Sometimes my boyfriend has a very hard erection and sometimes he struggles staying hard. Is it me?

We have sex pretty often and we both love it but sometimes he will get soft in the middle of it and after some fooling around he’s hard again. Then there’s times where he doesn’t lose his erection at all. The way he acts around me and the things he says makes it seem like he’s attracted to me but I’m worried maybe he’s not? We have talked about it before and he said sometimes his mind is just all over the place and he said it’s not me at all. He battles depression and anxiety. I’m an over thinker so I’m just a little worried.
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Superb Opinion

  • No, not you. I have had the same problem off and on since 22, very humiliating for a man, especially a young guy of 22. She even asked me: "Don't you like me"?

    Nothing could have been further from the truth, as she was very pretty/shapely while on Spring Break in Daytona, and all things being equal I SHOULD have had and erection like a broom handle.. Happened several times even after leaving Fla, I visited her in Ohio and same thing happened... and she liked me... It will change from time to time.

Most Helpful Guy

  • You have to understand that an erection is tied to man’s mental state if mind.

    It takes in happiness and acceptance to reach a good erection.

    It’s not about what you do, it’s about what’s going on in his life.

Most Helpful Girl

  • No. The nature of the beast. Tired. Does he drink or do drugs. Tired.

    • He could be sleeping with someone else but unless he goes for days without texting or calling and asks for space every few weeks I don't think it's that.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Probably not. Many factors affect an erection.

  • Completely normal. You do realize guys in porn take Viagra, right?

  • Battling depression & anxiety definitely affects erection performance. Try talking to him about it. It definitely doesn't seem like he's bored of the relationship.

  • Having sex to often can cause that as well.

    • We only see each other on weekends. We live about an hour apart and spend Friday Saturday and Sunday together. In that time frame we do often but not at all during the week.

    • Even in a short amount of time like 3 days it can happen. Especially if you're having sex multiple times a day.

    • Ohhhh okay

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  • Stress can cause that problem. He may not be completely concentrating on you if he has a lot on his mind

  • This can happen to any guy, so don’t be quick to blame yourself.

  • You're overthinking it. If he can't get hard or stay hard around you at all thrm there would be a concern, although it still probably isn't you

  • Probably not you