The chemistry of love

[Anonymous]

Nobody really experiences love at first sight because true love involves an array of feelings that you cannot experience all at once. Oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine, adrenaline and adrenochrome, cortisol, these are all involved in what is called love.

True love begins at first sight. Especially for men, but also for women during fertile phases. It is based on how dimorphic your face and body are. A man looks for a feminine face and body, a woman looks for a masculine face and body.

Behavior

Then comes your attraction to their behavior. Women look for men who display the evolutionarily conserved behavior pattern of rutting. This occurs when oxytocin and dopamine is highest and serotonin and cortisol is lowest. It causes unpredictable bad boy ish behaviors but also oddly pro social behaviors.

Think of Christian Grey, when he saved his girl from her drunk friends trying to come onto her. That's oxytocin. Think of how focused he looked when he flew her around in the helicopter. That's dopamine.

Serotonin and cortisol are associated with starvation. This is why religious people fast, fasting raises free tryptophan, the precursor to serotonin. Serotonin based personalities are therefore weak personalities, or meek personalities. Not necessarily bad, but they are not indicative of optimal health. (what women seek when choosing a mate.) Like Christ said, the meek will inherit the earth. But they didn't get pussy in the meantime. (Christ was probably using the meek Gaius Augustus Julius Caesar Octavianus versus the proud Gaius Julius Caesar as his unmentioned example.)

(I don't believe Christ was saying to be meek, I simply think he was saying that being meek is not always bad.) Most women intuitively think they'd rather date Satan than Christ, in a theoretical scenario. Simply for the reason that Satan's behaviors appeal to an instinct in women meant to detect optimal health. It's worth noting that Gaius Augustus Julius Caesar Octavianus had digestive issues that made him fast.

Many women swear they're more attracted to a mans personality than how he looks, although ideally they want both. (that's why Satan was known as the best looking angel.) They aren't lying. This instinct is so deeply ingrained in women that they are literally disgusted by a man who seems to be struggling. And by struggling I mean struggling to find food, since for most of history, thats all humans did and thats what determined if a man was successful or not.

Food

You may think "everyone is a winner nowadays then, nobody is starving." But the reality is that most people are starving worse than ever before. As Nietzsche points out in The Gay Science, people have developed special psychological needs (that have been exploited by religious teachers) due to overconsumption of grains and potatoes. These dietary patterns also encourage the use of alcohol and other drugs, according to the great ANTI NIHILIST, pro life Nietzsche.

We know that the amino acids found in milk and meat will promote a dopamine surge in the Brain. If you took free tyrosine a change in your personality would occur within minutes, a change women would be attracted to.

Another amino acid, glycine, only found in meat like the tongue of an animal, or the bones, skin and joints of an animal, has been shown to protect dopaminergic neurons. Its no coincidence that Latino cultures that eat dishes with cow tongue or lengua, and real bone broth, are happier. (serotonin makes you moody, not truly happy. And eating good food makes you happy. Starving makes you moody.) It is worth noting free tryptophan supplements were banned due to causing deaths in the 1990s.

Chemistry

The chemistry of love is less complex than the theories I've just outlined above, but still harder to understand, because it's a raw reality. There are no allegories involving binarily good and evil creatures in science, true knowledge. Which is very painful to read, the pain coming from realizing your beliefs were mistaken. A stressful feeling. Many science deniers exist among us for that reason alone.

First, a little philosophy to build off of (like Aristotle said, thoughts are had and then comes evidence, not vice versa.) What is what is called love? Love is the stimulation to get closer to something you need, therefore, love is when farsighted idealism meets short term egoism. When security and familial harmony blends with sexual attraction.

An aside: It's worth noting that serotonin is associated with depression, contrary to the popular belief that serotonin cures depression. Serotonin, like cortisol, is associated with stress, infection, and starvation. But cortisol can help severe inflammation, and serotonin can alleviate severe depression. In very high doses, serotonin signals to the brain that you are dying. This is why serotonin drugs like LSD, DMT, psilocin, and mescalin cause the dreary feeling of dying. Coinciding with a loss of brain power (the brain is trying to conserve energy to increase your chances of survival, so the prefrontal cortex turns off, this is the logical part of the brain that can make chess professionals burn five hundred calories in a day, the equivalent of walking five miles), you will lose sense of time, space, and the will to live. Paradoxically, you can feel happier as it makes you forget your problems. But that is only a likely effect with a lower dose. At lower doses it also causes you to appreciate novelty, a stressful thing for the brain which prefers routine to save calories, to divert to other important metabolic processes. So you will, temporarily, be more creative. And you will believe even the most meaningless activities are intensely meaningful. These chemicals are dopamine "agonists", something that effectively increases dopamine in the brain. The antidepressant effect of these drugs, at low doses, is likely due to that. MDMA, a psychedelic that more effectively stimulates dopamine, is more likely to cause the euphoria you sometimes get with LSD. But it also shuts down your logical brain, unlike cocaine or caffeine. Which may intensify the meaningfulness of the experience. Fasting has a similar effect by stimulating adrenaline which may cause a cascade that releases dopamine. And may also oxidize into adrenochrome and contribute to the spiritual experience caused by fasting.

Serotonin

As you just read, serotonin turns off your logical mind. One of the side effects of an SSRI is a rather illogical choice of suicide. However, a little serotonin can help! Serotonin can help you forget your problems, or lower anxiety, by signaling to the brain that there are no problems. The negatives come about when serotonin is either too low or too high. Famous strategists advised: The greatest danger comes after a victory. The greatest danger is serotonin! It weakens you.

Dopamine

Men have more of this chemical than women. And it is what "confidence" is. Don't believe me? Try a serious stimulant out for yourself. Myopically I've painted serotonin to be bad and dopamine to be good, but it's not that simple. Too much dopamine causes schizophrenia. But it is intimately causal of happiness, focus, confidence, pride, and even much of what is called love (falsely attributed to serotonin by hippies.)

Oxytocin

Research on this one is telling us what we already knew: Its more complex than once thought. In general though it is associated with low levels of stress and the willingness to engage is intimate teamwork. It is associated, perhaps causal of thicker and denser bones. You can therefore gauge someone's willingness to trust you based off the thickness of their bones. Think of chihuahuas, deer, mice, and other animals with thin bones. They're distrusting

Cortisol

This is the first sign of stress. High cortisol correlates well with high serotonin, high adrenaline, and low oxytocin. Research has suggested a spike of cortisol is associated with the onset of love, but its more so the decline after the spike that makes us associate the person with feelings of peace and love. This is why scary 6'8 basketball players can pull so many women. Scaring someone, involuntarily due to how big and strong you are, is step one of love. Step two is being a calming presence.

Adrenaline

This is the chemical that gets released after a stressful encounter to offset the pain. It is the rush that so many seek. And can be caused independently of the experience being truly enjoyable. Men who stimulate adrenaline are probably more attractive, because it correlates well with meeting a man who's healthy and vibrant. Although not always, sometimes creeps give off vibes thar cause an adrenaline spike. Be smart about this, it's nuanced. Remember: Women need someone who is strong and fearsome, like a gun they can pick up and aim. You must be a little terrifying.

What is called love

True love has a reverence for how things should be done. The problem with 'shoulds' is that they quickly become dated and out of context. So what is love? It is a state of mind that sees the potential of a situation to benefit you (dopamine) and those around you (oxytocin) and crafts rituals to hold to, beliefs and contracts to agree to, to make life more meaningful.