You were super curious about your partners body count and they tell you. its a pretty big number that they slept with and they tell you it was all safe and they do not have any std's and can show you proof they are clean.
So now what?
So lets say you ask for your partners body count and they tell you its a large number and they are STD free. What will you do with this information?
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18 20Eh sometimes I think she's more experienced. Sometimes I think she's newer to committment. But both are okay so it doesn't matter that much.
So if she is more experienced what does that mean for you?
That I am less experienced?
And does that matter tonyou?
Well yeah a bit. If I suggest something for bed and she thinks it will be bad based on her experience, I'll probably take her word for it. But in general it doesn't make too much of a difference.
If she is disease-free all the way, It makes no difference what a girls body count
He has to get tested anyway, I'll do the same
The last option as long as they can prove they are clean
She's my partner BEFORE knowing she was out here bringing it around town? C'mon guy!
Your point?
That’s why I don’t ask. It’s usually not that hard to figure out when a girls fucked half the town, and below that I really don’t care.
Probably just curious, at least I know they like having sex often
I mean, min'es pretty high for my age so I don't think anyone can really surprise me with theirs lol
I don't care about her body count, but I DO CARE about her STD results!
Being obsessed over "body count" is none of any one's concern unless the other person bring it up in casual conversation.
I get turned on
not sure, I wouldn't ask. If I was asked, I'd probably find another partner. Sounds a lot like insecurity and distrucst
I have a high body count as well so it would be hypocritical of me to feel some kind of way about hers
Precisely. I have a low body count but I still feel it would be wrong for me to judge. Especially in my age group I mean c’mon. All hypothetically speaking of course as I am happily married. 😇
D because I want someone similar
what if you are extremely similar in just about every other way? you guys click, you're both attracted to each other, and you can tell she loves you. this one thing is still a deal breaker for you?
I'd have a hard time believing I could find someone as similar to me who doesn't view sex the same as I do but if I did yes I still feel as if it'd be a deal breaker because I can't understand it and it disgusts me and has nothing to do with religion, I've been with someone with a high count and once I found out I knew right away that it'd never be anything serious and I still tried to overlook it but steadily lost attraction both sexually and personality wise
thats pretty sad.
Why is that?
because what they did in the past shouldn't matter especially if they can prove to you they are clean. and the scenario i had set up here where you get along with her and very attracted to each other and you just can't get over your disgust over this one things... yeah its sad dude. but you do you. i'd suggest you keep these thoughts of yours to yourself.
That's how you and a lot of others see it and it's whatever, I don't like it but you're gonna think and do whatever anyway, you can't understand my feelings around it and I can't understand yours, in a perfect world everyone would get someone, everyone would not be disgusted by anything, and no one would cheat but this world is not perfect, it may be sad to you but there's others out there who agree and think like I do so it's not like I'm missing out on much if I stop dating someone whos lifestyle I don't agree with, and like I said plenty of others will accept them so what's the problem with one not? And I'm free to my own opinion I thought. I never demeaned anyone in my answer so I don't see the big deal, but if you don't like my thoughts I won't answer your questions, I obviously know we don't agree on everything but I still hoped to civilly discuss something we don't agree on
we can disagree, but your views can hurt someone... i would just hope you never actually do get to a point while dating a girl and she finally tells you her body count and you just outright reject her. your views can have damaging effects on women.
Well I've been rejected for my body count and hurt plenty of times by women who have had damaging effects on me but no one gives a shit because I'm a man, if we all want to be equal here no gender deserves a better treatment than another. I don't want to hurt or bring anyone down but if my views affect someone that much you need thicker skin, because other people's opinions about you don't matter in the grand scheme of it all
nah i disagree wit that too. its wrong for a woman to do or say anything very damaging or patronizing, and its also wrong for you to do it too. its wrong across both sexes. "growing thicker skin" is excusing bullying type behavior.
How am I patronizing anyone?
just in the act of being disgusted by her past behavior. and since you voted D you think of her as a slut. thats patronizing.
That's just the way I feel, I can't really help what I'm disgusted or not disgusted by, and that's what you put for the answer though, but by definition that's what a woman with a high body count is so... Whatever you want to call it anyway, in the end is still a woman with a high count so
it is technically true but still disparaging and maybe a step above calling a black person the N word. but think how you want, but like i said i suggest keeping this to yourself if you are ever in this position i laid out in that scanario.
That would be a step above that to you? Wow. But sure you've opened my eyes to just because that's what the definition is doesn't mean it's right to say it. Sure I can see where you're coming from there. Well like I said I generally know that befofe I date someone but if it did happen what would you suggest I do make something else up why I don't want to date them?
Just say “sorry but im no longer attracted” or “no longer interested”. You dont need to elaborate or clarify. Like one time i was dating a girl who had kinda bad hygiene and instead of saying that i just said “sorry im no longer into you”. And that was that.