The case against anal sex: Why you shouldn't do it (OR allow it to be done to you)

Hi, so I base this on my experiences during my "experimentation" phase when I was younger, as a product of molestation as a child I was confused and in several gay relationships when I was in my twenties.

I also base this on my understanding of human psychology and spirituality.

Personally, I believe that the vagina was designed for receptive sex. The nerve endings are in the right places, and it's musculature are perfectly designed to offer full stimulation of the penis.

Anal, on the other hand, requires a lot of preparation. An enema (Fecal particles are an abrasive), lots of artificial lubrication, and a lot of foreplay are usually necessary to lessen the discomfort.

There will always be some fecal bacteria left, no matter what you do, making analingus a very dangerous practice. It could literally make you very sick. Feces, or shit, is eighty percent harmful bacteria. (80%) Arguably your penis has no business being in such a dirty place. There is a reason why the smell of shit instinctively makes us gag and want to get away.

Going from her anus to her mouth, or her vagina, can make her very sick, or result in a urinary tract infection.

Then there is the pain associated with the penetration of the anus. It is a violent act, and the woman is at the mercy of the man, who, most of the time, usually has ZERO clue how much it hurts. He can even misinterpret her moans of pain for moans of ecstasy, thinking he has free reign to thrust even harder.

As I said I have been there, myself, in my twenties. I think I started going into shock my 'first time'.

Now, is that something you want to do to your mate, your help meet, your lover, your companion?

There are unforeseen consequences, as well.

When a woman is kneeling before you, stripped of her clothes, she is at her most vulnerable. If you choose to cause her pain when she is there for you, she will remember that. I personally believe many relationships go sour because of a man's selfish, self-serving decision to cause his woman anal pain, while he only feels pleasure. This is the death of compassion for a couple, and the antithesis of empathy for another human being.

To me, this is the most selfish sexual act there is.

You are saying her natural body isn't good enough. You want to enter into a very unseemly, unnatural act, that sometimes, oftentimes, puts her in excruciating pain, but she bears it, for you. It is erotic in it's sacrificial undertone, her taking pain for your pleasure, but it is not healthy, long term.

Some women claim to love it, and I wonder what kind of self esteem they have.

To me, if you are a woman who has a man who wants to "try" anal, you need to find a man who actually cares for you. A man who isn't willing to possibly cause you a lot of pain for his pleasure.

I know what they say. That it is possible to do anal without any pain... And that is actually a lie. Everyone's body is different. Penises vary in length and girth, and some anuses are tighter, some smaller. Some men screw and pound like animals, others are caring, sensitive, taking cues from their lover. Nobody can EVER say "If you do this it will never hurt" that's just a plain lie. There are too many variables for that to be true.


I believe this poor woman has a boyfriend or husband who engages in anal sex. You cannot stretch that muscle violently during anal sex and expect everything to remain normal. It was the case for me, accidents increased, and as I said, I have first hand knowledge.

There is a good reason why it hurts. There's a good reason why lots of artificial lubrication is necessary.

A woman losing her virginity will experience some pain, maybe even a little, but never anything like anal sex hurts. I believe it damages her soul, her heart, and her ability to love. When homosexual men ask when anal will stop hurting, the answer is always "Keep doing it until it doesn't hurt!" Meaning until they get so stretched out it doesn't hurt any more.

But why put your mate through that in the first place? Why risk her anger, her bitterness, her resentment of you?

The anus is a single muscle that gets stretched out, then that's it. The intestines have very little in the way of stimulation, compared to the muscular vaginal wall, which is designed to stimulate the full penis. The intestinal wall is only one cell layer thick, then it's blood, making it very easy for her to get sick.

Again, why put her through this? Do you love her? Is she your everything? Are you grateful to her for being in your life? If the answer is yes, why put her through hell for what will ultimately be an empty sexual act that brings less pleasure than the vagina? The enjoyment of anal sex by either party is more psychological than physical, and results from a twisted view of self, the world, and love.

In my opinion, anal sex is cruel, and barbaric. It was used by conquering armies years ago to humiliate captured enemy soldiers, some of whom went on to commit suicide after. They were shamed and no longer considered warriors.

As I said before, I have intimate, personal, and first- hand experience with both giving and receiving of anal sex. I think most men who want to "try" it with their mates have zero experience, and cannot fathom the agony it can cause to someone they claim to love. They just don't know.

Think about it, men. Think about what you may be doing, and think about the damage it can have to your relationship. There is a part of her that was designed for sex all along, which will yield more intimate bonding than putting your penis where her shit comes out, hurting her body, her heart, and her soul.

Don't do it.

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  • Never been interested

  • That video made me want to cry.

    • What do you think she said to her boyfriend when she came home? "Oh dear, let's have anal!" Or did she tear him a new anus? It's just not worth the possible trauma to someone you claim to love. Women instinctively do not want to be hurt during sex, because they know it will corrupt their hearts.

    • I definitely think the negatives outweigh any positives whatsoever. (Although I don't see positives to it myself) Your mytake was an interesting read, not something I have given much thought, but I feel better prepared now because of it.

    • There really aren't any positives to it. It is so artificial and contrived.