Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
It really has been a thing between us since slave days, and I don’t think anybody really knows why. Or there may be more than one reason. We’ve always been fascinated with each other, and it hasn’t always been good or bad. They like our skin, black male frame, our voices, and thick lips. We like their beige skin and the contrast of brown and black hair against it, the way they pull their hair behind their ear, their pink lips, and their voices. We are perpetually appealing to each other.
In today’s times certain groups of females have developed their own hateful ideas for why black men and white women have been coming together, only to slander black men and hold white women in contempt. You do have some negative cases for the reasons some come together, but it goes deeper than that for most of us. So for me, I want to detail what I love about coffee and cream, but also the things I do dislike. There'll be some who have to hate this post, but hey, let 'em have at it if it helps them sleep better tonight. The rest of us will celebrate the message.
How it is for me...
For me personally, liking white women goes a little deeper than skin. A lot of it has to do with my upbringing. My family is black, but we are actually very diverse and more open-minded, plus our sister was half white. Even our mom taught us that it's okay if we're not interested in dating our own, and that there's nothing wrong with being different. So although I do like white chicks, I'm also obsessed with Latinas, Filippinas, Malaysians, and East Europeans. A lot of this is also due to the fact that I've always been interested in other cultures and societies. So over time you develop more of a desire to connect with different people, especially when you're different from your own.
The sexual pull...
There is a beautiful contrast of light and dark in relationships between black men and white women, it does have a very nice look, even if neither of them may be very special-looking. It also has the beauty of the fact that these two people of different races can't get enough of each other and that race won't keep them apart. I have known some white women who honestly say they're not really into black men though, and it really doesn't bother me. Some black men think it's racist, but it is what it is. Some of them just aren't interested, and I'm not offended by that.
I must admit that I do like the way a lot of white girls are either obsessed with us or turned on by our blackness. It is flattering. But we black men feel the same way. Even as a little boy meeting white girls in school and in predominantly white communities gave me a spark and made me want to impress them. Neither one of us can get enough of each other. I do like that. We're both so damn curious. We want to see what sex with each other looks like or feels like both mentally and physically. We both want to show our passion and vulnerabilities admitting themselves to each other in the sheets. We can't help it. And I don't know about you, but there is something particularly sexy about a white girl on her knees being subservient and giving a black man a blowjob.
White girls can look good too...
I do like those beige beauties, but not because I think white skin is superior to dark. In truth I think black women are actually some of the most physically beautiful women in the world with some of the best bodies, and the big-breast factor in our women is always appealing. But I also like beige girls because of their own beauty, especially when they have dark hair. And, yeah, it is always nice to see a white girl with big, heavy breasts, which the appeal in that probably does come from the fact that I've grown up in a black community.
However, the really thin ones who are crazy about being health conscious and are vegetarians or vegans are not so special-looking, lol. Some of them have pretty faces, but they tend to look somewhat ill. A white girl with a normal body is fine to me. And I do like redheads, who doesn't? I also notice redheads tend to be busty ;-)
Character and personality...
Although every person, even of the same race, has a different personality, there is a kind of character and personality that can be stronger in different races. One of the things I like about white girls is their bright expressiveness and enthusiasm. Sure, some are blahzay and not very colorful, but in a lot of my experience there is a difference. Some women of other races tend not to be very surprised about anything, or don't express much surprise, but with white women they can be quite expressive. I love the way they just burst into major thrills when they see my artwork and 3D origami models that I make. They really enjoy it and get really animated about it, to the point where I can be shy about it in public, lol. Some of them will buy it from me right on the spot, and they like it so much that they will even pay more than the price I set for it. I do notice that white females tend to have an appreciation for stuff like that.
Even in conversations, white girls tend to be more enthusiastic, which I do like. Though sometimes depending on the topic and the mood, I just want to close my ears, lol. But overall their enthusiasm keeps me sprung and can even make my day. Even their voices can be sexy - not the ones that talk super proper or Clueless-like lol - just the basic sound of the white female voice.
Being a lady...
Although you have many white females today all about independence and giving up feminine values, you also still have many others who don't mind cooking, being a feminine, loving mom, being into traditional feminine activities, and being ladylike. Some black people who oppose white women and think black women are better call this being "docile," and even say it about Latinas and Asian women. It does still seem to be that white women still care more about feminine values in many ways, and I do appreciate that.
Even in Europe, particularly Eastern Europe, they are very traditional and feminine, and their men seem to take it for granted, especially in Russia where domestic violence against women is high. No wonder they want to be taken care of by men in the west who are more liberal. American women try to say European women are gold-diggers and only want us for the money, yet American women marry and divorce at much higher rates, and also for the money, so they're not in any position to accuse anybody. Russian men have low life expectancies, terrible alcohol problems, and take their problems out on their women. So they really have no right getting so angry when Russian women want to leave, or would rather want to be with black men who come into the country.
The things I hate...
Wannabes:
If it's one thing I absolutely cannot stand, it's the white girls who feel like they need to be black in order to be with black men. They start talking black and acting black, and will try to put on that pinched, stern face when they're with their kids in public, because they see the ghetto black mothers doing it so they try to imitate it too, and say the same kinds of things, "Get ova here 'fore I whoop your ass!" or "Disrespect me again and watch me slam your mothafukcin' ass in the floor." I hate that shit so much. It's like I always say: just because you have a black boyfriend and some half black babies does not mean you have to talk and act black!
Some try to justify it and say "It's just who I am," just because they like black people or grew up around black people. And then others do it to fit in, especially with their black girlfriends so they'll be more accepted, knowing that black women have slandered white women for being normal white with the way they talk and act. It's weakness on the part of black women to only accept a white girl into the circle if she acts like them, showing no tolerance for different people, but it's also weakness on the part of any white girl to be afraid of being real and choosing to make a fool of herself acting like a whole other race.
Black men's need for big butts:
This is one of the most annoying things about coffee and cream relationships. A lot of black men are ass men, and you have the ones who will date a white girl just because she has a big butt, even if she's not attractive. I feel so alone sometimes because most of my black male friends are ass men and I'm a tits man.
There is a tendency among a lot of black men to want to date a big girl because of their need to s*domize a big butt, and I'm just not one of them. No doubt, nice full female butts can be very nice, especially on Latinas for me, but I don't need them to have it. And while I do like big breasts on white girls, I don't actually seek them out nor would I date them just for that. I've known some busty, sexually attractive white women I would still never date because of their foul, stuck up, bitchy character, which that alone repelled me. I know how to draw the line.
Black men who like to sport:
I also dislike the brothas who like having a white girl on their arm just to show off to friends. These are usually the guys in the ghetto, who aren't exposed to white girls too regularly, and feel like they've really won a prize that a white girl was into him despite his ghetto-ness and community. They like to make a show of their relationship in public by kissing and touching and hugging and calling her "boo" loud enough for the rest of us to hear. But then, the fact that white girls go for those guys and are okay with the advertisement says they like it just as much.
Some white girls just want to use black men:
Some white girls are not genuine about their attraction to black men. For them it is all about the sex. You do still have a lot of them that hear about our penises being bigger and they think they've just got to have it, and it's not impressive to me. And it's also contradictory: they don't want to be objectified for being blonde or as a white female sex toy on a pedestal, yet they will objectify black men for their genitals. Some white women have even told me they themselves are annoyed by other white women doing that, and say it's disrespectful and unfair to us as black men.
White women like that are also the same ones who would never stand up for black men or black people period when it really comes down to it. They like the sexual aspect of a black man, but on the wider scale of issues, we're just another n-word to them they really could care less about. We don't matter to them as a person.
White women who like hoods:
Similar to the previous one, what's also annoying are the white women who like black men, but only if they're hoods or thugs. In their minds, they think a ghetto black man is the epitome of a real man or a strong man who knows what to do or is somehow smarter than a white man. White women like this couldn't make bigger fools of themselves, and show the truth about their own class and ethics.
You even have some who are sophisticated, have careers, and appear like clean, decent upperclass white females, but in their private lives they like hoods and like having them over at their apartments on the weekends so they can fukc all day. White women like this are the scum of the earth. They use them for the sex and think hoods are better in bed or are willing to do all the gritty, dominant stuff she wants - which hoods will do. Both are foul to me, and she deserves to be in the projects of Anacostia and Congress Heights just as much as he does.
Coffee and cream is beautiful...
Despite these downsides, black men and white women together is still a sexy and beautiful age-old classic, and many relationships between them are loving and genuine, sometimes more than same-race relationships. Learning can be very valuable too, as it also offers each other the perspectives of the other races, and a look at their worlds. It's wonderful when white mothers are humble and acknowledge the racist world out there enough to teach their biracial children that they can face challenges because of it, and care about their biracial sons' safety in police violence issues just as much as they would if he were white. It's also great when a black man can be welcomed by her family with open, loving arms, accepting him just as much as if he were white, and even better when they don't care that his kids are half black.
Cheers
What Girls & Guys Said
23 36This made me cringe.
Are you white or black?
Black.
Ah. Then there ya have it.
If black guys think white girls are worth that much, go ahead and have them.
Lmaoooo cruel
Great take
"In today’s times certain groups of females have developed their own hateful ideas for why black men and white women have been coming together, only to slander black men and hold white women in contempt."
The arrogance of some black men is starting to enter the realm of delusion. First, black men generally slander black woman, not the other way around. I believe it is because black men need to justify the idealization of white women and they do so by denigrating black women. Second, this was all types of creepy and reeks of fetishism. If this were a white man writing about Asian women this post would be labeled as racist. Third, and most importantly, whom you choose to date is your own business and really should have less to do with someone's race and more with character.
I do not speak on behalf of all black women, but I personally am tired of black men trying to make it seem like they are oh so desirable black women are beside themselves when a black man dates white women--that's wishful thinking. Black women are free to date whomever they want and I have yet to meet one tearing her clothes and spreading ashes all over her face in mourning of black men/white women relationships.
I have only dated and slept with white men. Partly because that is who is around me and mainly because the men I have had most in common with have happened to be my white classmates and acquaintances. ((Do you have any idea how difficult it is to get the black men I know to go to a country music concert, a craft beer festival or hiking?)) I do not classify the men I date by race. I don't fetishsize white men or put them on a pedestal because that would cheapen them as people and be disgraceful on my part. You and other black men like you should do yourselves a favor and start viewing your lovers as women first, not "white" and let go of the ego-centrism our society lets you get away with because of our "poor, misunderstood black man" narrative. You are not ALWAYS the victim. Now enjoy your relationships in peace knowing the majority of black women are indifferent towards your choice of mate lol.
tha'ts cool. just a bunch of inane stereotypes...
Lol i am white and no one find black men attractive only slutry useless white girl like them
black guy pursue them aggressively and if a white girl is not getting attention from white guy she would probably say yes or she have daddy issue or she is slut
It's black guy who are obssed with white girl and like to fantasized about them believe me most white girls don't like them
You are self hating even if you get a redhead your kids would still be black lol sadly that sultry white girl won't even look like her kid's mother and those are
for being self hating excuses shame on you
Everyone knows that white girl look best compare number of white guy who like black girl vs black guy who like white girl we still prefer our white men 😘
You know why you get trashy white women? because trashy white women are the only one who date black men. And since it is a achievement for them to get them they tolerate them lol in the hope that their kids would look white sadly they never look white
I am half russian yes dad is Russian lol not Mom most russian girl love russian guy after which they like other white ethnicity lol if there was no white guy in the world i would have dated a Latino middle eastern or Asian men at least their iq is not as low as black and they raise their own Kids and they don't look as ugly as black guy.
Most white women who are dating black guy are ugly slut or gold digger.
Start loving your own women black girl also need love instead of tolerating a fat slutry trashy white girl black guy should start liking their own women black women also need love
You're simply a racist Russian, and that's not uncommon. You're better off reading my other Take: White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other ↗
I am not racist think about it most women want to date or marry men who earn more than them lol black guy's don't have money
Lol keep dreaming sometimes i feel bad for black women even their own men dont want them they would rather chase a fat ugly slutry trashy white women over sweet slim educated black women
You are self hating black men lol it is not common
By the way preferring your own race which black men need to start doing is not racist most people want kids who look like them.
Black girls are nice too...
As a white girl i find Latino men a lot hotter, most of the white girls going for blacks are overweight or just unattractive
I dont like how its always "black men and white women black men and white women" like UGH, as a white woman i strangely feel objectifed. Also I think Latino men are much more attractive then black men and from what im aware there's more Latino / White interracial couples then Black / White yet you dont ever hear people talking about Latinos now do you?
Lame.
That's fine, it doesn't offend me. I also like Latinas. I'm not sure I'd say Latino/White relationships are so much more common. It's pretty common for black men and white women to be together, and the number of mixed children in the U. S. who are half black and half white pretty much shows that.
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Just be fair and tell your partner your past...
No need to expose someone to a higher risk of catching HIV
How is this not racist?
There are a lot of girls who want to feel big black mamba much in their stomach.
Lol.
You're talking all sort of shit. I'm white and don't find black men particularly attractive. Where are you getting this from?
And that's fine. But just because you don't doesn't mean other white girls don't. It's very common.
No not really. Not unless they're overweight
the trouble I have with white girls is that yeah I can get any number of them but only for sex, these liberal feminist chicks want the street cred for having dated a black guy and therefore easing their white guilt or throwing up in some future conversation how they aren't racist because the used to date black guys. So many white chicks will date a black guy but would never marry one of us. White chicks with Black guy sexual fetishes are the worst like my ex who I dated through college until we broke up and two years later when she was marrying a white guy her Dad approved she was on my doorstep looking sex the day before the wedding. Every time I date a whiye chick its the same story its just sex and thats it and single black chicks be either single moms (nobody got tome for dat) or too career oriented for a relationship with them. My good friend who is also black hit it off with a nice European girl from Germany who wants a serious relationship and doesn't bring her white guilt or any racist baggage into the relationship so maybe Europe is the answer.
Definitely true.
European women are much more open minded and overall better women in my opinion
I think anyone who is in love with whoever is beautiful, we need so much love in this world.
Black guys in the US do not raise their kids. There are widely available statistics on this. Stupid white girls end up giving her parents another kids to raise. I wouldn't touch a white girl that screws black guys as it is revolting.
As a "black" man who often dates women who are not "black" I find a lot of this post to be truthful and agreeable. However as a humanist, biologist, and human I find a lot of this post to be absolutely cringe worthy. In fact there's so much I find cringeworthy that it's prompted me to write my own mytake. Certain things like the "hoods", black men's "need" for big butts, the part about russia, the docile stuff, the sparse commentary on personality, and like the whole intro just made me uncomfortable. And the way you've written this as an authority for black man white relationships is bothersome. Really wish you would've made it sound more personal than general. I'd be fairly upset if the next girl I dated believed that these were the reason guiding my actions. At the end of it all my biggest point is, just like in non "interracial" relationships, everyone dates for different reasons and thinks different things.
*facepalm* It was from a personal perspective, but also observational. In any case, cheers. It doesn't bother me.
Yes that is exactly what I was thinking anon. He seems to think he is an authority on these kind of relations and these are the best kind of relationship scenario
To the my take owner. You may have thought this was written from a personal prospective but that did not come across in your writing.