That Time My 28 Year Old Husband Had Major Hip Surgery and Lived to Tell the Tale (part 1/2)

In September of 2009 hubs fell down the stairs. No apparent reason. Really surprising. I was worried about him. After that his hip hurt. He thought he had hurt his hip falling down the stairs, but later we learned his hip collapsed and that is why he fell down the stairs.

That Time My 28 Year Old Husband Had Major Hip Surgery and Lived to Tell the Tale (part 1/2)


He went to his GP. He did an x-ray, obvs and had a radiologist evaluate it. The words from that radiologist who was either incompetent or lazy would haunt us for years “negative left hip.”


So at this time hubs was managing the construction of a new pipeline 2 hours from our home. He was staying there 4 days a week. LOTS of time on his feet making sure the pipeline was ok. Still a tremendous amount of hip pain.


About 8 months after the stair incident, he finally got a referral to an Orthopedist. He brought the same x-rays reviewed by the radiologist months earlier and the diagnosis was instant. The orthopedist said he had avascular necrosis of the femoral head. We don’t know if the radiologist was incompetent or just didn’t look. But he had a severe hip deformity.


I’ll get to the definition of his condition in a sec.


Avascular necrosis of the femoral head basically means. Loss of blood flow to your hip causing the place where your hip joint meets your femur to die.


There are many causes for lost of blood flow, including but not limited to severe alcoholism, deep sea diving, steroid abuse. But 50% of the time they do not know. And that was hubs case. Was it drinking too much mountain dew? Smoking weed? Who knows.


There are two options. Hip replacement surgery (at twenty-fucking-eight) or a radical procedure in which a surgeon removes your fibula from your lower leg and puts it in your hip, reattaching the vascular system and thereby restoring the blood flow that was lost.


Side note. 😂 I asked his doc if he thought consuming 6 mountain dews a day could cause this. Doc said “I don’t know, but no one should consume that many mountain dews in a day.” Lmao.


Hubs now alternates sparkling water into his soda regiment. (As he says, I know it is regimen and tease him).


Hubs orthopedist recommended a doc at Mayo Clinic (we live in Minnesota) but insurance was not willing to cover it. They insisted we see a U of M hip surgeon first. So we did. Turns out this guy’s colleague, a hand surgeon of all things, performs this surgery 3 times per year, with the assistance of the hip guy. This is because there are so many small blood vessels that need re-attaching.


So, it has been a year now since the stair incident and we finally found the right surgeon. His nurse schedules the surgery for 5 weeks later. Ironically Oct 22, 2010. If you know my mytakes you know hubs and I were at the same concert unbeknownst to each other on Oct 22, 1997.


The date finally arrives and he goes into surgery and somehow a friend from college appears to give me a hug and ask me how I am doing. The answer is: not well. My husband just went into major surgery and I am having a bit of a hard time with it.


My mom showed up shortly thereafter and I was able to introduce her to my friend from college. Mom and I went for a walk, we went to the co-op and bought stupid shit to keep our minds off what was happening.


Then finally 12 hours later I got the call from his surgeon. Everything went well. I will see him in recovery soon. I was so relieved I cried. I will continue in a part 2 about the aftermath of the surgery and our recovery process. (I say “our,”I know it was him, but the whole process was life changing for me too).

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  • Good MyTake. It sounds like his condition was something you do not see a lot of. He was lucky to find a surgeon that had experience with that procedure.
    Oct. 22 is a significant date. You should play those numbers in the lottery.
    Looking forward to part 2.

    • It is a rare condition. Only 3 surgeries like that by that surgeon per year.

    • At least he didn't just watch a YouTube video on how to do it.

    • Thank goodness! It’s really amazing if you think about it. 12 hours of surgery!

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  • 28 and a hip replacement... wow.
    Poor fella , I have hip pain from the army injury I got in 07 and I still have some issues especially in winter

    • He gets pain when the weather changes too. 😂 Makes him feel old.

    • Lol , I get those pains too... Hip , feet , shoulder and now my knee. Once you hit 30 the check engine light comes on. lol

    • Lmao! I guess his came on at 28. It has always been precocious.

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  • I'm glad it went well, loves2learn, and hope that he recovers quickly to be better than new.

    • @lliam it was almost 11 years ago. He has mostly recovered. As my neighbor so delicately put it “your hip surgery must not have been that bad if you got her pregnant.” 😒 It was that bad. And we had been talking to our surgeon about when we could have babies. Our last appointment we were able to tell him we were expecting. He asked what I thought we were having because mothers intuition. I said “boy” and I was right.

    • 😄😄😄 Yay!

  • That fucking X-ray is more brutal than the first 3 Saw movies.

    • 🤣🤣🤣 I saw all of them too. That is the x-ray that doesn’t show his junk. True fuckin story. 🤣🤣🤣

    • Do me a favour and don't show me that one.

    • Not showing anyone that one lol

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  • That is tough to live through, for him, as well as you, for so long not really knowing so much.
    I'm glad it came out, at least OK!

    • Life is so worth it @jacksmy

  • Loves, you and your husband have my understanding and sympathy.

  • Thank you for sharing

    • Thank you for commenting

  • Yikes sounds really painful

  • Hey you're a good storyteller, and I'm glad this one ended good for you guys.

    • Thank you very much. 😊

  • Gotta love insurance.

    • True that. We paid $3000 for a $120,000 surgery.

    • I'm happy for you. It could have been devastating.

    • Honestly the surgery was devastating. Took time to heal from that. Shockingly enough he had terrible shoulder pain and trouble peeing after surgery. We did NOT expect that.

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  • I believe this was like a year or 2 before your oldest son was born?

    • That is part of part 2. But yes. We conceived him in April of 2011, 6 months after the surgery.

  • Wow, that’s a traumatic experience! I’m so happy that things have turned out well for y’all!!! 🤗 And that stress during pregnancy 😱

  • Poor guy, poor you. Hope you sued that first radiologist.

    • We didn’t. We should have.

    • Well I'm sorry to hear that you didn't but sometimes things started work out that way I found. Anyway hope he's feeling better now.

    • He is feeling better! And it is a permanent fix. Unlike hip replacement.

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  • wonder what caused the bone to break in the first place

    • Me too. Unfortunately we will never know the root cause of the avascular necrosis.

  • omg hip replacement surgery is so painful. I heard of it from a couple of my friends.

    • It was incredibly painful. Yes.