Should the man have a say in whether the girl he impregnated gets an abortion?

My roommates friend dated this guy for a week. She claimed to be on the pill and that she takes it “religiously” and therefore he proceeded to cum in her during the duration of their relationship.

However, in the month of January, she took the pill only 5 times meaning she lied to him, in fact she lied to him TWICE about it. She’s now pregnant and doesn’t believe in abortion and is threatening to ruin his life— get him fired if he doesn’t “step up and man up.”

His reasoning for her to consider an abortion is that they’re not in a relationship and they’re not ready, both very spot on things.

I personally agree that she should get an abortion, she’s only 2 weeks along and it would just be a pill that she takes but she’s insistent.

Should the guy have a say in this? Isn’t it his future kid too?
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I am aware that LEGALLY the answer is no. I’m talking about from a moral standpoint. I personally believe that she should take in account that he doesn’t want this and instead of forcing him to be the dad he should have the right to say that he wants no part of this and for that to be ok. She’s making this decision w/o him and he’s already told her that her having the baby does not change the fact that he doesn’t want to be with her or be around. I don’t think he should have to pay child support
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  • Why is this a question? Men have NO REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS.

    Yes, he should have a say. But today's Culture loudly says, "My Body My Choice". If he has no say, HE should say "Your Body, Your Problem". Shouldn't there be repercussions for HER irresponsible handling of HER Birth Control AND her lying? By the way, did you tell him about your Roommates lie?

    If she chooses to completely disregard ANY input from him, she should automatically accept ALL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE UNBORN CHILD... INCLUDING FINANCIAL SUPPORT.

    • It’s my roommates friend, I have no idea who he is and have no way to contact him.

  • It's clear both of them are not ready to be parents

    I say being aborted is better than having a miserable life just because your parents suck at parenting

    • I agree!!! I wish she would consider it

    • She is blinded thinking that it's easy to raise a child You need to make her understand the consequences Plus she's has to go through all the pain to give birth to child Only for her and the child to suffer You need to find a way to make her understand this

    • She won’t even tell her parents. She says abortion isn’t an option and to stop talking about it like it is so I guess she’s gonna have this baby. Smh.

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  • I mean ultimately they can have a say but legally he doesn't. I do think though that because she lied to him she got pregnant on PURPOSE, this is absolutely manipulative and disgusting- so he should get to decide whether or not he wants to be in the Childs life. yes they had consensual sex but he did not sign up to be lied to. He needs to get a lawyer or something.

    • I wish I knew his name so I could tell him!!! It’s not my place to interfere, but I think he deserves to know :(

    • Find him and tell the truth. In a criminal case if you know about the crimes and don't inform the police you could be charged as an accomplis. You may be a good friend if you participate in this crime but will you be a good person?

  • He can put his two cents in, but the woman has the final say.

    Although, I do wish if the father doesn't want the child and the mother does, then a document should be available stating he doesn't have right mir obligation to the child. Seems like it would equal things out.

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  • He’s already had a say, right? She makes the final decision.

    • This would have been prevented if he’d had worn a condom.

  • Nope.

  • Nope. Not at all unless if she deigns to give him a say.

  • If you fuck somebody for a week straight, that's not dating. That's an extended hookup.

    • I should’ve been more clear. They talked for 2 months and were official for a week but he wanted to see other people/wasn’t ready for a relationship. The question is about the abortion though.

    • It sounds like she may have tricked him into getting her pregnant. But it's still the woman's absolute right to decide if she wants an abortion (read the Serpico case). The good news is that most employers don't give a fuck if you get somebody pregnant (in some states they legally CAN'T give a fuck), so her threat is bullshit.

    • She spoke to his boss already and he said that if he doesn’t step up he wouldn’t allow someone like that to work for him. She’s crazy.

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  • I think the law is moraly right here. It's her body and an abortion can have effects on her. At the end the guy had sex with her without condoms so that was a decision. She lied to him but he knew about the risk of this possibility as well. Hope for the two they find a solution.

  • A say, yes, the right to decide, no.

    Also, she's not "two weeks along", that's not a thing, so I guess you're making this up.

    • She’s claiming she’s 2 weeks along. I’m definitely not making this up.

    • I wish I were, she’s crazy.

    • Sounds like it. How late is her period?

      "How soon can you take a pregnancy test?

      You should wait to take a pregnancy test until the week after your missed period for the most accurate result.

      If you don’t want to wait until you’ve missed your period, you should wait at least one to two weeks after you had sex. If you are pregnant, your body needs time to develop detectable levels of HCG. This typically takes seven to 12 days after successful implantation of an egg.

      You may receive an inaccurate result if the test is taken too early in your cycle."

      www.healthline.com/.../five-signs-to-take-pregnancy-test

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  • He has had his say. She is choosing to ignore him. He can't force her to abort. He's partially at fault for not wearing a condom whilst in a casual thing.
    He has to be there for his kid.

    • He was under the impression that she couldn’t get pregnant because she said she was on the pill but I agree.

  • Yes, but because men do not get a say, they should not be hit with child support or be seen as horrible people for not raising kids they get no say in. Makes no sense.

    • I agree.

  • since he doesn't carry the child of course not.

  • I think YOU should stay OUT of their business. You just THINK you know. Butt out.

    • I think YOU misunderstood the question. No need to be rude here.

    • Telling you to mind your own business is rude? Got it. Not only are you a butt-in-ski, but dumb as hell to boot. STAY THE FUCK OUT OF IT. Is that clear enough?

    • I don’t understand why you’re being so aggressive toward me and insulting me but I don’t appreciate it. I’m not interfering in their issues by asking about people’s opinions on it here.

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  • The guy should absolutely have a say in it. That woman is straight up entrapping him.

  • She should be prosecuted for fraud and locked up. That would be fair.

  • He should not have a say, but she should be required to tell him..

  • no. It's not his body, he has no right to control over it.

  • Yes, he should.

  • Of course he should; how did she get pregnant, by immaculate conception?

  • It is also a part of him. The baby i mean.

    • I understand what you mean. If he doesn't want it then yeah she can decide. But what about if she doesn't want but he does?

  • I believe so, yes.

  • She did worse than lie to him. What she did borders on rape.

  • Wow I can't believe he listened to her if you dont want and babies always bring your own condoms

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