Spicing Up Your Sext Life

Spicing Up Your Sext Life
Sexting. The majority of us have done it, though not all will admit to it. Some of us use sexting to spice up our existing relationships, some to ease into a sexual relationship with a new or potential partner and others simply to get their rocks off with complete strangers. Whatever your circumstances there are some key pieces of advice to keep in mind when you make the decision to sex via text.


Spicing Up Your Sext Life

Use Proper Spelling/Grammar and Avoid Abbreviations

You may be able to get away with that in casual conversation. Personally, I avoid it all together. However, when you are sexting, not only does it kill the mood to talk like this: "I want 2 suk ur dik" or "Show me ur bewbs pls," but it is also highly distracting and if used too much those of us that do not always text in that manner may have to do a double take in order to decipher it.

Set the Mood

Use trigger words to subconsciously set the mood. Even before you start you want to warm your partner up. Be clever and include words in your casual conversation such as, hot, wet, come, hard, deep, inside, just to name a few. Slip these words in seemingly innocent conversation to subconsciously get your partner in the mood. This is a concept made famous by pick-up artist Vin DiCarlo and I must say, it has worked to get me in the mood on more than one occasion, whether purposely or not.

Spicing Up Your Sext Life

Start Slow and Suggestive

Send your partner something as simple as "I'm lying in bed, thinking about you." If you have set the mood correctly they will be able to decipher your intention. Hopefully, they are responsive. If not, you may have caught them at a bad time. No harm done. You have not made a fool of yourself because you have not taken it too far. Just try again another time.

Be Descriptive

When you text, your partner should be able to clearly imagine everything that you are doing. There are reasons why women read erotica. The authors use very descriptive, sensuous words. Make your partner see, hear, smell, taste and feel. When you actually engage in intercourse you use all of those senses. Do not make an exception when you are sexting. Make sure you vary your descriptive words. You do not want to be monotonous.

Spicing Up Your Sext Life

Be An Active Participant

The best sexting is when both parties are actively participating, otherwise you may as well just be masturbating. This does not necessarily mean that you both need to be engaged in a back and forth dialogue of what you are doing to each other. That can get a bit complicated through text, but it is possible if your timing is right. At the very least, be sure to communicate to your partner what you are doing to pleasure yourself and how what they are saying is making you feel. This will also aid them in setting a good pace in order to get you both off by the time it is all said and done.

Do Not Send Unsolicited Pictures

Not only could this get you or your partner in legal trouble, if it is seen by the wrong eyes, but it could be the fastest way shut-down your sexting game before it even begins. Notice how I said unsolicited. Meaning, if they ask for it, and you are both of legal age, by all means send away, but err on the side of caution. Do so knowing that if things backfire one picture could come back to haunt you.

Wrap Things Up and Leave Them Wanting

Do not abruptly end your sexting session. If done well, both of you will have gotten satisfaction from your interactions. Be sure of that before you move on. Tell your partner that you enjoyed yourself. Be appreciative of their time and effort. This should set the stage for your next interaction, be it in person or via text and leave you both wanting more.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I have sexted guys in the past. But there was one guy I had dated who I never had talked about sex with until we actually had sex and it was the best sex I ever had - but this some what half drunk sex since we had a few drinks, fell asleep together (which sobered us up) and just did it. The sexting only started after we had physically done it but it was more "are you planning on getting contraception?".

    My sexual experience is limited, I was interested in doing things previous partners weren't interested in - basically vanilla sex with the same three positions. So when I gave him a short list of things I would like to try (positions, toys, bondage, spanking) he was more than happy to comply and plus he threw in a few things he would like to try.
    Sex with him is never boring and yea of course we sext but I know he's being serious about doing it to me rather than the guys who say "I'm going to make you squirm" but what really happens is no foreplay, just sticks it in and he was done within 2 minutes without bothering to put any effort into making me orgasm... true story... I'm ashamed and embarrassed to say this is what really happened to me at one point in my life.

    If he says he's going to do something to me in bed, you can bet your life that he will definitely do it!

    • Wanna sext me?

    • @mikeoxbiger rather sleep with Donald Trump then sext you

Most Helpful Guy

  • This is very nicely done. I have found that the more detailed the steam places are, the better.

    • Thank you. I am glad you enjoyed it and thank you for reading/commenting! :)

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  • A W E S O M E My Take :) <3

    Very well written, worded and described.

    I go with everything you say especially the last 2
    1. Do not send unsolicited pictures
    2. Wrap things up and leave them wanting

    Abbreviations I seldom use even on regular texts :D

    • Thank you very much! Glad you enjoyed it!

    • Thank you for liking my opinion young lady :) Enjoyed? LOVED it is more like it :D <3

  • Sexting is kinda its own little art

    • it is! an incredible art ;)

    • @CaliSoccerFella haha yes :)

  • Ah! Unlucky me, never had sexting.
    But this take is very good and spot on :)

    • Thank you very much! :) I'm sure one day you will experience sexting.

    • Thanks for your blessings kind lady :)

  • Well thought out and written. Looking forward to more myTakes from you in the near future.

    • Thank you very much! :) I plan to write more in the future. I want to attempt to write one for Featured Friday every week, but it depends on the subject and how much time I have. This week might be tight on time. I have quite a bit of school work this week.

    • School should always come first. Let G@G overcome things that you really need to take care of and you will have problems develop quickly.

    • Absolutely. I would never do that.

  • Reading this made me realize I am a near perfect sexter. Thanks for that affirmation. 😛

    Need to work on not getting flustered when he says certain things and doubting if he'll like what I have to say in return or not, though.

    • :) Thanks for reading/commenting! Yeah, sometimes it helps not to overthink things and just go with what you feel.

    • i wanted do to sext with you

  • I agree with everyone else I <3 <3 how U wrote this. Most of these mytakes on here are way too long, but yours is just perfect. I <3 sexting too.

    • Thank you. I appreciate the feedback!

    • will you do with me

  • Fantastic take 👍 looking forward to reading more

    • Thank you very much. I appreciate you reading and commenting! :)


  • All good tips, and I've used them.

  • peeps be stealing my takes! haha

    • Haha... you have written a My Take about pretty much everything.

    • lol true. plus its different when its coming from a girl so good you wrote about good sexting

    • Oh, thank you. I appreciate that. :)

  • Great. Now I need the other person to make dat happen!

  • Well, thank you!
    Definetly using your tips tonight with my sexting partner, haha.

  • Some may not believe me but I've never sext before. Looked for apps online but all appear to be crap
    Girls who would like imaginative sext should message me

  • This is an interesting take!

    Very good point on words, emotion and her imagination.

    I like the in lying down and thinking of you one, but could you give an example of the "sensuous and descriptive" words you mean that excite the female mind? As in if it's someone you care about or a female friend?

  • why would i want to sext? it doesn't make sense

    • It's not for everyone. Some people are too visual, but if you have a good imagination and an engaging and skilled partner it can be quite arousing.