The longer you are single, the more you realize what an issue sexual frustration is.
With it on face value easy to fix, but the reality far more complicated
These are the following options to deal with it:
1. Abstinence
The basis of this is merely waiting for your next relationship and dealing with your 'itch'. It can work well for people with low sex drives or others who have never been in a relationship with a vibrant sex life.
For those who have, it represents death through a thousand cuts.
2. Masturbation
Always available and offers relief as well as being fun.
But, the more you 'play', the less the relief felt. With it igniting the yearn in you to use two hands in the company of a lover.
In the end, equal frustration alongside the fun and relief.
3. Casual Sex/ One Night Stands
A method that has its merits as well as flaws.
From a male point of view, it is often not easy to just go out, find a woman and get laid. Even when it is, and you do find a willing woman you never know what you will get. The sex could be amazing, downright dreadful and anything in between.
Dealing with the morning after is also often a cocktail of complication.
It is easier for a woman to go out and get laid but she has to deal with the stigma that gets attached such as slut-shaming as well as the worry of safety. The aside is the casual sex might please the woman but also leave her feeling regret over the meaningless nature of the sex.
4. Friends With Benefits
A great option on face value with you coming to an agreement with a friend to have casual sex to help both of you out. The idea is brilliant for the real feeling you already have for each other means there will always be care and a desire to please within the sex.
Herein lies the irony.
For within the desire to please the lines of the agreement become skewed. With one often catching feelings while the other loves the joy within the casual. Even if you go into it by being openly honest with each other about what you want and do not want it more often than not ends in tears.
5. Go to a Prostitute
It is a real option for it allows you relief with no questions asked and no chance of a legacy.
I went once with this appeal in mind but the experience as I penned in the below Take left me feeling almost abused.
https://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/a25519-my-night-with-a-prostitute
From a female point of view, a laughable option.
What Girls & Guys Said
16 30Dirty old men smh
correct
yuck.
Sexual frustration ONLY affects men / adolescent boys. The vast majority women do not crave sex , both biology ( testosterone levels & brain wiring ) , plus in especially Anglo " cultures " , women are socially conditioned to view sex as wrong & disgusting. Most women are more than happy to abstain from sex for their entire lives , why are most marriages sexless?
What would be ideal is a sex drive killer for men , that has no adverse side effects & would not reduce the male drive to achieve & get things done , however this would be quite an undertaking. This would even the playing field for men , most women would be happy too... no more " thirsty , pervy , rapey " men , the only losers would be the female users & the porn industry.
U dont knkw women then
OPTION 1 - Become a slave to women and feminist society. Harm yourself.
OPTION 2 - Fuck it and go MGTOW.
Friends with benefits works amazing. I 100% don't suggest prostitute. I mostly suggest friends with benefits and/or masturbation.
friends with benefits always gets messy
not if you deal with it in a mature manner.
i always do, but it has always ended messy
u need to find a better way then. alway use different methods if the last one doesn't work.
I think the priesthood ;)
You're one of the only women I've seen post that friends with benefits works that well for you. I've never seen it work with women "in real life". Women I've known who have done it always end up feeling slighted in some way or even depressed over it. One lady I know seemed to attract sociopaths with the whole friends with benefits thing. She isn't doing it now and was in a long relationship. How do YOU get friends with benefits to work? Do you not get jealous if the man goes out with another woman?
@ArrowheadSW I do from time to time get jealous but I do need to remind myself from time to time that I agreed to this and I if I'm not okay with it I need to find a civilized way to deal with it or suck it up. I think a lot depends on the girls personality. I am generally that girl that doesn't really give a fuck about too much, as long as I get the work that I need done I don't really pay attention about anything else. It's important to remember that, just because you are in a friends with benefits relationship doesn't mean that you can't go out and meet other people and date, but it'll never work out if you do it to make the other person jealous. You're not limited but remember that that is something you both agreed to. You BOTH need to deal with it.
Well that one lady I know who was into it, the breaking point for her was the guy spent all weekend with her, and then when he gets home Sunday night, he sends her an e-mail saying he will be gone all week to a medical center getting medical tests done. So to her, what ever the relationship was, was meaningless to her since he never mentioned anything all weekend, and it left her hanging as to what was wrong with him to where he'd have to go out of town for medical tests. // But hey that's just an example of how it can go awry. To her it wasn't even "friends" with benefits, since "friends" will usually not leave other friends hanging like that.
@ArrowheadSW Could also be considered "the fuck game" basically they're just using each other to satisfied their needs. That may also cause a self-issues. Like that may make her feel like there's something wrong with her. I have friends like her, they get self-conscious bc these guys aren't treating them the way the girls imagine the guy would if they'd fuck them.
Well in her case she did get out of that friends with benefits relationship and that was the main reason. I'm the kind of guy who likes a lot of time to myself but I would also like to have a girlfriend. A lot of girlfriends have issues with that because *some* tend to think you are ignoring them or don't like them a lot, or even that you're dating another woman if you say you need time to yourself. So an friends with benefits might be an alternative here but personally I'd like it to be exclusive so I'm not sure it would work for me.