Ten Things That Most Guys Wish You Would Do In Bed!

Ten Things That Most Guys Wish You Would Do In Bed!

I am not the oldest contributor on G@G but I am certainly in the Senior Division. Some younger users may be asking, “What does this old guy know about sex?” This may shock some of you, but it is a fact that people have been having sex for a long, long time! Your great-great-grandparents were having sex in the 1800’s, and some of them probably had kinky sex. They had casual sex, oral sex, anal sex, and group sex. The same goes for your great-grandparents, your grandparents, and even your parents. Not all of them had group sex, not all of them had anal sex, etc., but none of these things were “invented” in the last 10-20 years. That means that old people know about sex.

Maybe you’ve been having sex on a regular basis for the past 3-4 years, but us “dinosaurs” have been having sex for 30-40-50 years. And we’re still having sex! There isn’t any rule that says you stop having sex when you reach 50 or 60 and most of you won’t want to stop at any age, not as long as you are physically able. So we have accumulated lots of experience!

After decades of having sex and talking to other guys about sex, we can tell you some things that you may not know and explain some things that you may not understand. Some of those things relate to the inhibitions and fears that women bring to bed and how those fears and inhibitions prevent them from performing at their sexual peak. Of course, every woman is different but there are some common things that affect many women and here is my list of the top 10 things that guys wish their girl would do differently when she gets naked.

1. Initiate sex sometimes

We don’t expect you to initiate the first few sexual encounters, but after we start getting comfortable with each other, we’d like for you to take the lead on occasion. We want to know that sex is not just something that you do for us but that it is something that you really do WANT from us. Initiating sex won’t be an insult to our masculinity. It will be an unexpected compliment.

When your partner comes home, he walks up to you and gives you a hug and a kiss. Reach down and give him a squeeze where it counts. Tell him “I need to feel you inside me . . . now! Meet me in the bedroom in 10 seconds.” He’ll be in the bedroom in less than 10 seconds, guaranteed.

Ten Things That Most Guys Wish You Would Do In Bed!

2. Ask us to undress you

Sometimes, we feel an urgent need to get naked and copulate but sometimes we are in the mood for a more relaxed, slower paced seduction. Don’t take off your clothes and jump into bed every single time! Ask us to undress you. It’s like unwrapping a package on Christmas morning or your birthday. It’s exciting, it’s different, and it conveys trust and intimacy in a very special way.

3. Don’t wait for him to ask! It’s your turn to undress him

Nothing gets a man excited in the same way as seeing our partner kneeling in front of us, preparing to pull down our boxers. The position does not mean that you are obliged to follow with a sample of your oral delights, but if you feel so inclined . . . :)

Ten Things That Most Guys Wish You Would Do In Bed!

4. Tell us what you want us to do

“Rub my clit in circles while you suck my nipples between your teeth!” You know exactly what to do to give your guy an orgasm. You have an easy “task.” Guys don’t have it so easy. What worked on the last partner may be quite irritating to you. Where do you want to be touched? How? With what – finger, tongue, penis, toy? How much pressure? How much motion? Most guys want to please you in bed because they know that a satisfied partner usually wants to return the favor.

Don’t be bashful or embarrassed! Help us out. It will be a big turn on to hear you whisper in our ear, “I want you to lick and suck on my clit while you finger my G-spot!”

If you only tell us when we are doing something that doesn't work for you, that will not motivate us to give our best performance! And if we happen to do something on our own that really gets you going, tell us that we've stumbled into the promised land!

5. Tell us your fantasies!

This requires trust that your partner won’t jump out of bed and run away when he hears that you have a fantasy about getting gang-banged or raped. But that leap of faith, that trust that you reveal when you share such intimate secrets, will make us feel a closer connection with you.

Ten Things That Most Guys Wish You Would Do In Bed!

6. Don’t follow a script

Kiss, French kiss, fondle boobs outside of clothes, reach under clothes to fondle boobs through bra, remove bra, fondle naked boobs, slide hand down to fondle pussy through panties, put hand in panties and continue fondling, pull down panties, finger G-spot until moans start, get on top and penetrate, speed up, cum, stay in place for about 30 seconds, roll over to side and gasp something about how good it felt. Sound familiar? Even if it's boring, it always feels good . . . always! Guys will tell you that there is no such thing as bad sex, but some sex is better than the rest, so . . . want it to be better? Don’t follow a script. Do something different. Get on top and put his hands on your boobs while you are greasing his pole! Get on top in a reverse cowgirl! Leave the lights on! Get in position for 69!

Ten Things That Most Guys Wish You Would Do In Bed!

7. Talk to us and make noise!

Nothing feeds our ego as much as knowing that we drive you wild. Unfortunately, we sometimes can’t tell whether you are aroused or asleep. My ex was the quietest sexual partner on the planet and she would close her eyes if I was turning all my attention to her. Many times, I really didn’t know whether she was close to orgasm or asleep, not until immediately before her orgasm, when she would have a few quiet gasps. I never felt that I was satisfying her but I really don’t think it was a lack of desire, creativity, or willingness on my part. She was just very inhibited and she said, “If I make myself make noise, it will feel fake.”

We don’t care if you feel fake or not; we want to hear noise. So fake it!

The reason that I say to fake it comes from experience. At one time, I was literally the stealth fucker! My partner didn’t know that I was ready to drop my bombs until she felt the warm, pulsating sensation that signaled my ejaculation. One of my partners asked me to make noise and, of course, I thought I would sound like some stupid porn star. But when I actually started doing it, I was amazed. Moaning and groaning as I was getting aroused actually made me feel even better! Really! So . . . fake it and you might be surprised. I know it doesn’t sound logical, but it worked.

8. Get started before we get in bed!

One of our fantasies is to watch you masturbate. Why? First, the idea of it just really, really turns us on and, second, watching you might help us to understand what to do to help you have an orgasm. So, sometime, when he doesn’t expect it, whisper into his ear, “Give me a two minute head start and then come into the bedroom. I have a surprise for you!” Then run into the bedroom, get naked, get in bed, and start the show when he walks into the room.

The first time you do it, you will probably just use your fingers but, the next time, you might change it up by using a toy. Then, if the idea turns you on, tell him, “Next time, you put on the show and I’ll watch.”

Ten Things That Most Guys Wish You Would Do In Bed!

9. Don’t be afraid

Be adventurous. Most men really don’t want a whore in the bedroom, but they do want a woman who will challenge her inhibitions and try new things. It doesn’t matter if it SOUNDS like it wouldn’t be erotic; give it a try! Never given a blow job? Try it at least once. Never let a guy cum in your mouth? Try it; no one has ever died from that experience. Never had anyone lick whipped cream off of your nipples? Never been blindfolded and tied to the bed? Never blindfolded your partner and tied him to the bed? Afraid of anal sex? (With the right partner, doing it the right way, most women find it at least arousing. With the wrong partner, done the wrong way, it can be painful; this accounts for all the women who say they did it once and never again!) Ask him to give you a rim job or to use a toy to give you double penetration.

10. Tell us when you are cumming

Sometimes it’s obvious and sometimes orgasm looks just like pre-orgasm arousal. Tell us when you are there. “I’m cumming! Don’t stop! Oh it feels so fucking good!” Utter those words and, if your partner is anywhere close to orgasm, he will cum like a fire hose.

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Instead of reading this and mentally agreeing and then just moving on to the next post, look back over the list and select just one of these tips that you will work on in the next encounters with your partner. You can put a silly grin on his face and have him begging for more.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • The undressing-one-another thing is best used sparingly.

    Also, need to be thoughtful regarding those fantasies. Share the ones that will actually advance the relationship. Some, probably the vast majority, are better kept to oneself - especially any involving another party, old flame, etc.

    All of these are a two-way street, though. Humanity-specific rather than gender-specific. That said, anything that clues in the clueless is a step forward. For humanity. :)

Most Helpful Guy

  • No.3 definitely. Really great Take. Everything nowadays is always about how bad guys are in bed and what they need to do, and so many chicks themselves fall short and are not the "naturals" at pleasing men that they so egotistically think they are.

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  • My favorite is, when a woman tells me she's about to cum.

    I would love to teach a sex-ed class to teach a woman how to be good in bed. Not only to teach her how to do everything really well, but to teach her all the different ways to achieve an orgasm.

  • Hmm, not bad... not bad at all... very true. there might be just a couple more but these are the core ones...
    a few more and you will cross into fetishes lol

    • I was trying to keep it mainstream! :)

    • You were definitely on point there my brother... especially with the "initiate" aspect. its irritating to have to ask all the time, that why it seems like we are the hornier ones. then when you don't ask, they say you don't want them. Well, we want to feel "wanted" too...

    • Yeah, women operate with too many bad stereotypes about guys!

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  • Older and definitely wiser, great MyTake.

  • It's funny how obvious these are and yet forgotten ALL the time. Good to be reminded. =)

    Nice take.

  • “What does this old guy know about sex?
    -Personally I think old peeps know much more than us (young) people because of experience. Who asks such shit?

    This take is so true that I got a boner multiple times. I will (and want her to) do everything except licking my cream from her boobs.

  • I thought these were all common sense

  • hehehe I wish I could save this for future use lol XD

    Some of these I already knew, but good to actually hear it from the male point of view :)

    • So highlight the text, copy and paste to say a Word doc, and oi la!! You've got and move the text to your phone so it's always handy.

    • hahaha true @AustinMan

    • Yeah educate yourself more 😏😂😂😂

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  • Amen..
    although #1 is going to have to happen most time. I rarely initiate sex. If she wants sex I figure she will tell me. So if she doesn't initiate it, it probably isn't going happen most of the time.

  • 1. Bring me to your bed.

  • *sigh* i need a man to even Start doing one of your advices... Which, I guess, I already know anyway... Just the lack of a willing Partner...

  • Nice take Bro.. . couldn't agree more!

  • I actually agree with this mytake, noone like a silent fuck (#7) lol

  • As a guy older than you here, I agree with all of the above, open communication is essential for a worthwhile relationship, just as much as mutual trust, honesty and respect.

    • There aren't many guys older than me on this site!

  • Great take. 😀👍

  • *taking mental notes*

  • 7: Yes talk, noise is optional. I find most noise a turn-off, except for soft gasps and moans. Screaming the place down seems fake if she's doing it for ten minutes. Like at 0:46 below, it's almost embarassing:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vH62qfOUlkY



    8: This depends on the guy. It's not my fantasy. I'd rather be doing the stuff to her myself, not least of all because she can do that stuff to herself whenever she wants! Isn't it hotter to have someone else pleasuring you?

    10. HELL YES.

  • A+ ideas!

  • Nice, old and wiser indeed.

  • good stuff! communication and beeing open is very important! but i dont agree with moaning. it annoys me and i prefer to hear (and see, lol) a heavy breathing.

  • Why do people have to make noises? Besides heavy breathing I find them annoying and wish not to do those. I masturbate so silently with no noise like a stealth ninja so the moaning from a girl probably won't turn me on.

    • To each his own but I can assure you that the majority of men want to hear some noise!

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