Should I tell my roommate I'm gay?

Im not sure whats the right thing here. When she walks around in her underwear i can't not look and i feel guilty. If she knew the truth about me she probably wouldn't want me seeing her half naked.
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didn't expect this many answers. Thanks. I dont think im going to tell her outright but give ahint in that direction.
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Can all the people suggesting i sexually assault my friend kindly go fuck themselves? Seriously take a cold shower you idiotic perverts!
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  • Y'all sleep in the same room?
    Or do u feel like u like her?

  • I think you should tell her.

  • If seeing them like that is arousing to you then yes I think they have a right to know.

  • Maybe when talking to her in normal conversations let her know your sexuality.

  • Does it turn you on seeing her?

    • Yes it does sir

    • @RayJayBlaze then tell her how you feel. I would kinda have a line ready “I have a girl I really like” so she won’t think your into her.

    • Hahahahaha

  • Don't tell her. SHOW her. Tomorrow morning, wake her up with cunnilingus.

    I think my roommate might be gay.
    I think my roommate might be gay.
    • No way. I had a gay roommate once and that would be terrible.

    • @Robertcw Your roommate snacking on your sniz without your consent?

  • You do know that being gay does not make you a rapist or a molester, right?

  • OK, look, when I lived with my ex, we shared the appartment with our roommate, whom was straight, a professional dancer/choreographer (like my ex), and owned her own fitness company.

    Obviously she knew I was a straight male, and obviously i was with my ex, but both her and my ex were very comfortable around me, hell we joked it was like three's company and I was Jack Ritter. The point is, I knew I wasn't going to do anything, she knew it, and my ex knew it. Sexuallity isn't some rampant uncontrollable thing, if it were everyone would be out fucking and masturbating in the streets (though I have seen that in my days).

    The only one that can decide if you should tell her is you, and it's nice that you are concerned because it shows respect for her as your friend and roommate.

  • If you can manage and conceal your desire, don't tell her. If you want to be discreet.
    It's what I'd do with a female roommate I was not involved with.

    • If you want to LOOK, be discreet.

  • Just be honest with her. If you have feelings you must be honest

  • I like the idea of dropping hints. But I feel like a good way to assist would be to buy her a bathrobe. It's might take some explanation that you don't want her being uncomfortable around you and I think that might help. Good luck with it.

  • I think she knows damn well you're staring at her and she likes it. She's trying to get YOU interested. Enjoy a few cocktails to loosen up and see what happens. Please post pictures or a video!

  • I don't know but at least you respect her so that's a good thing. Lots of lesbian women wouldn't be that considerate. Or they'd think she owed them a date or something.

    • Describe "lots"😕 I am a lesbian and i only know one other besides me. So im kinda skeptical you personally know "lots" of asshole lesbians. But thanks for your answer anyway.

    • I didn't say I personally knew them. I do read their posts online on a regular bases. The problem is they're lonely , on the margins often can't find a mate. Then here come the "social justice" crowd filling their ears up with everything they want to hear about how oppressed they are and how people are "bigots" etc. Next thing you now they're waving the hammer and sickle and ready to loot , burn, subvert or what ever else they can do. Sadly the communists don't actually support them they just want boots on the ground doing as much damage as they can, they'll kill them all come the revolution.

    • Ok nevermind.

  • just tell her you are gay, your life would be much lighter without having to keep it a secret from her, at least telling one person means you can be yourself around one person, if she trips about it, then she's a bitch amd if anything you always have people here you can be yourself with, cause some people here dont care how you are 😁😂

  • She should know for sure. But definitely gently tell her since it's not exactly your first day together. For future you should tell people right away. I'll give you an example you can follow if you'd like.

    "Hey I need to talk to you about something. It's not so serious, but the main thing is I don't want to make you feel uncomfortable. I'm sorry for not letting you know this sooner, but I never saw a right time and I'm sure you can imagine how awkward it is for anyone to mention this knowing the person they tell will never look at them the same again. Anyways, here it is... I'm gay. It makes me feel pretty uncomfortable when you're in your undergarments because it kinda turns me on. I just thought you should know. Sorry and thanks for listening to that. I know it's probably weird."

  • Make her your gay lover.

  • I think telling her is the right thing to do.

  • no. nor should you keep it a secret. just go on living.

  • Tell her you're not comfortable seeing her half naked. If she asks for a reason tell her ", I don't play for your team. " Most girls usually knows what that means without you having to bluntly tell them.

  • The truth will probably come out and when it does she will feel betrayed that you didn't say anything sooner. Honesty is the best policy

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