Should I write him after a one night stand?

[Anonymous]

I just recently travelled to Chicago for a friends wedding. While there I had a one night stand with a local. I have never had a one night stand before and it was a drunken mistake, although he was a nice guy. The next morning we had sex again, but after that I was disgusted with myself and also had wedding related things to. Being my awkward self, I hastily, got dressed and asked him did he need a ride to his place, without any explanation or further convo. I have been thinking about it since and I think I was extremely rude. I know I may never see him again but should I apologize for my behaviour? Or just leave it?

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like you're feeling a lot of guilt and shame about what happened. It's understandable to feel that way after a one night stand, especially if it was something you didn't plan on doing. But it's important to remember that you didn't do anything wrong. You were drunk, and you made a mistake. It's not fair to blame yourself for that.

As for whether or not you should apologize to the guy, that's up to you. If you feel like you need to apologize to clear your conscience, then go for it. But don't do it because you think you owe him something. You don't. He was a willing participant in what happened, and he knew the risks.

The most important thing is to learn from your mistake and move on. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just focus on taking care of yourself and making better choices in the future.

[Summeroflove]

This is why you shouldn’t do something like this. The fact that you’re disgusted shows you still have morals. Learn from your bad choices.


I think you should be honest and tell him how you feel. That you feel it was a mistake and it’s best you go your separate ways. If you feel bad for the way you treated him or something you did then yes apologize.



The fact you feel bad and disgusted again tells me there is still good inside or you. It’s not that case with everyone here.

[Anonymous]

Sure write a letter or text message!

Sure he felt the same way after! Maybe wants to be more how romantic would that be!

Why did you want sex drunk in a different country?

[kylee2437]

Sure why not apologize. You never know what may come out of it. There’s no harm done when you are genuine intent

[richardcory]

No reason at all for you to apologize. You don't need to contact him unless you do want to try to see him again.

Don't feel bad about what you did - sounds like no one got hurt, and maybe you enjoyed some of it.

Life is made up of experiences, some great, some bad, some just different.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I think it would be quite big of you to apologize if you think you were rude. Whether that's the man of your dreams or not, at least then he won't wonder if your behavior, assuming you WERE rude, had anything to do with him.

[Alex-Snow]

Only if you want to hookup with him again

[peterrezeeek]

did he offered it in the 1st time or u did?

[Jmmmfi4]

Leave it

[negrl4a69]

Nope