So I met this guy at work he is 7 years older than me and I’m still a virgin and he is not he just recently came out of a 4 year relationship?

I’m that type of person that is willing to wait till marriage, anyways he kept asking if I can give him a chance to get to know him, I kept saying I’m not ready for a relationship Bc I just recently got out from one like few months ago but anyways so I finally gave him my number and he told me his been in a serious relationship before me for about 4 years and they did have sex and stuff so that kinda hit me and I know a past is a past but now I’m starting to think one reason why he wants to be with me a lot is Bc I’m a virgin and he even told me that he has sex on his mind but he is willing to wait if that’s what I want, but he wants to be in a relationship with me and I’m starting to think maybe he just gonna take advantage of me and than one day leave me like he did with his ex, and he did have sex with his first relationship too so I don't know what do y’all think?

0 0

Superb Opinion

  • First of all, I am not sure how old you are, but honestly your concerns are probably well placed. If your virgin, I would only date guys in your same age group.

    Obviously, he is more experienced than you're in relationships and life in general. So, for you date someone like that, would be like Michael Jordan to ask me to play a pickup game with him, but he promises to go easy on.

    Seriously, he may be willing to wait, but for how long?

    So, him saying he is willing to wait is not the same as saying he is not going to pressure you to have sex in general. Because he is expecting that if you date, that you will have sex eventually.

Most Helpful Guy

  • What’s your priority and vision in life?

    Your Value as Wifey is exceedingly high if you are a Virgin. This shows good judgment, smart living, high morality, and a steadfastness that is not frightened by controversy and adversity.. Good ‼️

    The moment you have sex that Value is no longer there. One ☝️ time is same as body counters…. no one cares what you say because you are lying etc…

    What is important to you ⁉️

    • For me it’s important to wait till marriage

    • That is smart if seeking a grounded guy who makes really good money and recognizes Value exchange. This girl can be trusted and is the kind of example that I want for my kids... There's not a good Business guy or someone who has sacrificed to get ahead that will not invest into one with your Standing.

    • Umm thanks

Most Helpful Girls

  • He will want sex after the first or second time together.

    • You might be correct

  • It is like this, do you want this guy or not?

    • Time will tell

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

0 9
  • Nature adores a virgin trope, if you don't trust him and want to date other virgin, it's okay.

    • Thank you

  • the choice is yours though from the looks of it, the values don't match

    that being said, you have something he wants thus you have all the leverage. if it is that important for you to wait till marriage for sex, then make him wait. in the meantime you can get him to prove his loyalty to you.

  • Set sex aside for a second. If you like him and he likes you, start there. Have coffee. Talk. Work through spending time with each other and get to the point where you decide if you want a relationship with him. If you do, then you can begin a discussion of sex.

    • Thank you 🙏

    • You are very welcome. I should have added: being a virgin is fine. Don't let this guy or any other man convince you otherwise. Having sex is fine but so is virginity. Your comfort should drive the speed not only of when you choose to have sex, but when you choose to talk about it. They guy who doesn't respect that or thinks you should explore sex on his timetable is not the right guy.

  • Usely guys can't wait till marrying as long as you keep as friends better cuz guys want a loving relationship

  • you save it you only have it to give away once then it's gone

  • Most people aren't the type that will wait for sex. He may be willing to wait because you are, and he's not a virgin. So if you're making virginity a qualification you're limiting your options.

    • Ahmmm

  • Make a decision

    • Thank you for you’re help sir

  • never let him to touch ur virginity

    • Lol 🤭🤭🤭

  • What do you want to do and why?

    • Well before I gave my number to this guy I Personally thought he was a virgin etc until I started to get to know him and how he mentioned that he is not and his been with his previous girl for about 4 years and obviously they done it so sounds like he had it quite many times and that kinda hit me bc I’m very strong about waiting till marriage and I was kinda hoping my man would be on the same page as me, bc I mean knowing that he already been with a girl some stuff with her is not the same feeling and passion than knowing I would be his first you know? Even tho I know past is a past but I have high standards about this all

    • Most of the guys you meet literally over 12 years old are not going to be virgins

    • There is always the odd one like me tho

    • Show All