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Should I tell ny boyfriend that I need to lose some of weight before having sex with him for the first time?

I used to be a great athlete and have a sexy body. However, after covid, i stopped going to the gym for 2.5 years and gained 10 kg. I’m not comfortable with my body, that’s why I don’t want to have sex with my boyfriend now. I need at least to lose 6 kgs before letting him see my body for the first time. So what can i do? Should i tell him the truth about why I can’t having sex with him now? Or should i have sex with him even though i know i will not feel comfortable with how my body looks, or should i just work on my body and go to the gym and just creates another unreal excuses for why I cannot have sex with him now?
Yes, tell him the truth that u need to lose some weight before having sex with him
Vote A
Don’t tell him that as it will be a huge turn off and he will thinks u r insecure
Vote B
Be smart, create another excuses for not having sex with him without telling him the real reason ;)
Vote C
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  • Your body your choice.


    But coming from a guy. He already likes you as you are and clothing doesn’t hide one’s figure nearly as well as you ladies think. Unless you are using shape wear and such. He will be fine with it. I think the whole idea of the first time has to be super special is just silly. Sex between to people in love isn’t about the number on the scale or the venue. If the mood strikes go for it. There is plenty of time to lose weight. If the relationship is legit he will be into you now and still into you when your loss the weight.


    What if he likes the little bit of weight on you?

  • He probably does not even care if it means he is going to have sex. Don't overthink it. Good for you to want to loose weight but do not put your sex life and great orgasms on hold until it happens. If you are still wanting to wait maybe give him some great handjobs... guys love them!!

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  • Women are sometimes too consumed with having the perfect weight. If any woman stands in front of a guy naked and ready to have sex he’s not going to refuse. If you feel you’re too heavy for sex then really you’re the one that has the problem. I’m sure you look fabulous with or without the extra weight. So don’t worry about what you look like and just be in the moment🙂

    • Thank u 💘💘

  • I’m sure he thinks you’re beautiful as you are (otherwise he wouldn’t be dating you?) It’s totally your choice at the end of the day, but I say just go for it.

  • None of the above. Have sex with him. Or, tell him you're not confident about your body. He will tell you it doesn't matter and he'd be right. That doesn't mean don't continue on your journey of self improvement, but I think you'll find he'll find you sexy regardless.

    • Thanks dear 💙💙

  • If you have gained 10kg I am sure it is visible on your body. And he is still your boyfriend is enough to know that he still loves you the way you were when you started dating.

    I think you shouldn't keep any secrets. You never know if likes the way you are right now. Many guys like thick girls.

    If you're uncomfortable go tell him about how you feel about your body. And he would either wait to have sex and motivate you to lose weight or he will accept you as you are.

    In both scenarios, you'll be the winner.

  • No harm in that! If he cares about you he would understand, and even help you reach your goals in weight loss.

  • Yes, bit don't close the door on other forms of sexual intimacy like oral.

  • Although, I'm sure he is dating you because he thinks your sexy already. My wife is doing the same thing. She gained some weight over the holidays and now she put herself on oral restriction. I try telling her it is ok but she insists on punishing herself until she loses the weight. She says that motivates her.

  • Only if you would not be offended if the shoe were on the other foot.
    How about suggesting a workout plan or diet for health / healthier lifestyle?

    • Hmmm. I’m already going to the gym but it’s my first month and i need at least 3 months to see good results :)

    • Good for you! It’s never a bad time to get started. Suggest he go with you. It’s always easier to get and keep a workout plan going if you have a partner or partners to keep each other motivated when we aren’t feeling like it.

  • You will end up losing him.

    • Any solution?

    • Suck his dick for the time being

    • @Jmmmfi4 My man!

  • C. Keep bullshitting! You did it to your body and blamed covid after all..

  • I voted B. I would have sex with him. Once you started fucking, you won’t even think about your weight and your boyfriend won’t either. Just enjoy the orgasms.

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