SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?

There are two aspects to the question.

The first one is if you are a married Christian couple - are you required by church teachings to only have missionary sex and all other types are forbidden, like oral, anal and other sex positions? How about BDSM?

The second aspect is what about sex when you are a single Christian, does the church teach against that? How about if it is everything except intercourse so there is no chance of pregnancy? Like most sex ed courses teach that oral sex, fingering and other manual stimulation is not technically sex, etc.

What is your opinion? Please share or at least do the poll/survey.
SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?
No! Only vanilla man on top, woman on bottom, missionary sex is allowed in Christianity but you can have as much of that type of sex as you want
Vote A
SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?
No, most churches teach to completely abstain from sex even when married unless it is to bare children and only using the missionary position
Vote B
SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?
Yes, you can have any kind of sex you both agree on, no matter how wild, as long as you are married
Vote C
SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?
Yes, you can have any kind of sex you want and marriage is not required as long as you are in a committed relationship first
Vote D
SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?
Yes, any kind of casual sex is OK as long as you ask for forgiveness afterward as God knows we all have a time of weakness
Vote E
SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?
Yes, all types of sexual activity is allowed whether married or not and is not sinful but is beautiful in God's eyes regardless of marrital status
Vote F
SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?
OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the Christian Sex survey
Vote G
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  • Yes you can be a Christian and experiment. There is nothing in the Bible that forbids things like BDSM or oral sex or anal sex.

    The only principals in scripture against sex is:

    - Any sex outside of marriage (Of course I failed at this spectacularly)
    - Any sex with children
    - Any sex with animals
    - Any sex with family members (Incest)
    - Any sex that is non-consensual (Rape)
    - Any sex that is homosexual

    Now we are not saved by keeping the law and having standards that are pure. We are saved by faith in Jesus so yes technically you can just have Forgiveness but it's not right.

    So yes. Hope that helps.

    • Great answer Ms Erica! :)

    • THANKS!

  • Yes, all types of sexual activity is allowed whether married or not and is not sinful but is beautiful in God's eyes regardless of marrital status

    • Agreed

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  • Welcome back lauriel, and perhaps a bit early but merry Christmas :)

    • Thank you and Merry Christmas to you Mr Aurellius! :)

    • Tried to message that to you but it wouldn't let me with the way you set your message settings D:

  • Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

    If you are a Christian, you believe Gods standards for sexual purity. No sex outside of marriage, only sex within marriage. A marriage is only between one man and one woman. Period. Any other sexual behavior is outside of God’s plan.

    Those who advocate “ if it feels good, do it” are not speaking from a Christian perspective

  • i hope the powers above will realize i made a lot of men feel good... i hope i did... probably it's wrong but i didn't hurt anyone and i gave willingly.

    • Thank Goodness for angels

  • The obvious question is "which church"? Christianity is hardly monolithic. That said, Christianity is about following the teachings of JESUS, not of a given church. And I don't think there's much doubt that any group that claimed to be the rightful successor of Saint Peter has made some EXTREMELY dubious calls in that regard.

    So what did the Man Himself have to say about it? "But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:28). That's the most blatant thing he has to say about sex, and many interpret it as saying that lust is inherently wrong. But I disagree.

    The fundamental problem with the Gospels is a lack of context, since Jesus didn't bother to leave any writings Himself, and hasn't bothered to make a mass clarification to humanity since (hint, hint, Lord!). You see this with "love thy neighbor", which is followed by "who is my neighbor?", which gets the Good Samaritan story. Now I will bet you ANYTHING that those two statements were not part of the same conversation; Jesus wasn't saying that you should as you love yourself someone who will take serious risks for you and spend their own money and resources to ensure your safety. That pretty much goes without saying.

    What I think Jesus meant about lust and adultery was that they're both part of the same family, and that the damage the latter causes is pretty much there right at the start, so it's best avoided altogether. But since lust arises as a condition of human existence, rather than an act of will, it's not a sin (since sin, by definition, REQUIRES moral agency), and what should be avoided is the unfulfilled desire that leads to the rise of it. Given the social conditions of that time and place, that would mean within a marriage; in most of the first world today, the lines are a little fuzzier. But God made us pair bonding animals, and within the context of that bond, there's a requirement to go to great lengths to maintain it.

    So while I don't know the details of how God feels on the subject (though, again, if You want to explain, I'm all ears down here, Big Guy!), from a purely temporal point of view- which is the core of what the message is about, don't forget; "He is not God of the dead but of the living." (Mark 12:27)- I'd argue that one, as a Christian, has an *obligation* to experiment sexually, at least within the confines of a sexual relationship, and to the degree of comfort and desire of the partners in question. Obviously, there's more to a successful relationship than a satisfying sex life, but it's an important component, and a happy and content partner is a partner who'll stick with you.

  • 1 Corinthians 6:18


    Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

    Galatians 5:19


    Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,

    Hebrews 13:4


    Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
    1 Corinthians 6:9-10

    Or do you not know that the unrighteous[a] will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality,[b] 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

    So I guess that would be a no. Only Wishy Washy Christians do this.

    SURVEY: Can you be a Christian and still experiment sexually?
  • You can be a Christian and have sex with whomever you want and in any way.

    Of course you can also be a Christian and murder someone.

    Sin is inevitable. It's kind of a big part of the doctrine. That doesn't mean you're a good Christian. generally it means your struggling with your faith and not being a good example for those around you.

  • I voted f because what is marriage really except for a piece of paper. As long as no one is hurt do what you feel like doing.

  • To answer your first part of your question. If couples are married, they are more than welcome to explore your sexual limits, no matter what it is, because you are one flesh you are doing whatever you want to do within confinement of your marriage.
    Second part. Absolutely NOT! and there is a very logical and biological explanation, you don't even have to go all religious. If you play with matches long enough, you will catch a fire, it's just matter of time. If you tease yourself with an ice cream that you can see, smell and touch you WILL eat it. Exactly the same concept applies to sexuality, if you touch and tease and smell and taste long enough, you will break and do it, hormones will get the best of both of you.

  • You CAN, but you wouldn't be a very good one and you'd basically be a hypocrite. But hey, since when aren't people hypocrites nowadays?

  • The Catholic church will maintain their stand on sex for procreation. I believe the position isn't as important as long as procreation is the essence in mind. However, the Mister & I are freely practicing option C.

    • Can I ask you a question

    • @ManhattanMan1212 Yes?

    • Would you marry a man that only had average length and average girth penis?

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  • Christianity in the most raw form would say no to any non reproductive sex and being raised a Christian that caused a conflict of interest for me as I wanted a healthy experimental sex life not to mention premarital.

    So I had to cut back on the blind worship and instead opted to make my own way in this world. I am not a complete atheist but at the same time I no longer take the words of a book written by man as the law given to us by their version of God.

    So the answer is you could be both bit it would be hypocritical, as you go to church talking about saintly behavior and go home to rearrange you're wife's rear end. I don't like the double standard there

  • I mean, they molest children frequently enough…

    • Really and I think it is still going on in the Catholic church in many parts of the world

    • Oh, it absolutely is. And not just Catholics.

    • Excellent point!

  • Officially, usually grew up with the whole you can have sex as long as you're married. Didn't matter what kind, what position, or what time, all that mattered was that the both of you were okay with whatever it was you were doing. Was always told that sex was normal especially between a husband and wife and that there was nothing wrong with doing it period. Even hear that it's okay period so long as it's something that you both want to do and that there's nothing wrong with doing what a man and woman who are together will naturally end up doing.

    As for when you're unmarried, I've heard a lot of mixed opinions on that one as far as Christianity is concerned. Some have said it's ok so long as you're in a committed relationship, others say that it's sinful period unless you're married, some even saying the stuff you got on the polls like only missionary, only if you're having kids, etc.

    Personally, I think that it's fine so long as you're in a relationship and have some feelings in the mix. Never believed that God would condemn someone for acting on their feelings especially if they are genuine. In the end, I think that there are far more sinful things than sex that you could do as a Christian but that's just me though.

  • Where am from, church does not teach us a thing about sex. The middle eastern community has made sex the most TABOO thing so no one teaches anyone anything about it

    • That is sad :(

    • I moved to Sweden and i had the chance to explore, read and ask people about many things and so far am doing great 😁.

    • Nice :)

  • Fornication isn’t allowed in Christianity so no. In Catholicism it is a mortal sin and you can’t receive communion if you’re in a state of mortal sin. You have to abstain from any illicit sexual relationship outside of marriage.

  • You can be a Christian and do whatever you want. No matter what you want to do, there is some Christian denomination that thinks it's fine. Want to harass people? There are plenty of churches that think that's great. Want multiple wives? There are churches for you? Like beating children? Plenty of Christian churches love that.

    Anyway, there is absolutely no mention in the Bible of alternative sexual practices. Family structures in the Old Testament are notoriously variable. Concubines? Multiple wives? Slaves? Incest? It's all there.

    • So you're saying that each person just needs to make up their own mine?

    • Exactly, and if everyone involved is a consenting adult, no problem.

  • Missed ya tons girl , How have you been? And to give you an honest answer on your question I guess it just depends on what you beliefs are and how much you choose God to be your savior and how much Faith you have in the Lord , God gave us free will so what we choose to do is our choice whether it’s the right choice or bad , that’s something you have to ask yourself , I don’t think you will go to Hell just cuz you like it up the butt , but who knows lol , I am a Christian as well and I accept the fact that I am not perfect but I choose God to lead my way , especially when it comes down to relationships and marriages I follow God’s way as best That I can , It’s easy for all of us to be selfish and think what we do isn’t wrong, I don’t tolerate cheating that’s my answer to walk away but everything else I stand by my partner and try to guide her to stand by my side but Indont force her

    • Doing great, just very busy. Got some free time for the holidays so back for a bit. Thank you for noticing and the great reply, as always :)

    • Glad to hear that you are doing well and glad you still like my answers😋 hope you Have a Merry Christmas and don’t be a stranger 😘

    • I missed you a lot too. *hugs*

  • It is pretty much no cheating/adultry and no homosexuality. The positions or kinks really don't matter.

  • As I understand it if you’re married you can as much and whatever kind of sex you want with your spouse but if you’re not married and have sex you can be forgiven the only unforgivable sin is blasphemy against the holt spirit of course it does say sex between a man and a man or a woman and a woman is an abomination in the eyes of the lord and they should be stoned to death but I have a feeling this is something someone added years later to try and push their opinions it just doesn’t line up right that is if you believe in this sort of thing

  • I assure you that if a god exists, that last thing he’ll care about is what you’re doing in your bedroom. In fact, I’d go as far as telling you that if you are committing a sin, you are doing so I. Compliance with god’s will and god cannot punish you for it. After all, if he is all knowing, before he created you, he knew that you were going to commit a sin. And since you had no choice in being born, by creating you, god took away your free will. No free will, no sin and no punishment. Have fun.

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