Some said that women can compromise when they aren't in the mood by suggesting to the boyfriend that he can masturbate. Is this really a compromise?

[Anonymous]

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Why would he need her permission to even do that?

If she doesn't want sex, she doesn't want sex. Compromise by saying she will do it next week or something, but giving him permission to touch his own body seems weird.

[Asker]

Do you feel compromises involve both people giving? Both people give during a compromise. If she is not giving, he is just masturbating then how is this a compromise?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

I think that's my point. It isn't a compromise, nor should she be the one to give him license to please himself. If she doesn't want sex, then there is no compromise to be made. Just wait til she is in the mood or if it happens more than you can deal with, then consider counseling or a separation.

[Asker]

Do you think just showing her boobs & vulva and then he can go masturbate would be a reasonable compromise because it would be quick and doesn't require much effort? She would compromise by doing that and he would compromise by masturbating after she does that

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Nope. He can go look at porn if he needs visual stimulation. If she wants to fine, but if she doesn't want to go through all that effort, oh well.

[Aerissa_Jade]

What other compromise could it be? seems like the only viable option.

[Asker]

Don't compromises involve both people giving? Both people give during a compromise. If she is not giving, he is just masturbating then how is this a compromise?

[Aerissa_Jade]

That is why I was wondering what else she could do, if she isn't in the mood. What are the options, to compromise there needs to be options.

[Asker]

Do you think just showing her boobs & vulva and then he can go masturbate would be a reasonable option because it would be quick and doesn't require much effort?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Sure, sounds good to me, it just isn't something I would of thought of but if I said he could go take care of himself and he asked to see me for assistance, I'd have no issue with that.

[summiter]

He still gets an orgasm either way

[Asker]

Don't compromises involve both people giving? Both people give during a compromise. If she is not giving, he is just masturbating then how is this a compromise?

[Anonymous]

she could at least give him something to look at

[Asker]

Don't compromises involve both people giving? Both people give during a compromise. If she is not giving, he is just masturbating then how is this a compromise?