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I try to limit my time on this site, but like where else can I write this stuff?
So like before, think if this like a blog post.
Today in the shower I was thinking about strip clubs because I recently went to one. And this is when it hit me that stigma around strippers is the equivalent of slut shaming for women.
I feel compelled to state that a woman took me out to a strip club to buy me a lap dance. And this is evidence that the stigma exists.
Why is this the ‘slut shaming’ equivalent for men?
The answer is simple. Unlike average women, average men cannot have sex with hit women on demand online from Tinder or other sites/apps.
Slut shaming originates from jealousy and acknowledgement of the ridiculous easiness of a woman doing something like that. Because it is so easy, people become offended because they are essentially taking advantage of privilege in some form for self-gain, hence slut shaming.
Why aren’t men slut shamed?
The answer is that the cause if slut shaming does not apply to average men. They cannot easily make a online profile and hookup to their heart’s content with little to no effort with hot women, therefore they are not slut shamed — regardless if they score or not, because if how difficult it is, they get high fives instead.
The analogy is like an Olympic athlete who dopes. They are only praised for winning evens if they do not take banned supplements, because banned supplements eliminate the integrity of the event by reducing the difficulty level.
Thus, if women want equal slut shaming for men, they need to be easy and then men could also be slut shammed.
But where can an average man go to see, touch, taste, flirt with and grind on hot women very easily with almost no effort? You know, strip clubs. And a voila.
This is why strip club shamming is the same as slut shaming for men.
A working man could easily walk in multiple times per month and touch and taste all different kinds of boobs, buts and bodies from a wide variety of hot women varying in age, race and height. Both real and fake boobs, different kinds of nipples, real and fake buts, shaven or unshaven etc.
And so, shaming does infact exist for men who take full advantage of these opportunities. Guys who get lap dances from all the hot girls in the club, or perhaps a few different local clubs, is seen negatively with stigma even though he would have absolutely no problem doing so just because he wants to easily, and with little or no effort at all, touch and taste a bunch of different hot girls.
Sound familiar?
That’s exactly the same mindset of women who use Tinder for hookups regularly.
So yeah, that’s why strip club shaming is the male equivalent of slut shaming. 🤟🏼
What Girls & Guys Said
11 30That’s why I rid myself of shame...
you ignore point not all stripper are of female belief. many stripper are male belief and women go and enjoy them same ways
I don't know its a stretch. I think broke shaming is what is really equal to slut shaming. Where men are called losers for not having a decent job and income. I've never been shamed for going to a strip club. I don't particularly like them and usually just get a girls number to hang out with outside the club. I'm not into lap dances or anything.
I love going to female strip clubs!
Yeah, the girl I went with thought it was cool as well. She wants to learn pole dancing.
I did a free fitness pole dancing class it was super hard but fun! But yea I like going
Can guysvpole dance too? Or just girls?
You're perfectly justified in this opinion. People are too sensitive.
So... Since I think strip clubs are gross and dehumanizing, I'm entirely justified in thinking the same thing about sluts?
when women are being sluts they are typically gross and dehumanizing themselves in the process. the only difference is that sluts are more socially acceptable in today's world. so if you see them from a different perspective then you're being a hypocrite in a way
I was about to upvote this but then you wrote:
"A working man could easily walk in multiple times per month and touch and taste all different kinds of boobs, buts and bodies from a wide variety of hot women varying in age, race and height. Both real and fake boobs, different kinds of nipples, real and fake buts, shaven or unshaven etc."
What kind of a strip club let's you touch the performers, beyond the bare minimum necessary to attach fiat currency to their g-string?
assuming you're from Moscow like your screename says. anyways here in america there are lots of places where you can touch just as long as you have money in your hand and dont abuse it. this is always promise either way if you get a lapdance
Man, lots of clubs allow full touching during a lap dance. Lots don’t. It depends on the location.
@Robertcw yea here in my state is allow during lapdance. so far I only gotten a lapdance from 1 stripper that was stingy enough to not let me touch. others were very cool, some even let me do a little more...
@CasaNorba UK here. It's an absolute no-go. Interesting to hear an American perspective though.
Strip clubs are subhiman
All promiscuity should be shamed.
Wrong
Absolutely not! I am a virgin and imagine someone starting a rumor about you simply because they don’t like you. This can mark you for life even though you’ve never been kissed... in all there is no unmarked women in our society. We can never win... meanwhile men can get away with it because people just say “oh men are like that, they will settle down be serious when the time comes. Who cares if he goes to a strip club, he’s a boy having fun.”
No that’s a another step.
Just being a man gets you shamed.
Stop saying average man lol. You mean below average man. A average man can get a 10 chick.
A below avwege nope.
A average man can get pussy anytime
I've always thought that gay shaming fot men is equivalent to slut shaming for women
Considering what skanks do when they go to male strippers, they have zero right to even mention negative towards males at a strip club.
not trying to defend women or anything but the "women at strip clubs" images are ripped off from porn flix. it is against the law to engage in sexual activities with strippers unless you get a lapdance which is done in a more private and discreet area of the strip club and not in the middle of the blue like the images depict
@CasaNorba I used to be a bouncer at a strip club and when the male strippers were there... women DID do exactly as the women in these images. Women are absolutely disgusting at strip clubs.
Sorry man i have to disagree with you on the slut shaming. You claim it stems from jealousy? Why would i be jealous of a slut? Why would i be jealous of a women that either every guy can have or HAS had?
If i have ANYTHING negative to say about sluts it's because they " fall in love" the guy doesn't lol, and when not surprisingly he tosses her to the side she comes crying to places like here. As though we're supposed to feel bad for her because she's a slut. I don't care how many guys she f***s if she keeps it to herself.
Exactly women are such HYPOCRITES and that’s why nobody but other women take them seriously
Ok
Both are shameful so what's the problem
nope, not really. since most people at strip clubs, aren't having actual sex. Being a slut means, you've had multiple SEX partners
Dude, lap dances are basically prostitution. Sure maybe you don’t stick it in the hole, but just about anything else is fair game. Of course it depends on the girl and her level of arousal. Sometimes they get into it, sometimes they don’t.
No dude. it's not. you're not having sex with her It's a lap dance, bottom line
Yeah so what? The guy gets all the same physical stimulation. There is no emotions obviously, but there aren’t in hookups either so I don’t see the difference.