy something used.

[Cherokeehp]

Don’t tell them that, for your sake. I doubt anyone would understand and if you were my family we’d all clown you for it.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[AndyOh]

Some things are better left unsaid... and this is one of them.

[wittymilf]

I think I’d keep that one to myself, have you googled it? It’s a real thing. But I think, just like how some gay guys get married to fit in, you could have a human relationship as well.

[DanaeAdam5]

No, this doesn't concern them

[Gwenhwyfar]

It can’t return your feelings

Tell you what. Go hump your pillow till you cum. If you still have feels for this lamp after that, seek professional help.

[Asker]

I can't hump my pillow. It feels like I'm cheating. Before I got the lamp, I have tried a pillow but it just isn't as good. I didn't have a connection to it

[Gwenhwyfar]

Good luck Do you have Asperger’s Syndrome?

[Asker]

Thank you, I'm not sure. Maybe I do

[Gwenhwyfar]

Why don’t you follow me. I may know someone you can talk to.

[TeeBar]

Hey, what ever floats your boat that does annoy or harm others is all OK.
That said, do not talk about you kink except to a therapist. as people will be rather weirded out.

[SavageGirl101]

Ewww get help psycho

[Rippersavage]

Ur an objectophiliac

U can tell them if u want but they'll probably not understand, at least not truly. If ur lucky it may take them sometime and some getting used to for them to accept u for who u are. But fair warning tho, u might lose a couple friends (or all of them) and maybe some family.

[93_n_on]

What. The. Fuck. Trolling?

[Wise4myage]

No, keep your freaky behavior to yourself.

[Quidthonian]

I would keep it to yourself. You could be introverted, (you get your "energy" from being alone). Unfortunately, we live in an introvert's world: they think that everybody *must* be in a relationship. I call BS on that. Everybody has the right (to a degree) to live as they see fit. It is not a crime not to be married by 18. (Excuse my exaggeration to make a point).
I learned about my introversion a few years ago. It changed my life.
As for the sexual relations with an object: I have too little information give advice. I am single myself, and I do use a sex toy every time I have urges. I don't see anything wrong with that.
I don't seek out relationships: to me they take "too much work". As an introvert, I would want to invest my energy very slowly. I need to get to know someone deeply. There also needs to be reciprocity.

[bulltaker]

They probably won't understand, so keep it to yourself, I can see how a lamp would work, of course, I have a mental picture of a vase, wow

[JohnSmityJohnson]

What the actual fuck?

[Pete671]

Don't tell them, it's a private thing, and none of their business, only yours,,,

[Twalli]

You have problems. Things need a brain to have feelings. Your lamp doesn't have one. Smaller animals such as snakes that have brains don't have feelings as you describe.

[Valnac]

Just fuck the thing and don’t tell anyone.

[Quietbuzz]

Just keep getting off just don't forget to put your semen in a woman eventually

[GAGSucksBalls1]

Have you talked to a therapist about this

[Arsanel]

If this is not trolling, You should understand that those are just your hobbies and interests.

[Anonymous]

No need to tell them about this.

[Anonymous]

I think that's beautiful. I feel the same way about an old baseball glove. We are very happy together.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that telling them will get the reaction you are hoping for. But developing an emotional attachment to an inanimate object is not healthy. And maybe if you tell them they can help you get the professional help that you need.

[Anonymous]

You could tell them, but I promise they will not understand. You have objectum-sexuality, which is common among people with autism, but very rare otherwise. I don't believe you will receive any benefit from telling them.

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice :)