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The Difference Between an Experienced Man and an Unexperienced One

The Difference Between an Experienced Man and an Unexperienced One

I've noticed that when dating, there are two types of guys. The experienced one that makes sex and relationships in general enjoyable, and the inexperienced one that might look like a good time, but really isn't.

Here are some things I've noticed that differentiate the two,and what to look for in an experienced partner.

1. He respects your boundaries

When an experienced man's interested, he'll let you know, and then he'll give you time to decide what to do with this information. As a general trend, it seems as though more inexperienced men will more likely keep there hopes up, and be more persistent, even when you show them that you don't reciprocate their feelings.

2. He's not possessive

He doesn't feel the urge to constantly glare down your guy friends, and doesn't try to push your girlfriends away from you either. In public when walking, or on the bus, he won't be super in to PDA (apparently guys use pda as a way to "lay claim") at most, he'll have a hand on your waist.

3. He isn't "freaked out" by your body

Chub, stretch marks, scars, cellulite. Things like that, he knows that it's a natural part of being human, and doesn't expect a pornstar body. It also seems like the more experienced a guy is, the less he cares about your pubic hair.

4. Forplay

I absolutely hate it when we're three minutes in and he tries to put it in. Like, dude, I ain't even wet yet. If he does that, he either doesn't care about your experience, or doesn't know how arousal works on women.

5. Cares that you have a good time too

Statistically, women are most likely to experience an orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Not vaginal penetration, and no, if you keep asking her "babe, you cumming?" every two minutes, she will NOT come faster. Once he's finished, he'll make sure that you get an orgasm as well. Sex isn't over when he's done.

6. He doesn't get attached too quickly

When you guys start dating, things go slowly. Speeding at 300 km/h only leads to crashes, and he's learned that. If he's decided that he's marrying you within the first month, well...

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  • I'm not exactly experienced, so let's rock.

    1. Until women stop complaining that men aren't persuing anymore, this point will be taken with quite a bit of salt.

    2. I don't know where you got the idea that guys use PDA to publicly claim his girl. I like PDA because I couldn't give less of a fuck who's around. If I wanna hold you and kiss you, that's what I'm gonna do.. or at least try to do.

    3. This is a notion that, nine times out of ten, only exists in YOUR mind. The first time I saw a girl's public hair, I was far from disgusted. Note also that said girl was pretty chubby and had a lot of stretch marks. I was still very much attracted to her.

    4. I may be one of the exceptions to this.. but I've always made sure to give her pleasure before I even think about my dick.

    5. See reply to #4.

    6. This is the only claim where I'd say you legitimately have me cornered. I tend to fall hard and fast. I'll admit that.

    • wow that is something that a girl will look in a guy that stops thinking about his dick and thinks about her and how to please her. Keep that in mind all the time. Let me know what u think about my comment

    • #4 - you lie! a bad lover will always only think about him-/herself (yes, ladies there are some very egoistic women), a mediocre lover will put his / her counterpart on a pedestrial forgetting about own passion / desires. Great sex follows once both (I'm kinda old-fashioned there, I don't enjoy threesomes), find the right balance between giving and receiving and claiming.

    • @Muglintar Your assessment of my answer assumes that me focusing on her pleasure and ignoring my own desires are mutually exclusive. They're not.

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  • So your more like just give me the experienced ones and let the noobs learn on some one else kind of girl. Good on ya you know what you want.

  • 1 - An experienced man will want a woman that fulfils him, not one that makes him wait and is not reciprocative. He doesn't want a prude dead fish

    2 - He's got plenty of options other than you. Of course he won't bother much about you. He's got plenty of them on the side waiting in line for the "experienced man" he is

    3 - He isn't freaked out, cause he's seen so much shit in his life, he just tolerates it and doesn't care. That doesn't mean your body is OK. Just means he ignores it and goes straight to the point.

    4 - Yeah.. he takes time to get it up as he gets older... we get it. (btw, it's forEplay, but that's not relevant)

    5 - Yeah.. maybe, who knows..

    6 - He's used to having a lot of partners.. don't you worry about him getting attached... you're just another one

    • wow lol i was reading this opinion and was only surprised to learn it was you lol. But some things she's saying i actually think are not that far off...

  • Good take.

    Worth also mentioning that poor experiences with inexperienced guys can lead to lasting problems, too. From a man's perspective, it's also fairly easy to tell which women have been affected in this way.

    I'm not really sure what the solution is (or even if there really is one) - people have to get experienced somehow, I guess...

  • so basically its "he does and gives 100% in bed and shut up".

    tbh this has nothing to do with beeing experienced. its more about the attitute. yours including.

    number 6 as example can be a turn off. but it also shows that he/she has feelings for you. some show it, some hide it. its about the attitute.

    • attitude* :) where is the edit button?

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