**Shaming someone nonsensically out of context is wrong. This is a take as to why rejecting someone because of their sexual history is not "slut shaming"**
It’s becoming absolutely ridiculous that women will sleep with 50 plus guys and yell slut shame because their significant other had a negative reaction. Their partner's sexual history is absolutely their business and you’re naive to say otherwise. If my girlfriend was some prior BDSM freak than I would like to know.. just as I would like to know if she slept with 50 plus people. Just as I judge my partner's compatibility in a long term relationship based on her values and family upbringing.. I don't just negate their sexual history completley because it's not "politically correct"*
Why your partner's history is absolutely a part of your business
Why..? It shows a lot about their character. Women typically don’t sleep around because they just genuinely enjoy sex. Do some of them do it just because they love sex that much? Sure but the majority of them do it out of insecurity and validation and there is no denying that. Stop saying men and women are completely equal in are biologically wiring because we are not. I believe that a lot promiscuous girls are insecure. But not that all insecure girls are promiscuous.
If my girlfriend had slept with that many people then that is an indicator to me she most likely did it from ulterior motives other than she the fact that she just enjoys sex. What happens if we have a hiccup in a relationship and she is unable to communicate with me in the way she wants to.. she feels lonely. She will more then likely resort back to old ways. If this was her reaction to such a stressor and how she handled these emotions prior.. why would she not have urges to resort back to her old ways? Think with logic guys.. you can’t just be naive and say "love" trumps all.
If you cannot sympathize with your partner's reasons as to why that puts him or her in a sticky situation than you obviously do not have the emotional maturity to be in a monogamous relationship. Your partner's concerns are your concerns and you can’t just negate or disapprove their feelings because it offends you. They are entitled to their feelings and opinions.. they deserve to be heard instead of nullified and shamed themselves. What irony.. am I right or am I right?
Judgement is a tool that we use to assess a situation for what it is. We need confidence of the people we choose to represent us and love us. We want assurance that they are going to exhibit good behavior of make moral decisions.
Just as judgement is a necessary tool.. it also has ramifications. Moderation is key and being concerned at such a red flag of sleeping with an overabundance of different people for a prolonged period of time is absolutely within that moderation.
Brentano’s theory on judgement states if the act of negation is conceived of as a basic form of judgement and the ultimate ground for our understanding of truth and falsity, then the question arises what one should say about negative concepts, e.g. the concept ‘not great’. It might seem that one can form such concepts prior to engaging in an act of judgement, hence also prior to forming a negative judgement. But can one form such negative concepts merely by thinking of an object that appears not to be great, without judging about its greatness?
While using judgement carries with it a negative notion.. it’s none the less a necessity. We need judgement to protect ourselves and make quality decisions.
Marrying a girl who slept with 100 guys prior to you is not a quality decision. Men/Women wonder why they get cheated on.. Stop being naive and protect yourselves people.
Getting in a monogamous relationship with this girl is not a quality decision..
Why Can’t Most Women Just Have Sex Without Emotion?
**It's generally not in a woman's best interest to have multiple sexual partners.. this further raises the concern as to why they would choose to do so. (insecurity.. validation..emotional issues.. ect). Men can fall in this category as well but it's well known that women treat sex with a lot more emotion from a general perspective**
Part of the reason is grounded in classic behavioral psychology. Give a pigeon a treat every time he pecks a bar and he really wants to peck that bar. You and your friends with benefits hung out as friends because of shared interests in politics, Proust, and baseball, not because you saw him as date material. You know he cheated on every woman he ever dated. You know that he has major hangups about commitment. You know there’s a trail of emotional wreckage in his wake. Before you started sleeping with him, you ignored his flaws as a romantic partner. But now – now the powerful, positive feelings of orgasm may make all that seem like small stuff. Orgasm is a powerful reinforcer of behavior for both sexes. It’s fun. It feels great. When paired with a particular person over time, it can make a casual sexual partner look good — very, very good.
Looking good can start to look like love, whether the person is really appropriate or not. You might start convincing yourself that with you, he’ll be different; that a couple of people who share such a powerful connection are meant for each other. Mention this to the guy, and he’s likely to be surprised and upset. He figured you knew what you were getting into. Why would you think he was going to change?
**Why most women are not biologically setup this way**
Another reason is biological.. Both men and women release oxytocin, the hormone and neurotransmitter, during orgasm. Oxytocin calms us down, soothes our anxieties, and mellows us out. It’s also a key biological factor that bonds people to each other. Some research shows that it is associated with the ability to maintain healthy relationships. This is the hormone that is released during childbirth. It also surges when women nurse their babies. Sometimes called the “cuddle hormone,” it’s what helps parents bond with their babies and women bond with their mates. It’s often what makes a woman start to see a friends with benefits arrangement as meaning more. She bonds. He doesn’t. One day she whispers, “Maybe I love you.” He’s outraged. He’s bummed. This wasn’t supposed to happen. This wasn’t the deal! Tell that to your hormones.
Some of it seems to be evolutionarily hardwired. Where men seem to be engineered to sow their “wild oats,” women have, at least historically, been focused on finding a stable mate and settling down to the business of making a family. The tension between those two forces is at the core of romantic love. When the male singles out a particular woman as the object of his emotional and sexual attraction, it’s powerful stuff. When a woman sees that man as the person who can partner with her to make a family and a life, she reciprocates with ardor. (There’s that oxytocin again!) However antiquated those tendencies may seem, they’ve guaranteed the survival of the species and are unlikely to die easily. If he’s still “sowing” but your more basic self is into nesting, there’s going to be a big problem with your friends with benefits arrangement.
**Our generation and values**
Some times.. it is about how you were raised. Times may be changing but they haven’t changed evenly or universally. The double standard still exists for the majority of the world. Only a few generations ago in America, women who had sex before marriage were seen as “loose” and immoral. Men who had sex before marriage were seen as “scoring.” Then came the ’60s, birth control, and sexual liberation. Yes? Well – sometimes and for some. There are still many families that promote sexual abstinence and churches and organizations that celebrate chastity pledges for young girls. There are many places and cultures in the world that place high value on female virginity.
If you were raised with such values, they may well argue with the part of you that wants to explore your sexuality freely and with no strings attached. Often, the resolution is to fall in love with the friends with benefits as a way to justify your actions. After all, you persuade yourself, if you are going to marry the guy, it’s okay to have had sex. The solution falls apart if he’s not there with you.
We live in a time when TV dramas (even comedies) and movies tout sex among unmarried couples and friends as a norm and friends with benefits arrangements as a solution to sexual frustration. But as with most things, what’s a good story may not play out so well in life. Can women engage in a friends with benefits relationship without becoming yet another romantic casualty statistic? Yes. Some can. But it’s important to recognize that even in the 2000s it is generally more challenging for women to keep it up than it is for men. Cruise the Internet for advice on friends with benefits and you’ll find multiple “rules” for keeping a relationship merely sexual.
Take Responsibility For Your Actions
I think sex has a lot of benefits and if you aren't having sex then you are missing out on one of life's greatest joys. It's great to explore your sexuality but just like anything.. if you take to extreme lengths then know note that are repercussions that follow.
I sleep around and hook up because I genuinely love sex. I'm a self admitted sloot. That being said I understand that it will turn off a lot of future partners. I would completely understand if a girl were to reject me for those reasons. You need to take responsibility for your actions and stop waving this off like with some nonsensical rationale screaming "slut shamer". Stop playing the victim card because it's cringe beyond belief. White knights defending these types are women are even more cringe.
Disapproving of your partner's red flagged history is not condemned by any means as slut shaming. While some men are insecure in themselves and are often intimidated if their partner has more sexual experience it should not be your go to reaction to say a guy is insecure because he has standards. Not everyone who has standards is insecure in themselves and intimidated of you. If you are a sexually repressed man or misogynist shaming women and stemming your insecurities onto them for no reason you are just as bad if not worst.
Concluding...
I'm all for doing you and not worrying about others. If sex and hookups are your thing you fuck like a pornstar then kudos to you.. as long as you're enjoying your life. Just don't tell everyone that doesn't have your same values that they are slut shaming. Don't expect your future partners to just automatically be fine with you having a high slay count.
Will I marry a virgin..? No I'm almost certain I wouldn't.. I don't think a virgin would want to marry me. It would be a major double standard for me to expect that.. I accept my actions for what they are and don't try to reverse the cards on others.
There are so many misconstrued definitions as to what constitutes as "slut shaming". If you disagree with me and believe what I stated does equate to "slut shaming" then you people need to wake up and start utilizing the left side of your brain a little more. Social norms or mores are the rules of behavior that are considered acceptable in a group or society. People who do not follow these norms may be shunned or suffer some kind of consequence. Can you imagine what this world would be like without social norms?
@fearless_banana, you can't say these things, it's going to get men banned from the site, then it will be girls ask girls about guys. Silence thy tongue good sir.
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Fearless_banana
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lmfao
RainbowFanGirlEditor
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by the way, the #SeeMyWork contest is over. 😛
Anyways... STOP SLUT SHAMING MEEeeeeee 😭😭😭
Jk. 😉
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YourFutureEx
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He didn't post this to enter the contest.
RainbowFanGirl
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@YourFutureEx I know I was letting him know he had the hashtag
slimstiffyXper 7
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word. and fuck teh pc fools. i do whateva dafuk i want. nobody i know would marry a girl that has had 50 dicks in her or shot a porno.. lmfao
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OrdinaryGentlemanGuru
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Fuck dude, as usual great my_take. Really well-rounded and unbiased. Doubt it will be received well but logic escapes most of those on gag regardless, I completely agree.
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takumiiGuru
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But people will bend to the other extreme once given the hinge and that end is misogyny. Every guy would expect their girlfriends to be virgins, and since most virgins are prudes they fucking wonder why isn't she having sex with them. Well , that's the whole point of being a virgin, not having sex.
There needs to be a balance, which we all can agree there never will. But the consequences are lesser if we let the SLUTS exploit the "Stop slut shaming" banner than let the misogyny take over.
Your point being? On the one hand you support the freedom to choose and on the other you are telling people what to do. It's an oxymoron.
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ObscuredBeyond
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Free to do one thing, but not another. It means there are such things as absolutes, but not everything is one.
sp33d
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@ObscuredBeyond aye, but what then_ We'll call iit "promiscuity" and problem solved? :D
KingRoachXper 4
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I stopped reading after "women don't enjoy sex as much as men". You can't tell people how to use the term slut shaming bc you are the definition of a sexist. It's like telling people that using the term racist isn't appropriate bc everyone knows some races are smarter than others so it isn't really racist, I mean it's in their biology after all.
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Fearless_banana
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Can you please quote me where I said that? Don't depict certain words either quote the context surrounding it.
DimmuXper 7
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Responsibility for actions Is the best phrase
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bobbyxxXper 5
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Exactly, feminism is to blame. The idea is that women don't have to take responsibility for anything. And you are right it is a partners business because of risk of STIs and you don't want to go down the pub and find out that every bloke there has slept with her and are boasting.
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bluenose1872
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You know what the uks like then. A whores rep spreads like wildfire. The last thing a bloke wants is a girl who everycunts been up. Its not just about disease, its shame as well. You dont want to be the bloke going out with the local bike. she's good for a fuck maybe if there's nothing else on the go but no way are you ever taking her out anywherr
bobbyxx
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@bluenose1872 yeah I live in the UK. And you are right, no bloke will want a relationship with her. So it is in her best interest not to behave like that.
stonerbonerXper 5
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Interesting post. I have nothing constructive to add.
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CT_CDMaster
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I agree
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SatyricLordXper 5
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If you don't want them, then I'll take them.
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Anonymous
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I am a virgin who wants to marry a guy like you (promiscuous one lol). I do believe that promiscuous guys can be monogamous, smart, interesting and kind. And I am serious I am very pure
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And this is why the double standard exists. I have had a very active sex life and with my age I have quite a number. That being said I only date girls that have been with 4 or less men. Period. And highly prioritize virgins. None have ever had a serious problem or complaint with my experience. None. Ever. In fact many have liked it and said "Well if I am going to be very selective with who i have sex with I want a man who is most likely to be good, and an experienced man is more likely to be good"
Anonymous
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Sluts are most comfortable socializing, talking, and f***ing other sluts anyway so the mismatched sexual history shouldn't even be a problem.
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Anonymous
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Slut shaming is a thing mostly done by women to other women.
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bluenose1872
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Your bang on with that. Women spread the gossip. I used to here my mum talking to my aunts on the phone when i was young. Such and such is such a whore. she's anybodys after a few drinks bla bla bla
bluenose1872
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Your bang on with that. Women spread the gossip. I used to here my mum talking to my aunts on the phone when i was young. Such and such is such a whore. she's anybodys after a few drinks bla bla bla
Anonymous
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slut sham is a good things
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Anonymous
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Only an American would write this... only an American.
You call yourselves "developed" but you still think like they did in 1880. Everyone around the world doesn't give a fuck about how many partners you slept. Only in America you have those problems.
And I read only the conclusion OBVIOUSLY. Why should I waste my time reading the whole?
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Fearless_banana
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Lol jakes on you because you still read it. Get sum
ObscuredBeyond
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You are obviously ignoring Israel, where there are still plenty who do care. And Japan. And China. And most of the Middle East. Only in Europe, Africa, and parts of South America, are you free to be a complete pig and not worry about being scrutinized for your disgraceful behavior. Of course, nature passes judgment in other ways on those who continue to have this carefree attitude about promiscuity. What is, is; no matter how permissive human opinions and attitudes become.
Opinion Owner
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@ObscuredBeyond I don't accept your opinion. Period.
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ObscuredBeyond
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It's not mine you have to be afraid of.
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American women are only good for sex. Point blank. They’re shitty parents who can’t cook and seem unwilling and incapable of improving in either area. Then the “smart” and “strong” ones are so busy trying to compete with us and every other male out there that they not only forget how to be feminine, they don’t realize that men don’t want or need their make believe brains or white knight-powered strength. This is an endangered species so men may as well enjoy the decline Sure, there are exceptions (see below) but most of them are already locked down as they should be. But most of today’s women are bitchy, masculine, selfish cunts with inferiority complexes that make them think they want to dominate men. The sad truth is that decades of feminism has reduced women to nothing more than three holes and a set of tits who are only as good as the orgasms they provide men. The feminist attempt to make women multi-dimensional in a masculine way has made them as one dimensional as they’ve ever been in human history.
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i think it's gross when people sleep around a lot but thats not the only thing that makes someone a slut in my eyes. i look at guys and girls the same way. i'd say anything over 5 partners is a bit ehh. i love the idea of sex. i think it's a wonderful thing and im very open to it. i've had a very high sex drive since i was 12 yet i'm still a virgin. i dont think it's okay to sleep with everyone you see. lets say a girl has only had sex once but it was with her sister's boyfriend. she's a slut. i agree with everything you said but "slut" doesn't always have something to do with numbers.
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@fearless_banana, you can't say these things, it's going to get men banned from the site, then it will be girls ask girls about guys. Silence thy tongue good sir.
lmfao
by the way, the #SeeMyWork contest is over. 😛
Anyways... STOP SLUT SHAMING MEEeeeeee 😭😭😭
Jk. 😉
He didn't post this to enter the contest.
@YourFutureEx I know I was letting him know he had the hashtag
word.
and fuck teh pc fools.
i do whateva dafuk i want.
nobody i know would marry a girl that has had 50 dicks in her or shot a porno.. lmfao
Fuck dude, as usual great my_take. Really well-rounded and unbiased. Doubt it will be received well but logic escapes most of those on gag regardless, I completely agree.
But people will bend to the other extreme once given the hinge and that end is misogyny. Every guy would expect their girlfriends to be virgins, and since most virgins are prudes they fucking wonder why isn't she having sex with them. Well , that's the whole point of being a virgin, not having sex.
There needs to be a balance, which we all can agree there never will. But the consequences are lesser if we let the SLUTS exploit the "Stop slut shaming" banner than let the misogyny take over.
by the way good take Rojano.
Lol @ Rojano
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Your point being? On the one hand you support the freedom to choose and on the other you are telling people what to do. It's an oxymoron.
Free to do one thing, but not another. It means there are such things as absolutes, but not everything is one.
@ObscuredBeyond aye, but what then_ We'll call iit "promiscuity" and problem solved? :D
I stopped reading after "women don't enjoy sex as much as men". You can't tell people how to use the term slut shaming bc you are the definition of a sexist. It's like telling people that using the term racist isn't appropriate bc everyone knows some races are smarter than others so it isn't really racist, I mean it's in their biology after all.
Can you please quote me where I said that? Don't depict certain words either quote the context surrounding it.
Responsibility for actions
Is the best phrase
Exactly, feminism is to blame. The idea is that women don't have to take responsibility for anything. And you are right it is a partners business because of risk of STIs and you don't want to go down the pub and find out that every bloke there has slept with her and are boasting.
You know what the uks like then. A whores rep spreads like wildfire. The last thing a bloke wants is a girl who everycunts been up. Its not just about disease, its shame as well. You dont want to be the bloke going out with the local bike. she's good for a fuck maybe if there's nothing else on the go but no way are you ever taking her out anywherr
@bluenose1872 yeah I live in the UK. And you are right, no bloke will want a relationship with her. So it is in her best interest not to behave like that.
Interesting post. I have nothing constructive to add.
I agree
If you don't want them, then I'll take them.
I am a virgin who wants to marry a guy like you (promiscuous one lol). I do believe that promiscuous guys can be monogamous, smart, interesting and kind.
And I am serious I am very pure
And this is why the double standard exists. I have had a very active sex life and with my age I have quite a number. That being said I only date girls that have been with 4 or less men. Period. And highly prioritize virgins. None have ever had a serious problem or complaint with my experience. None. Ever. In fact many have liked it and said "Well if I am going to be very selective with who i have sex with I want a man who is most likely to be good, and an experienced man is more likely to be good"
Sluts are most comfortable socializing, talking, and f***ing other sluts anyway so the mismatched sexual history shouldn't even be a problem.
Slut shaming is a thing mostly done by women to other women.
Your bang on with that. Women spread the gossip. I used to here my mum talking to my aunts on the phone when i was young. Such and such is such a whore. she's anybodys after a few drinks bla bla bla
Your bang on with that. Women spread the gossip. I used to here my mum talking to my aunts on the phone when i was young. Such and such is such a whore. she's anybodys after a few drinks bla bla bla
slut sham is a good things
Only an American would write this... only an American.
You call yourselves "developed" but you still think like they did in 1880. Everyone around the world doesn't give a fuck about how many partners you slept. Only in America you have those problems.
And I read only the conclusion OBVIOUSLY. Why should I waste my time reading the whole?
Lol jakes on you because you still read it. Get sum
You are obviously ignoring Israel, where there are still plenty who do care. And Japan. And China. And most of the Middle East. Only in Europe, Africa, and parts of South America, are you free to be a complete pig and not worry about being scrutinized for your disgraceful behavior. Of course, nature passes judgment in other ways on those who continue to have this carefree attitude about promiscuity. What is, is; no matter how permissive human opinions and attitudes become.
@ObscuredBeyond I don't accept your opinion. Period.
It's not mine you have to be afraid of.
American women are only good for sex. Point blank.
They’re shitty parents who can’t cook and seem unwilling and incapable of improving in either area. Then the “smart” and “strong” ones are so busy trying to compete with us and every other male out there that they not only forget how to be feminine, they don’t realize that men don’t want or need their make believe brains or white knight-powered strength.
This is an endangered species so men may as well enjoy the decline
Sure, there are exceptions (see below) but most of them are already locked down as they should be. But most of today’s women are bitchy, masculine, selfish cunts with inferiority complexes that make them think they want to dominate men.
The sad truth is that decades of feminism has reduced women to nothing more than three holes and a set of tits who are only as good as the orgasms they provide men. The feminist attempt to make women multi-dimensional in a masculine way has made them as one dimensional as they’ve ever been in human history.
i think it's gross when people sleep around a lot but thats not the only thing that makes someone a slut in my eyes. i look at guys and girls the same way. i'd say anything over 5 partners is a bit ehh. i love the idea of sex. i think it's a wonderful thing and im very open to it. i've had a very high sex drive since i was 12 yet i'm still a virgin. i dont think it's okay to sleep with everyone you see. lets say a girl has only had sex once but it was with her sister's boyfriend. she's a slut. i agree with everything you said but "slut" doesn't always have something to do with numbers.
again. good comment.