Should I tell my wife I’m bisexual?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never mustered the courage to tell my wife I’m bisexual and don’t know if I should. We’ve had a great marriage and sex life but every so often I can’t help but think of sucking cock or getting fucked in the ass. I love giving bjs but haven’t had the opportunity recently so I often suck my favorite dildo in private and eat my cum when my wife’s not around. I also love fucking my ass with it. I wish I could share this side of me with her but when I’ve hinted at stuff like anal play she says stuff like “I always knew you were a fag” or “you’re such a homo” and laughs. We have a beautiful family and great sex and are generally pretty happy. I don’t want to lose what we have but if my wife knew I was bi everything would come crashing down. I’m just worried one day she’ll catch me jerking off to gay porn and that’ll be the end of it. I’m fine keeping this a secret for the sake of our marriage and family. I love her and don’t want to lose what we have.

[9Livezzz]

Well if that's the way that she jokes around then that's not bad. I don't know how your wife is personally. I say go for it, tell her. Who knows, maybe it'll be something you both can enjoy together. Maybe find a way to make it seem to her like you want to add some spice to your sex life. Then ask her how would she feel about having a 3some with another guy or if she would think it would be hot if she saw you give a blowjob. If you both drink at all maybe try telling her after you both are a little buzzed or something. If she it totally against it then just blame it on being drunk 🤣🤣 Or if she jokes again calling you gay or something answer back saying some days I am gay you want to join 😉

[Berethor]

Do you have children? and it looking like your wife already started to notice your gayness.

[Asker]

Yes we have kids

[Berethor]

You should told her the truth from the start, but at that point it seems to be too far gone.

[EmilyKissing]

Easy answer, yes.

Hard answer, watch some stuff about it. Like TLC on tv and then ask what she'd think about it if you were in a joking manner. Then see how it goes yourself from there.

[Neko911]

So she's a bitch and calls you rude names for gay people?

[Asker]

She says it jokingly although I wonder if part of her knows and it’s her way of dealing with it

[Neko911]

That's not funny though. So it's not really a joke

[Ogopogo]

Obviously it makes her uncomfortable and she is trying to deflect it with some levity while also sending a signal to back off. He is asking her to do something he knows she doesn't want to do, and which really has nothing to do with sex at all, because her body has no means of providing it to him in a way that is mutual. It's nothing but kink as far as she's concerned. Her fingers are no different from a sex toy in this regard, and if he is asking more than once for her to use her mouth then he is insulting her pretty profoundly. In a way it's not far from asking her to sign on for the nasty end of a cuckold fantasy, where she is the stand-in for someone else who isn't even a woman. So yeah it kind of is funny, because the female body isn't for that, and he's trying to insert unwelcome depravity into a marriage. If this were about him being bisexual he would be asking her if he could spend more time with specific men, or if he could date men, or something that involves human beings. What he wants is not other men but cock, even if it's simulated cock from his wife. No, what we are talking about here is nagging at a spouse for frivolous and unwelcome kink.

[frostwalrus]

Honestly, no. She'll lose respect for you as a man and thus, she'll lose sexual interest in you.

[In_Trance]

she's probably wanna know that little tidbit... smh

[JennieF]

You probably should.

[Yellovv]

Does your wife know something about it?

[Asker]

Not sure. One time she found some dick pics on my phone and told her sister (who I’m close with) but never mentioned it to me

[Yellovv]

What you can do if she accept that but she cheat you with another man?

[Anonymous]

People, don't feed the troll.

[Anonymous]

you shouldn't tell her, she won't understand