Should I trust him? Should we leave things as they are & just remember it for what it's been?

I met this guy on an online chat about 2 months ago. Long story short we were both (23) horny & started chatting heavily sexual from the beginning of our conversation... it lasted few days longer than expected & after a few days we began calling each other through the app & actually got along & began talking almost everyday after that. We have spent hours talking about our lives & general things & obviously sexual... and have both acknowledged that we enjoy each other as friends as well. We've never sent each other pics or moved on from the app where we met even after he's asked me to but I've declined. Here's why... although I love talking to him & he's really been kind & ultra respectful since the beginning I worry that we started things out wrong & also that I shouldn't trust to send a stranger my pics/ cell... our feelings have been a mixture of lust & friendship & he tells me he cares about me & isn't only chatting with me for the sex chat but I also can't help but feel that it might be b. s & I also don't know how I even feel that I've done something like this with a random stranger online. Once we realized we kinda liked each other we tried to keep it strictly sexual & talking less otp... but that only lasted a few days before we were talking again... also what if we aren't physically attracted to each other & I have all these what is that im not sure..
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Also we live in two different countries & he only comes to the U. S. for few months of the year.
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  • Just remember it for what it has been and cut the contact.

    Even though he will seem polite on the surface, sooner or later, he will push you to show him pictures and you will give in. Perhaps not today nor tomorrow but eventually you will. What then?

    This "romance" is not going to last and you know it. What will happen with those pictures? Exactly, they will find themselves in the depth of a dark revenge porn site like most of those nudes do. You can never ever trust a guy not to do it.

    The other thing that may eventually happen is that he will try to misuse your trust for something else. Perhaps he found the perfect person in you to apply for a green card in the US. This is just one of the possibilities. Unless you know this guy inside out, do not trust him with anything confidential. Never.

    • I hear ya fr. I mean he's never asked for nudes, he's only ever suggested we move to communicating through our social medias where we would talk more freely & obviously see each other on more personal level. I've been honest & expressed that I feel like he's using me just for the phone sex...& he told me multiple times that he respects me & I'm wrong... before expressing this I tested him & while on few calls would be very sexual & flirtatious... & he's kept the conversation going for hours and then later told me how he's been very turned on but also wanted to have a real conversation with me.. & that I amke him happy when we talk. etc.. so I don't know... I feel like of he didn't care he wouldn't go through all that trouble... I just have very contradicting feelings towards him... I don't know

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  • I think you should carefully (and guardedly) give it a chance. People meet online these days. Not unusual.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It takes two to tango you both did it you should’ve thought about this in the beginning why can’t you fix it?

    • Honestly I took it as a joke in the beginning... and even whe he first asked me to call I didn't think we'd actually get along... & stay in contact this long... I just thought I'd block him or me after a week or 2... & the jokes have lasted longer & longer lol...& now I don't know what I want or should do

    • You both seem to like each other you’ve already gone this far continue on and hope for a relationship

  • Youvfirst need to be sure what you want, then decide if he wants the same (or ask him).

    • Agreed i mean. He's asked me what would it take to give me his number & he's been very clear that he likes me & wants to feel like I'm his & things... etc. Etc. & I'm the one who doesn't know what I want tbh.. im a very logical person... ik I like talking to him & we always just have a good time & he encourages me to do things in my life etc.. logicallly speaking I just don't know that I should trust him... even though he hasn't given me reason not to... I told him this when he said he felt like he was developing feelings for me & he said he understood.. & that it was always going to be up to me... after that we decided to talk less on the phone ( through text we're very flirty & sexual.. but when. We talk on the phone we're deep & talk about our lives et. c) ... & weve kept our phone calls down to just phone sex.. but when he have phone sex.. we have fun & then end up catching up & talking for hours & jist feeling all the feels.. again...& I just don't don't know

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