Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Please share your opinion based off what you feel suits you and not what you think others should do with their sex life. Im typically judgmental af but today I just wanna see where everyone stands.
WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON…
1. Saving sex until Marriage?
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love?
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths?
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths?
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side?
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day?
7. Having others watch you have sex?
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch?
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? 10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? 11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)?
12. Never having sex again?
#FeelFreeToList #DeepDecisions
My Answers #1 I was very big on it but failed. I’d be tempted ro try again but its unlikely. #2 Thats the main goal. #3 Closer to a year but yep that's the goal. #4 Too soon for me but things aside from sex may happen. #5 Must be committed first #6 Absolutely not. #7 Yes but I’d need to be at least engaged #8-10 Absolutely not. #11 Maybe if i was 35+ #12 I’d be okay with that. Its good but overrated.
#Survey What are your thoughts on…?
DizzyDesii Editor
Updates:
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See answers above this. But as a tip— #1 When saving sex til marriage, remember other sexual activities can be done just not actual penetrative sex (of both holes) #2 Notice i said “in love” Which is a whole nother level from just loving someone #3 I dont consider anything under 6 months to be “longterm” #6 I couldnt do a one night stand because i prefer the person have been tested first. #8/9 I dont share. Fck that. #11 i prefer 0-3 yr age gap
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What Girls & Guys Said
8 401. Saving sex until Marriage? Indifferent... maybe?
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? Yup
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths? Probably
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? At a minimum.
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Nope
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? Nope
7. Having others watch you have sex? Unlikely
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? Unlikely
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? Unlikely
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Nope
11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)? It is a possibility
12. Never having sex again? More likely than finding someone
#12 lmao nahh i think you’ll find em
1. No, I need to know if it feels good before marriage.
2. Yes, no love = no sex.
3. Yes, longer actually, 3 years.
4. Exclusive is required, 3 months is too early though.
5. Not in a million years.
6. Fuck no.
7. No. Not unless the person watching is female, and hot af, and my girlfriend and her are both bi, and the other girl is just like my girlfriend, and likes us both, and other unrealistic expectations. Life isn't a harem anime (also testing, commitment, etc.).
8. No. If my girlfriend is fucking someone other than me, it's another girl, and I get (and like) them both, and they both like me, or she gets dumped for cheating (potential odds of it occuring and it working out = zero).
9. See 2, 3, 4, 7, 8, and and 10.
10. Thats what my girlfriend would be, I hate how friends with benefits is a term, if they are your friend, you care about them, if they are your friend and you have sex, that caring mentality results in a committed relationship, if it's emotionless sex, you aren't friends.
11. Yes, but thats the age gap limit, and only if in a relationship with her.
12. No. I'm patient, but not self destructive.
1. Saving sex until Marriage? Probably not
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? That's something I might do
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths? Something I might do
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? Probably
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Nope
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? Nope
7. Having others watch you have sex? Nope
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? Nope
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? Nope
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Nope
11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)? Nope
12. Never having sex again? Never had sex to begin with
1. Saving sex until Marriage?
I don't believe in the modern idea of marriage, I don't think having the government involved in your personal life is a good idea. If you want to have a ceremony and commit to each other than awesome. As to the question I just go with the flow, been married, been in long term relationships, have kids so the waiting ship has long since sailed but if that's what she wants I can respect that.
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? I think love is different for every person in regards to how they experience it, express it , and degree of intensity. So by both in love do you mean feel it the same cause that may be impossible, how do you measure that both people are?
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths? Sure? I'm gonna make sure you suffer like I do though.
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? Sure? I'm fine either way. You're the captain of this ship.
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Done this, it's not bad if you're not a jealous person
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? Done this also. Fun from time to time but not a good habit. Can leave you feeling depressed if it's a regular thing.
7. Having others watch you have sex?
Did this and it was actually really thrilling, even set up a page on the hub for a time
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? Had an ex that was dating another girl same time we were dating. It was fun to watch.
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? Threesomes are hard to get right, either it's amazing or someone is feeling left out. No middle here.
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years.
Coin toss. Either great or ruin a friendship.
11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you.
Got taken advantage of by adults when I was in my teens so the significantly older thing doesn't much appeal to me. 10 years younger would make her 22 and as fun as that might be I think the difference might be too big. She'd have to be like a really old soul or something lol. Maybe 5 years?
12. Never having sex again? I can go for awhile but forever? Doesn't sound great.
#1 yes i kinda want something not government related #2 just saying mutual and not one sided #3 lmao its not suffering. Masturbating eachother and oral are still likely. #5 i can be territorial so not for me #6 i need someone whos been tested first #10 yep insaid the same #11 i extremely sorry that happened to you. And i prefer a 3 year or under gap.
1) No
2) No
3) No
4) Okay
5) Sure
6) I don't think so
7) Yes. I think that would be hot
8) No
9) Yes - another girl, as long as my partner is okay with it
10) No - I wouldn't want to ruin the friendship
11) Yes/young, No/older
12) Probably won't anyway 🤣
#12 whys that
I'm single and old. 😫 😁
1. Saving sex until Marriage? Not for me
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? Also not for me.
3. Saving sex until you’re in a long term, committed relationship of 6+ mths? Hasn't been that way ever for me
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? That's more like it.
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Been there, done that.
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? Did that too.
7. Having others watch you have sex? It's happened.
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? not happened
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? Happened, liked it.
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Liked that too.
11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)? That happened - more than 10 years younger, 8 years older
12. Never having sex again? Are you crazy?
1. Saving sex until Marriage? Depends generally I can wait a few months untill she's ready but not untill marriage but if I really like her and we have a strong bond yeah maybe I would wait, never done it before.
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? I can wait a few months
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths? Yeah I can wait if she wants to do some foreplay it would be better but yeah, I can wait
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? Yeah
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? No I'm not having sex with anybody that's still in a relationship.
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? Back in the day yeah I would if she agreed
7. Having others watch you have sex? Nah not my thing
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? Hell no
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? I did it in the past with ex's girlfriend
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Yeah did it
11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)? Done it
12. Never having sex again? Hell no maybe when I'm 70 or 80 I'll stop
"But as a tip...". NO. You're wrong.
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WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON…
1. Saving sex until Marriage? Excellent plan. I 100% agree.
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love?
Again, I agree.
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths?
I agree.
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths?
1-3 months is "committed"? Okaaay...
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side?
Um, #Nope.
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day?
#Nope
7. Having others watch you have sex?
Hmm. Maybe.
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch?
HELL to the #NOPE!
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some?
Nope.
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)?
Nope
11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)?
If we're married.
12. Never having sex again?
"Again"? Whatchu talkin' 'bout, "Again"?
So since we technically agree on practically all answers, what am i wrong sbout
@DizzyDesii No sex before marriage means NO sex before marriage.
Making out, giving hickies, dryhumping, jerking someone off... thats not sex in my opinion. Sex to me is him penetrating the front or back hole of the girl
@DizzyDesii Wow. You really blurred the line there, girl. I think you need to go back to elementary school and practice some of those "which item doesn't belong in the group" exercises.
Well if you ask around to some, anal is not even sex. That one i disagree with. Its absolutely sex. But please tell me how the other 4 i mentioned are sex
@DizzyDesii I agree with you on that one. But that's precisely my point. You're lumping all 4 of them together. Kissing and giving hickeys do not go with touching another person's genitals.
I see dryhumping and jerking someone off as foreplay and practicing for whats to come when it gets to the actual sex. If people plah with themselves and discover how the shit works then i see no reason not to play with your partner or watch your partner play with themselves to see how it works
@DizzyDesii EXACTLY. It's FOREPLAY!! Foreplay is something you do 10 minutes before sex, not 10 MONTHS before sex! 🤦🤦🤦
Foreplay is for sexual arousal and even though it lead to the desire to have sex, it doesn't mean its only for the appetizer to having actual sex. So yes foreplay can be done months or years before. I dont need to sex someone to know if i want to marry them. But i do need to see their dick before i marry them. I may not like the way it looks. I admit the jerking off is an unnecessary step but shit im gonna get something out of waiting 🤷♀️
@DizzyDesii The whole point of foreplay is to be used as a warmup for sex. Even if you just do it by itself one day without going all the way, I guarantee you you're going to want to FUCK tomorrow!
(Or at least HE is.)
You've been sexually active before. I'm surprised you don't know this.
It depends on the person and their intentions. Me and my exes had no problem with foreplay. Even though the first pressured me into stuff, including the foreplay, sex didn't happen until sometime after 6 months. And with my other ex that i had sex with, it didn't happen until after a year and a half. So although i regret the people i did it with, i do not regret the foreplay itself. The third person will be the final because if things dont work out, im okay with not having sex anymore. Its overrated anyways and i enjoy the foreplay more
And as i stated above, we we went anywhere up to 18 months with just foreplay
@DizzyDesii So if it doesn't work out with the third person, you'll just become a foreplay slut? No offense lol.
If it doesn't workout, i’ll just simply focus on God, work and my kid that I’ll be having
Oh, okay. Cool.
#1. It very hard to not have sex to til marriage so I consider why not have some fun.2. yeah but the temptation is kind hard to resit if you just like them.3. I most go 4 or 5 months but I have waited 6 months to 2 years before.4. That's about the time me and the girls start just fooling around but no penetrative sex.5. Nah I feel like a being cheating. 6. I have done it more they a handful of times. Sometimes we are really sexually attracted to each other and maybe a little buzzed and are just want to have sex but I always used protection. 7. Yeah but it be someone's other idea than mine. 8. Maybe if was a girl and my girlfriend wanted a girl on girl experience. 9. I have more than my share of theesomes. 10. I have had 3 friend with benefits who where good friends. 11. I feel 10 years is a good limit but I have had sex with older women more than 10 years when I was in my 20s. 12. I only be giving up sex if I can't do it anymore.
#12 lmao i see
1. Saving sex until Marriage? Not for me
2-4. When she's ready. I'm up for it whenever but willing to wait
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Dating on the side is a deal breaker for me.
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? Not any more
7. Having others watch you have sex? Nope
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? Nope
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? Nope
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Not anymore
11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)? I'd be fine
12. Never having sex again? Unless we've been together for a long time and we can't any more, no I won't be sticking around
#2 Thats sweet #5 i agree #12 lmao
Having with some one I'm seeing that I care about
1. Rubbish, avoid marriage,
2. When both want it they should do it
3. If thats what she wants, maybe. But I wouldn't
4. Yea I would but not commitment like "I want control of you"
5. Yea why not
6. Yea why not
7. No get too nervous
8. Maybe
9. Yea, if that chance ever happens
10. Yea of course
11. Already happened (+10)
12. No I'm too much of a dick (no pun intended)
#12 lmao
1) no
2) yes
3-4) if she's had sex I will only make her wait 3, but 6 if she's a virgin. That's nonnegotiable, if she wants sex before then, she's not with me.
5) i go exclusive quickly, so we're exclusive usually within the first 1-2 months
6) no, but if she wants to get eaten out or give me a blowjob I will agree
7) not opposed to the idea, but probably won't seek it out. If she wants to do it I could be persuaded.
8) only another girl
9) only another girl, although I could be the other person if I was invited to a threesome while single
10) no
11) 10 years, yes 11+ years, no
12) no
#3-4 ooo understandable perspective #5 i agree about being exclusive after like thay first kiss which is usually within the first 1-3 months #6 wow putting your mouth there? Lmao will she at least get tested first 😂
I know of no girl who wants to get eaten out on the first date, at least if it won't lead to sex. It won't with me. Usually once we become exclusive I want us to be tested if we aren't virgins. I know if I break up with my girlfriend, I will be clean with the next girl, because you can't create something from nothing and we were both clean virgins. Nevertheless I will still get bv tested, because nonvirgins should always be tested in a new monogamous relationship. That's how my sister found out she had HPV. She doesn't know who gave it to her.
1. been married once so I can have all of the sex I want.
2. to soon because it might be 15 minutes after meeting.
3. I am okay with it.
4. I am okay with it.
5. No
6. no
7. I am okay with it.
8. No
9. no
10. no
11. I am okay with it
12. no
#2 you can love them by then but i said IN LOVE. Thats different
yes it is different, I stand corrected...
# 2 so both can be happy together and hopefully forever
I am a believer in abstaining until marriage I have so far succeeded
1. Saving sex until Marriage? No Way - a waste of time and an inviation to problems
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? Again no way, same reason
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths? Can't wait
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? Sounds better
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? No way
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? sounds good!
7. Having others watch you have sex? *possibly*
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? Nah
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? yes!
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Sure!
11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)? Yes
12. Never having sex again? May happen, horrible prospect.
Lmao you can't wait 6 months
1. Saving sex until Marriage? No, What happens if you dont like how your future likes it if at all?
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? Some take longer than others to realize
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths? No.
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? Maybe
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Yes thats fine!
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? I have!
7. Having others watch you have sex? Love it!
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch?
Yes please?
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? Yes please!!
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Done it
11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)? I have a couple of times
12. Never having sex again? (excuse me?)
#1 teach eachother #5 so you prefer an open relationship? #7 nice
#1 what if she doesn't like it? #5 Absolutely! What if she's horny and im at work? Id want her to be satisfied! #7 :-D
1. Saving sex untill marriage for me it is okay. And if am we are both insanely into each other. Then sex can wait lol.
2. Saving sex untill we both madly on love yeah possibly possible.
3. Yeah am all ready
4. He'll yeah
N. B all other options am totally against them for real that ain't my style. @dizzydesii
Lmao i feel You
Yeah dear starting from 4 to 1 all that is common and it is not news. So I can openly be ready for it.
I say I'm a Try-sexual. I'm up for anything that my partner is OK with. Had sex at 10, so that's out. Had a threesome, FMF. Kind of had a one-night stand. Had sex with someone ten years younger. Had one serious relationship, had sex in first month. Good lord. I failed this so bad.
Wowz