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Should you tell your partner that you have lip herpes? Is lip herpes a redflag?

I heard that any kind of herpes is stigmatized in america. I have lip herpes since i was a little kid and i thought it is normal like having pimple since it is very common where i live. I just learned that any kind of herpes even lip herpes is associated with sexual transmitted diseases by many people in america which does not make sense to me since i am from a very conservative family or culture in which people wait till marriage. So i dont understand why I have it.

In short i have never ever thought it could be an issue or it could be worth mentioning to your potential partner. Now i am thinking of mentioning it. I ask this question after reading some reddit posts that complain about their partner who did not tell that they have lip herpes. I am kinda shocked that it may be an issue since I thought everyone have it like they have a pimple
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It is redflag to have lip herpes
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It is not a redflag to have a lip herpes
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  • Not that herpes HSV1 or 2 is that big a deal but as it is so easy to pass on orally and to the genitals then yes you should tell him, and tell him to educate himself on it, they will get it anyway no question.
    While the main 2 variants of herpes are nothing to woery about, if someone has a compromised immune system it vecomes more of a concern and it can cause more serious issues, such as eye problems or even brain damage. So yes it is important to divulge that information to a new partner.

    • Thanks for the MHO Regarding your update, there is no way to prevent transmission of herpes at all.

  • The problem with oral herpes is that it can be transmitted to genitals, so you should definitely let your future partners know about it.

    Here in Europe oral herpes is not really seen as a "sexually transmitted disease", since you can catch it from virtually any contact: I've gotten mine from my mother.
    I do tell people about it, and it has never really been a problem for me.

    The US may be different though.

    • Thank you for informing me. Wow i did not know oral herpes can be transmitted. I thought oral and genital herpes is not the same. Is there any way to avoid spreading the herpes? it may sound stupid but i am kinda shocked it is sexually transmitted disease. I have it since i was a little kid

    • Wow i did not know oral herpes can be transmitted to genitals***

    • Herpes is not strictly a sexually transmitted disease, that's why. It can be transmitted to virtually any part of the body through soft tissue or skin wounds, my ex had herpes on her cheek, for example. And before latex gloves became the norm, dentists would often get herpes on their fingers through cracked skin on their fingers- it's THAT infectious. I'm afraid you can't prevent spreading herpes once you have it, it also transmits through skin cell shedding, so you can still be infectious even while you don't have any sores on your lips. Minimizing contact with other people while you do have sores on your lips is still the safest bet. That's when the herpes is most infectious. The benefit is, once you contract herpes it usually stays localized where the initial infection happened, and you usually can't get it anywhere else.

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  • I'd say tell your partner, but not right away. Wait until your very serious down the road a bit, or at least until you plan on kissing and making out a lot. If your very conservative that could be awhile down the road anyways.

    To not say anything, sooner or later they will find out when you have an outbreak and not understand what is going on, or if they get it from you feel like you weren't honest.

  • In America, that would be considered a red flag and most people associate it with sexual activity.

    • A person would be very upset if they had kissed you and then started having breakouts on their lips. It’s not something that everyone has.

  • I really dont know any thing about them. But as I was reading your post I felt something when you were younger did you get sick. pretty bad.. and also when you notice them are you hot or running a temperature

  • We call it coldsores I'm the UK or the nickname is "the Kissing illness" it has no serious stigma attached to it. It's an illness where when it's not active it's probably not going to be transmissible.

  • Reverse it, wouldn't you want to know?

    • I would not even care about it since i did not know it could be an issue since it was like a pimple for me. I think people who want to know should ask it since there are enough people who dont even think about mentioning it. I personally would tell it now but i would not do if I did not find out that there are people who care about it. I know enough people who also think it is not worth mentioning

    • At least where i live it is very common and too many have it lol. I did not even know that there are people who did not have it

  • Well I know that canker sores are a type of herpes, so technically everyone has had that type of herpes.
    but the word itself definitely has a negative connotation so if you go around telling people you have mouth herpes, people are gonna be turned off and assume it was sexually transmitted.
    if it’s contagious, it’s definitely something you need to tell people

  • You ever seen "Adam ruins everything"? According to him 90% of people have it.
    I don't really worry about it because I don't sleep with anyone, kiss anyone, or drink after anyone. So I'd imagine my odds of getting it is very slim regardless of how prevalent it is.

  • Shit I just learned harpes is caused by a virus and is incurable. Wtf. We have vaccines for covid.

  • You have lip herpes and you didn't tell me...

    • What? Hahaha

    • I have it since i was a baby lool

    • WHAT NO WAY

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  • Yes you should. It's communicable disease, right?

  • Omg yws

  • Your all good mostly every person on earth has some from getting it as a baby if any one on the this app says that's not true they obviously doesn't know how the human body kind of works because most doctors actually recommend a parent to give their child herpes in some way better known as chickenpox

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