Someone help me I don't know what to do?

[Cholethe_werido]

I walked in on my boyfriend giving another dude a bj. I love him so much but this hurts to see. I don't know what to think

[markscott]

It's a shock, so the reality may not have entirely hit yet. He cheated on you with a guy, and blew apart your relationship. Not only that, but by it being with a guy, you know that there is no practical way the relationship can be repaired, as he is attracted to guys, not women. And it makes it worse, that he was so dishonest with you, not just about the affair, but about being attracted to guys. The thing to do is to realize the relationship is over, and is not repairable. That very sad, as he let you love him so much, in his lie. The only thing to do, is to cut your losses, and immediately move on. It will take time to get over this awfulness and distrust, but you will once again get back on your emotional feet. Be gentle with yourself, and don't blame yourself for not seeing it. He was likely a good manipulator, as he had to be devious to hide this from you. Whatever,, don't find your worth in him, as he's not worth it. Find your inner strength, move on, and be the woman you know you can be.

[Bananaman177]

You'd better dump him before he gives you a disease, girl.

Keep that thing out of your body, you don't know where it's been, and what's more, you don't WANT to know where it's been.

Don't listen to a word he says, don't let him sweet talk you into forgiving and forgetting! If he was honest, he wouldn't be hiding his gayness and cheating on you. This motherfucker is leading a double life, you'd better bail out on this relationship before you accidentally find out any more of his little "secrets."

[Cholethe_werido]

I'll find the courage to I hope

[Bananaman177]

Don't think about it, fucking DO it. That's the trick. Rip the band-aid off. It's a thousand times harder in your head than it will be in real life, you just do it and then it's done. It takes 10 minutes, max. Then you're free. Just remember not to fall for any of the stupid shit he says or any of his bullshit emotions, if he says he's gonna kill himself, just tell him to go cry on his boyfriend's shoulder, or cry on his hairy ass, whatever floats his boat. You fucking deserve better, I don't even KNOW you, but you still deserve better than to be some homo's mistress. There's plenty of dudes out there who don't suck dick, lol. Go find you one.

[alexander19]

How did he react when he saw you? Did he confess about being gay? What did he say?

[Cholethe_werido]

He said that he was bi and it's not what it looks like..

[alexander19]

Well he said he is bisexual. Then he said it's not what it looks like. That's a lie. It's exactly what it looks like. Are you willing to live with this though?

[Anonymous]

Well he cheated and he's into guys so, it's not really hard to figure out.

[SteveSmith1985]

I think you're definitely going to need to talk to him. I'm sure that's not a conversation he's looking forward to any more than you are. Unfortunately, he REALLY is the only person who can possibly clear up "what you're supposed to think".

I'm assuming you haven't talked to him... otherwise, you would have written more in the description.

Does it mean he's gay? Or maybe he's bi? Maybe this is literally the first time he's done anything with a guy (or cheated period... hopefully)? Maybe he's been living a 'double life'.

I'm afraid that he's going to be the only one who can even give you a HINT as to what you're dealing with here. Otherwise, I don't know how anyone could help you know what to think.

You guys are going to need to have a really difficult talk, if you're hoping to move past this.

I'm honestly feel really bad for you. I can only imagine what must be going on in your head.

Good luck :)

[Cholethe_werido]

I haven't found the courage to I'm just do hurt I don't know what do to

[SteveSmith1985]

You know, usually, I tell people basically to "suck it up" and FIND the courage to have the difficult conversations that the NEED to have. You are an exception. I can appreciate that this situation is a lot more 'shocking' and unexpected than most relationship problems or issues that require a "difficult conversation". I don't blame you for not having found the courage in this case. But... I do think it's going to have to still come down to you finding that courage... somehow. The reason is, like you said, you're just so hurt and don't know what to do. If you are hurt enough to look at it as: "He cheated. I'm leaving." Then that's really the only way that you can possibly get by without having this talk. Did he see that you witnessed this? Like is it the big "elephant in the room" when you see your boyfriend now? Or is he unaware that you are hurt? You have good reason to be hurt. Anyone would be. But unless you're just going to leave him... you need to know JUST WHAT is going on with him. You need to find out exactly what he's guilty of in terms of infidelity. THEN deal with the "so are you bi then?" aspect of that... if you are able to forgive him for the cheating part. For me... I would be needing an explanation. I would be wanting to know just WHY EXACTLY I am feeling so hurt? Is it because this happened once, and coincidentally you happened to walk in on it? Or has he been doing this 5 times a week for months or years? For me... I would HAVE to know. I would have to have an exolanation, and determine whether or not I beleieved the person was being honest with me. The only way to find out what to do... is to find out what really happened. Otherwise, you CAN'T know what to do. How could you? When you get over SOME of the initial shock... you are going to need to confront him about this. I'm sorry. :)

[Cholethe_werido]

Ok I am thank you

[SteveSmith1985]

I am glad to hear you're going to talk to him. It's not going to be easy. But it's the only way forward for you. Good luck.

[Berethor]

Your boyfriend is a fag, you better leave him before you have children. :)

https://www.youtube.com/embed/EaCvFNH28lo

[Avicenna]

Its simple- he cheated, so dump him.

[humanearth]

Why does it hurt, is for the reason that he was cheating or because it was a dude.

1st what the reason your mad about

[Cholethe_werido]

It hurts because we have been together for so long and experienced so much that I honestly love him and then he just goes and does this

[humanearth]

So its the cheating part. Yeah, I would be pissed to. Whats his reason for it

[humanearth]

Do you confront him

[Cholethe_werido]

I'm not sure I never asked I just stood there motionless wondering what did I just witneess

[humanearth]

You have have questions that only he can answer. Now what you do if it was a another girl he was with and not what you saw

[Cholethe_werido]

Your so right

[humanearth]

It don't matter if its a women or a man he was have sexual relations with. Cheating is cheating and you caught him. Now what are you going to do. You could forgive him, but most likey go back to it. You could compromise and share him or you could do a 3 some with the guy. But If if was me. I would have a big fight with him and then break it off. The fighting would be my form of closer and I hope a chance to make him feel like shitand have a ton of guilt

[Cholethe_werido]

I'm gonna drop him. As much as it will hurt I just can't be with him after knowing that he did or is cheating it does not sound healthy at sll

[humanearth]

I would dump him to

[humanearth]

How long ago did this happen

[Cholethe_werido]

Yesterday, it took me a while to cool down then break into tears and then rely on the internet because none of my "friends" could find the time to even care about my emotional state and feel that their likes on Instagram are More important (I think I might drop them to)

[humanearth]

Sad how the world became all about #'s and likes. Pitiful just pitiful

[MackToday]

It's so sad you had to experience this. Of all the damage the Marxists have done to our civilization turning this filthiness lose on us is one of the worst. All I can say is ditch him quick and go get HIV tested. People with his birth defect have very high rates of HIV infection.

[JermalTheBlackDog]

I'm sorry, it's not adding up. Give me more feedback

[Cholethe_werido]

We have been dating for 10 years but I never suspected anything, I just walked in one day and all I could do was sit motionless in the doorway

[JermalTheBlackDog]

So he cheating on you with another woman?

[Cholethe_werido]

He cheated on me with a dude

[JermalTheBlackDog]

Oh damn. . . Move on

[MarkusCopeland]

He's cheating on you with a guy. Do what you will with that information.

[Cholethe_werido]

This is so straight forward that I can't even disagree

[Dchrls78104]

Leave the clown!

[GreenGold1992]

break up

[DanOh2018]

I would suspect that he likes sucking cock.

[Sorryinadvance1]

Well he had a secret that he been hiding. It's still cheating and in a dangerous way. Be could give u a std without u ever knowing. I would cut it off u know it Hurst but he cheated on u and risked in health in the process

[Cholethe_werido]

Your probably right tbh.. I just can't convince myself that so saw what I did

[Turk288]

He probably a bi and will share you later on the road

[JohnDeere73]

he's Gay. Move on unless you want a bi boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend is bi there is nothing wrong with that but id talk to him about it