So you guys prefer an experienced girl for one night but want a serious relationship with a virgin one, when y’all have a lot of experience?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

More or less, yes.

Surprised? You shouldn't be.

Men and women are different. We have different wants and priorities of the opposite sex, and if we want a relationship with the opposite sex, we must be what THEY want, no matter how difficult it is for us or how unfair it might seem.

Men have to meet all kinds of requirements from women - requirements that are very difficult for most men to achieve. Sure, there's a small percentage of men who spring forth from the womb with all of these things in place, who have it easy, but that's no where near the experience of the vast majority of men.

Average SMV (Social Market Value, by age and sex

Men hit puberty - the start of their adult lives - with ZERO value. Literally, young men are routinely sent to war to die, and are given dangerous, life-shortening jobs and many suffer and die young - and sometimes horribly - because they need to ACHIEVE things if they hope to increase their own value. Men must BUILD their value - starting in most cases from zero - to ever have anything. There is no safety net for men - if men fail, literally no one cares - men are discarded.

Women hit puberty - the start of their adult lives - and because of their youth and fertility, they start out at near MAX VALUE. And while this is clearly a big advantage at the moment, there are also downsides. The first is: while a woman doesn't have to BUILD value like a man does, she DOES have to KEEP that value, and a big part of that value is a low body count. The other is that a woman's SMV is closely tied to her youth and fertility, which means it is very age-dependent. Between 18 and 28, the average women's value is sky high - higher than the average man's will ever be. But once she hits 30 (on average), her SMV will drop below the average man's - forever.

Yes, men CARE about body count for women, even though women largely don't care about it for men (and in fact, most women prefer their man has experience). That's simply a fact, and women don't get to dictate what men find important anymore than men get to tell women what women should find important in men. Men have to meet women's demands, or women won't give them the time of day. If women want a commitment from a man, then women must meet men's demands. That's the balance.

[Miristheiss]

I'm not big into one night stands.

Let's put it this way... a sexually experienced girl is the type that can have sex with a stranger or someone she's just met. A virgin is far less likely to just go straight to sex with zero relationship with someone she's just met.

It is true that a guy can just want a woman...100% just by looks. He can see a girl that he finds attractive or attractive enough he'd be willing to have a sexual experience with her even though he KNOWS 100% he'd NEVER want a long term relationship with her or marry her. For a wife he would want a totally different girl because no man wants to visualize some man nailing his wife and her blowing endless men and giving herself away easily to others when he has to work so hard and give everything to her for her to be a wife.

I hate tattoos on women. They disgust me and I consider it a 100% deal breaker. So, when I was single, if a saw a woman I found really attractive and I had interest in her and then TADA I saw she had tattoos. Damn, now I'm disappointed and I know she was off the table for a girlfriend or wife. Let's say I did meet her and we had a bit of connection and flirted and like each other. I had the chance to have sex. I probably would have taken it even though it was going to be a fling and I'd never marry a woman in which I had to look at these hideous green markings all over her pretty skin.

Just because I guy will take advantage of a sexual opportunity if presented in no way means he'd ever make a girlfriend or wife of someone. Most guys would always prefer a woman who's saved herself for her husband and she can get all the sexual experience she needs with her husband verses some girls who has let 30 other guys and one night stand break her in trying out all their sexual fetishes on her for free.

Most women know this. Yet they just ignore it and keep making the same mistakes millions of others make.

A smart person learns from THEIR mistakes.

A WISE person learns from the mistakes OTHERS make and they never make those mistakes.

The world is quite lacking is WISE people.

[Berethor]

I always prefer a virgin, but I'm not looking for a one-night stand anyway, hos useless to me.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[Gent207-2]

Uh no

That's fucked up

[BoopBoopBeep]

No I don't want a virgin for either.

[LiamSawyer]

What exactly is your question.

[RavVid]

Of course for a relationship we want a girl with relationship credentials. A small number of boyfriends is good because that indicates she takes relationships seriously

For a one nighter we want a girl with slut credentials. That indicates she sex seriously.

Depending on how old she is, being a virgin might worry me that she might not have much sexual desire and consequently I might get much sex

[Wonderingguyy]

My girlfriend was a virgin when I was pretty experienced and our relationship has worked out well

[FunkyMonkee]

I'd like a virgin because I've never had one before and would like to see what it's like. If she wants to make it a life-long commitment to me, great! Bring it on!! As long as I want the same with her.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.

I want a virgin to marry, and I'm also a virgin.

I also don't do one night stands because those are for idiots who want to catch stds.

[zato1abuser]

I'm a virgin myself (not an incek though) and have no problem with either, as long as she didn't sleep with (that many) guys she didn't have any feelings for. I don't think highly of people having ONS, but do you, I would at least not date one who does that.

[Mansearching]

That's a wrong assumption. Maybe with some guys yes. But for me, it wouldn't matter. Your experience is what it is. I would have no control over that.