Single for a while and now can't stop masterbation?

I've been single for three years. Which I choose for personal reasons. And in that time I adapted ways to pleasure myself. But now since I started seeing a new man. The sex is nothing compared to what I can do to myself. How am I able to explain this to my new boyfriend? I don't even like going down on him.
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  • It's common for masturbatory sex to reach more of a high, than with regular sex. That has been known since the early 1970's, by Masters and Johnson. However, regular sex has something that masturbation can't compete with. The is the other person that you love, the person whose body is touching you, who caresses you and feels you is very nice ways, and who puts himself into you, and connects with you emotionally and physically in a way that nothing else can.

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  • I think you're gonna have to ease into it and explain but be prepared for some pushback from him. It could be a deal breaker for him, hard to say. Everything in life is a choice so I would reconsider and consider doing it for him even though you may not like it that much.

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  • Always naked when I jack off! I always shoot a big load!! I love to cum all over my hard cock & balls! I am also bald down there I don’t like getting sperm in my pubic hair!

  • I'm not sure what to say maybe he is just bad at sex show him what u like

  • yeah it happens. you can relatively easily fix it. don't masturbate for a few weeks at all. it works in most cases. if not, see your gyno.

  • u can tell him how u do what u do it to yourself and he can do better than that

  • As him to to mimic the things you do to yourself when you both have sex.

    • Must be good advice as I said the same thing

  • Keep this thought to yourself and never tell him. If it turns out you are right, then you can always enjoy your masturbation sessions at the same time. Or, just remain single.

  • Maybe ask him to do to you, what you like to do to yourself. Great sex between two people requires good communication. There's nothing wrong with telling your partner what you like and don't like, and vice versa. Good luck - it'll work itself out if you talk.

  • By showing him what you do and even guiding his hands to replicate it.

  • There is counseling for social anxiety.

  • Be honest i haven't haf sex or heald a girl in 10 years

  • Hypnosis.

  • lol you need to marry

  • There are some people who prefer masturbating. Prior to meeting someone I also masturbated and when it came to sex I prefer going solo. I still had sex to please my partner. Correct me if I'm wrong but I think some guys don't care if you like it or not as long as they can get an erection and have sex it's enough to make them happy. If a person loves you whether or not you have sex should not be a problem

  • Then just have sex to build intimacy. Masturbate yourself later for the pleasure. A win-win