Spit or Swallow?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were having a conversation about intimacy. He told me what he wanted me to do to the next time we see each other. We're currently on a 3-month LDR, by the way. Anyways, in the middle of the conversation, he said that he wanted to see me swallow. I said that it's a deal and I'll try it. He was surprised. He thought that I always swallow after I do him. But the thing is I am a late boomer. And I don't have much experience in doing it. I had a taste of him, but I've never really swallowed the whole thing. So it's half taste, half spit. I am trying to adjust actually and I never thought he'd mind. But unfortunately, he does. He feels hurt. And I feel bad about it. I said I'll do better and make it up with him. He said it's not important now and it's fine. But I know I hurt him. So aside from doing what he wants, any suggestions what I can do to make it up with him? I don't like it when I make him feel bad. Also, does it really matter if I spit or swallow?

[Angelo75]

Option 1. If you happen to deepthroat, try to learn how to let him cum in ur throat. You can't taste with the back of ur throat. Only your tongue. However, do your homework on how to do that, otherwise it'll go in your windpipe and make you cough. (not fun)

Option 2. Swallow his cum as much as you can so that you get used to it. And keep reminding yourself "why" you are doing it (as a motivation).

Option 3. Change his diet. There are tricks out there that can change the taste of cum. I've heard that making him eat pineapples can help, but also avoid coffee, avoid red meat, and some other stuff. That'll make his cum less bitter. Just google for it.

But apart from that, I do find it extremely sweet that you take time to worry on this. It shows u really love him. I'm jealous.

[Asker]

Thank you for the tips. He told me about the pineapple thingy, but he never did try even once. I appreciate your suggestions on how to solve my problem.

[Red_Arrow]

Basically it does not matter as far as the physical part goes. Your mouth is warm and moist and feels great. What you do with it in their can make it very great! But some guys have a thing and get butt hurt if you spit. Once I have cum, it is not important to me if she spits or swallows. She has provided me great pleasure and she can do with it whatever she is comfortable with. But a lot of guys seem to ignore what she has done for ther and get all hurt if she spits.

[Asker]

Well, he said that he feels like I'm rejecting him. Well, I know where he's coming from. I would feel hurt if he does wipe me off his mouth w After he does me.

[Anonymous]

I have always swallowed. The taste and texture are not very nice but it's not a big deal, and swallowing is just simpler and less messy. And I would just feel bad about spitting. I mean it would make me feel bad if he spit after giving me oral.

[Asker]

I understand this. He never wipe out or spit after he does me. So, he was hurt when he learned about it. I don't wanna lie. So, I want to make it up with him

[chrissykerdock]

if you swallow do it asap dont let the cum linger in your mouth just swallow it and he'll be happy you swallow as do all guys,

[Asker]

I'll do it when he returns. Any more suggestions or tricks on how to do it faster and easier?

[chrissykerdock]

work on the head of his penis and the vein behind the head lick that and he'll cum sooner than he would a lot of tongue swirling and putting your lips around his head it feels good for them and us i love feeling his head between my lips

[Apple1996]

I either swallow or just make him cum somewhere else if I'm not feeling like having it in my mouth. Spitting seems a little too dramatic when there are other options.

[Dargil]

What ever she is comfortable with is good.

[bowenw]

Swallowing can make a guy feel totally accepted and it can create a very intimate bond with someone. It's never a deal breaker for me. Being with a good person is far more important to me. Having said that, if that's what he's asking for and you're willing to do it, I don't believe you have to do anything more. Please feel free to PM if you wish.

[Asker]

Thank you for this thought. I think he has the same reason. For both of us, intimacy is an important bond. A union. So instead of being angry, he's more hurt. So I do understand where his coming from. It's my shortcomings of not knowing much.

[bowenw]

I understand where he is coming from. If I were you I would explain you didn't understand how important swallowing was to him. Now that you talked about it you totally understand and you're happy to do it.

[Asker]

I'd definitely follow your advice. And this conversation needs to be done face-to-face to avoid more confusion.

[bowenw]

That is a good strategy. Let me know how it goes.

[Asker]

Will do. In 2 weeks time though. Thanks again.

[bowenw]

Best of luck to you. Please free to chat by PM in the mean time if you want to discuss more.

[JessJJ]

Do what you want. Swallowing is easier.

[Asker]

The taste is kinda bothering at first. I only experience doing it a few times only, less than 10x I think. But yeah, I need to know what I really want. It's something that I never gave any thought of before. Then, after this I need to ask myself, too if it's something helpful in making the relationship much stronger

[FilmGuy93]

Some guys care, but most don't. Just make sure to be really enthusiastic when you see each other again and don't be afraid to experiment a little.

[Asker]

Like what kind of experiment? I'm quite new to this kind of thing

[FilmGuy93]

I don’t know anything about the sex you guys have, what you like, your personalities, your dynamic; etc. Try positions that excite you, dirty talk, toys; whatever you want. It’s experimentation. As long as it’s being done with love and respect, there’s nothing wrong with trying something new, even if it doesn’t work out.

[Asker]

Exploration

[FilmGuy93]

Exactly! Explore and have fun.

[Asker]

Will definitely do

[Emma_Walker]

Swallow

[JohnK123]

Lol why

[Emma_Walker]

@JohnK123 love it

[JohnK123]

Yeah… what makes u love it

[Shamalien]

It means a lot to a man if you swallow

[Twalli]

It turns us on if she swallows.

[Zolly99999]

Good girls swallow... mean girls spit😉

[Asker]

I don't understand why girls who swallow are good and those who spit are bad. Can you please enlighten me? I'm really new to this kind of thing. I may have lived under a rock for so long.

[Zolly99999]

Sorry it's just joking phrase.. I meant no offense. I prefer when a girl swallows me.. it's more erotic and naughty.

[Asker]

I gotchu. I thought there's really a reason. Gullible me. Lol. I heard swallowing is more raw, personal and connected

[Zolly99999]

No worries. .. I totally understand this new to you abd I should been more sensitive. Yes I agree that it's personal and connected. . When a girl spits I feel like there must be something wrong with me. But when she swallow I like she is really into me..

[Asker]

I never spit it outright. I can't just have all. It's too much. Taste and texture are another story but I'm getting used to it little by little

[Zolly99999]

I guess it would be tough if it was a lot. Lol. As for taste and texture I have no idea 🤣🤣

[Zolly99999]

At least you are trying and I commend you for that.😁

[Asker]

I wanna please my man.. compromise.

[Asker]

It's a lot. And I don't know why if it's something normal or not.

[Zolly99999]

It can be.. if I don't have sex for a few days I produce a lot too. I think most guys do. It builds up.

[Beardedman1996]

You have cum in your mouth, I think either or, hot enough as is damn 😂

[MrTaboo]

Swallow, every time

[Danger1213]

It matters to him if you spit or swallow cause if you spit you show him you are not interested in him very much and unattracted to him.

[B4852]

I say it's up to her.

[Asker]

Well, the girlfriend in me wants to make her man happy and not hurt. Compromise for a healthy relationship.

[B4852]

Well that's very nice, and I know he'll love it, but if you say no, well that would be understandable.

[Asker]

Yes. He will definitely understand me. But it's part of a relationship to compromise. It's a two-way street. :)

[B4852]

Exactly 🙂

[Asker]

Cheers for a healthy relationship! 🍻

[B4852]

Absolutely! Just communicate with each other 🙂

[Asker]

Yes. Always! 😉

[B4852]

Very good 🙂

[jimmy2]

Whatever just do 😆

[jackinoff]

Honestly I'd rather cum in her

[Anonymous]

you and him are both in your 30s?

[Asker]

Yes we are

[Anonymous]

Yes men prefer you swallow. Some may say they don’t care, that may be true but most of us prefer you swallow cause it’s sexy as fuck. Also it’s like pulling out just as you’re about to cum. Don’t like that feeling. If a man could cum in a girl’s pussy all the time knowing she’s not going to get pregnant he would. So it’s sort of similar. Just be like Nike, you know their slogan lol be a hood girl, swallow.

[Asker]

Just do it. - Nike

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a good girl lol

[Anonymous]

I like for her to spit it in my mouth or tongue kiss me with her mouth full.

[Asker]

Some find it really sexy. But I don't think he'll appreciate that. And since I'll be trying it for the first time, so I think I'll focus on the first issue first. Then, once I get used to it, I might try what you just mentioned. Though, he passionately kiss me after he does me.