Stop putting out?

You and your partner are having sex a few times a week. One day your partner says they only want to have sex one to two times a month. Do you think that's fair. Do you think that would make them cheap

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  • They wouldn’t be my partner for much longer , cuz the truth is they aren’t my partner, they are a manipulative piece of shit , my ex wife pulled that shit on me , to find out she was having an affair, so I don’t tolerate that shit anymore , If a girl uses sex as a weapon to manipulate and control me, she is best to be prepared to be dumped or cheated on by me , , cuz to me that’s an abusive personality trait , when a so called loving partner is putting a limit on when you can be intimate with them. I would tell her, can I mark the days we have sex on the calendar? , so I know what days I am free to go fuck someone else? That would be my answer to that question , something I should of said to my ex. People that do that shit in a relationship don’t deserve to be in a relationship with anyone period , they deserve everything that happens to them , they don’t love you, they love themselves , they are selfish pieces of shit , the only way to deal with a selfish partner, sadly , is to be selfish as well , never be a sitting duck for someone that holds intimacy and affection over your head like you have to earn it , or you can only have it on their terms , if someone truly loves you , they would t be setting limits on when you can be intimate and affectionate with them period , it would even be an issue , when a relationship turns one sided , it is best to walk away , cuz they only like the convenience of you they don’t truly love you , I take commitment seriously , if you can’t wear my shoes like you expect me to wear yours , it isn’t going to work is the way I look at it , Life is too short to be with someone that only thinks what is best for them when they don’t consider your feelings and your wants , kick them to the curb where they belong

    • Thanks for MHO , if your partner is putting you on the calendar , then come to me the days you aren’t on the calendar 😘

    • Hilarious 😂 🤣🤣 do you know her... lmao

    • No, but I wouldn’t Mind knowing her lol

Most Helpful Guy

  • I think this is something that you need to discuss with your partner. A loving partner will want you to be satisfied, and even if they don’t feel the same level of desire for sex as you, they can either have sex for your sake or give you orgasms in other ways. It would be a good idea to suggest having their hormonal levels and physical condition checked, and also to make sure there is no porn addiction, cheating, or unresolved problem in the relationship that could be causing the reduced level of desire.

Most Helpful Girls

  • If a couple is married they are required to do their duty as far as sex goes. Not having sex is grounds for a divorce.

    Because the sexual drive is so powerful, the Bible encourages marriage in order to avoid sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 7:1–2). Marital sex is to be mutual and frequent so that husband and wife are not tempted to commit adultery (1 Corinthians 7:5). The Bible gives detailed instructions about marriage, sexuality, and divorce in 1 Corinthians 7. The bodies of a husband and wife belong to each other. Verse 4 says, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife.” This giving over of the body to the one we are committed to should eliminate any possibility of extramarital liaisons. When we understand that our bodies are not our own, that they’ve been pledged to a spouse, we can shut the door on any thoughts of loaning them to someone else.

    • How's that working out in the various sects of Christianity so far?

    • @loveslongnails Not everybody who claims to be a Christian is.

    • No shit, but that hasn't stopped them from going on their own crusade in the name of Christ and God, has it? More often than not, they're the ones with power or IN power, and the ones making laws. Florida, Kentucky, Tennessee, Arkansas, Idaho, Kansas, Georgia, Alabama, Mississippi, et al. Just ask them - they all think they're the BEST Christians,, and all the rest of the population needs to acquiesce to their version of it. Ironically, they are more of the anti-Christ than any atheist, agnostic or LGTBQ+ people will ever be.

  • Don't know what having less sex has to do with "being cheap." But I would sure ask them what's going on. If your partner is near your age, however, perhaps she is going through menopause and is having all the worst symptoms of this usually unpleasant hormonal time.

    If she's having a host of negative symptoms, she needs to see her gynecologist to find out what can be done to overcome these symptoms. Women have sweats, lose interest in sex, etc. But cutting down from 12 times a month to 2 times a month is a drastic change. Sounds like there could be a medical problem for sure.

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  • I would be concerned as to what changed. Sex is important in a relationship, and people should be with someone who wants the same amount that they do

  • No one makes a considered decision to reduce how often they want sex. It may decline over a period of time. But, not over a month or six. Speculating... they're:

    • Cheating and doesn't need as much.
    • Loosing interest and is bored.
    • There's a medical issue.
    • An STD
    • Impotence
  • Sex is negotiable

  • One day I would say to my partner -- that's not going to work for me.

  • It means she is getting it somewhwere else. A break up may be needed.

    Drastic changes like that don't happen like that for no reason.

  • I wouldn't care, sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship, it would actually make it more enjoyable believe it or not because the less times it's done, the more they will enjoy it when they decide to have sex.

  • I think it would be time to have a serious discussion with them to find out why.
    Sometimes as you get older, or just busier in life sex can take a back seat.
    You just don't have the energy for it, or time.
    It's not easy to feel sexy after a long tough day, or as we age your sex drive can diminish, or your partner is not a great lover, so the sex has not been all that great, or any combination of the above.

  • That would take some getting used to.

  • Means they lost interest

  • This would present a problem...

  • I would find it weird. Usually sex is unplanned. A few times a week then he wants to stop raises questions...

  • I’m don’t know how to answer that one. It’s one thing if that sorta happens naturally, but if she openly tells me that’s going to be the case, I’d be more hurt and upset and want to know why especially if we’re having it multiple times a week.

  • I don't know I guess that would depend your exact situation and where y'all were at sexually. But technically currently that is not enough for me. But Both of you should be at or at least around the same number of times.

  • its tough on the relationship

    did this happen to you?

  • Find someone else

  • I would need to have a more in depth conversation to understand their perspective/thoughts. It could definitely lead me to leaving the situation if I didn’t understand/agree with the actions.

  • Well for me that ain't gonna happen with the Women that I am with because they can get their ASS down the FUCKING street for real so Hell yess that is cheap an definitely no Damn good for a relationship not ever.
    God Bless

  • I'm just addicted to sex and I love it. It feels so good.

  • That would be very disturbing. And would warrant a long conversation about balancing our priorities as a couple. I don't think a relationship can endure a schism like that without a compromise.

  • Maybe Lost there mojo

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