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First I want to state that I am talking about biological sex differences in human anatomy, So I am referring to gender male/female in a purely biological sense. Even those who identify as a different gender (Gender Dysphoria) show these same brain structures even though they identify differently.
Second if a pathologist found a disembodied brain, could they identify it as a male or female?
The answer s actually no. They could measure the size, the grey matter/vs white matter but they could not say 100% if the brain was male or female, they could say it was most likely a man's brain or a woman's brain but 100% certainty no they could not. But in general a women's brain has more white matter, and a man's brain has more grey matter (source) "Gray matter represents information processing centers in the brain, and white matter represents the networking of – or connections between – these processing centers." See this article for more information.
But, if the brains were functioning and connected to an fMRI machine it would be quickly obvious whose is whose and which is which. As an example here's a pair of videos showing the difference between male and female orgasm.
And there are reasons for this: The cognitive differences between men and women. Stanford University.
Now to the point of my article. One of the things that I wish women understood about male arousal. The section of a man's brain that is stimulated during arousal is his senses. Especially his centers for sight. A guy literally sees sexy. While a woman thinks sexy. Study showing the differences in male and female arousal.
A woman can see something that she finds sexy such as:
But the process is like this. Image, then thought about the image, then sexual response. While in guys that middle step that thought is not there.
So a guy sees a sexy image:
It goes image, sexual response, then thought..... So when we talk about sexually objectifying women there is an assumption that guys have a step to stop that response. They do not. Even a guy having sexual fantasies triggers his sense response (imagination of images) rather then a direct sexual thought.
This is a profound difference in responses. So next time your guy sees something attractive, understand that they can not help it. The sight alone was the trigger, not thoughts behind it. Of course a guy can then think, and react appropriately, turn his head, etc. But that initial response is hardwired, and there is nothing that he can do to stop it.
What Girls & Guys Said
28 40Women don't have a physical libido. They think about what arousal is supposed to look like.
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To me, sounds turn me on more than images. (Whispers, moans, etc) It seems that men react more to visuals but I'm not sure.
ASMR?
Naturally people have individual turn-ons. Generalisations are generalisations to simplify and not have to take every single individual into account. As a general rule of thumb though is that men watch sexy and women think about sexy. It's why the majority of porn-consumers are men while erotic literature (which is essentially written porn) are women.
@rocksongwriter you are right us guys love it all and so do you girls lol
Shit Im a dude apparently
Oh come on do we really fu (king care? Women are good for one thing and one thing only!
Wait am I a guy? Or just have a guy brain lol.
Provide scientific reference.
It's the difference between in and out
in and out of what
a condom or a hot dress
Informative
Oh my
we get it women cum better than us and there's nothing we can do to make ours better, stop rubbing it in lol
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"there is an assumption that guys have a step to stop that response. They do not."
That is a big over generalisation.
This isn't true for all, rather an excuse for those who do this.
Give credit for the men who can actually think before responding, cause they do exist.
Give credit to your sex as a whole, cause not all are mindles, or act before they think.
What does "responding" mean here? The body responds to the image before the ponderance of it, the verbal or active response comes after that. This take was *not* about acting before thinking, it was about the arousal/attraction triggering before thinking.
@AllThatSweetJazz You see that example he gives where women shouldn't get angry at their men for turning their heads or physically show a response? That part sure contradicts your last sentence.
The arousal comes first, then the thought, then the action. Turning one's head away would be the last step in that chain.
@AllThatSweetJazz What im saying, and whuch you just said so too, is that men are capable of thinking before responding. They ain't morons. They think before acting, this is possible. So a man for instance isn't dumb to not be able to turn his head
Turning the head isjust an example/analogy for all actions by the way
Yes and the action comes after the arousal response and the reactive thought. Again, the point was about the order of arousal and thought, not thought and action. Everyone thinks before they act most of the time.
No not a over generalization. I am talking about a biological response to stimuli that is hard wired into anatomy. The issue is the order of response first trigger, then arousal then conscious thought, as that is hard wired. The action after the arousal is certainly up to the guy, but the arousal is unavoidable. That's my whole point. You are assuming that a guy responds like you do, they do not. Hence the entire article.
Also if you re-read that part of "turning your head" that could mean turning your head away from the trigger which was my intention in the statement. Towards, or away that is a reactive response to thought after arousal.
@AllThatSweetJazz "The arousal comes first, then the thought, then the action. Turning one's head away would be the last step in that chain." Not necessarily true. The action sometimes can come before the conscious thought.
@FakeName123 Actions that aren't the consequence of thought are a different category entirely. You can't "give credit for the men who can actually think before responding" because then what you're talking about is a reflexive action and a choice, different things.
@AllThatSweetJazz If one guy can stop himself due to thought and another guy doesn't think first & performs, for the same action, then it's the same category.
But we think too differently. I'll stop now
Exactly, that's the distinction I'm making. It's NOT for the same action. One allows for enough room to react with intention, the other is the kind of reaction where your body jumps in response to a sudden loud noise and you reflexively turn to see what is happening.
I always thought objectification meant treating someone like an object... and therefore is thought-based behavior based?
You know, “grab em by the pussy” and all that. 😂
Good stuff, but you say objectification when really we're talking about sexualisation. I think it's a common misuse of the term objectification.
Good point. I was meaning the feminist term.
Feminists didn't coin it, nor do they own it. They just say it a lot and as such are prime examples of misuse of the term.
Makin' love to the money I swear the sex great
I kick dem hoes out but let the money stay
Wow, are men’s orgasms really that anticlimactic?
Yep. Women scream convulse and have tremors, meanwhile the mans response is ". . . . I'm done.". Kind of sucks really (but it does make the female orgasm all the more fascinating because it is so beyond our scope of understanding).
I knew women had stronger ones, but I was unaware they were so much stronger. Very interesting.
Yep. Now think about when you have sex and don't orgasm and he does, chances are your still feeling more pleasure then he is.
I’m a virgin. lol I don’t think I’d enjoy sex if I didn’t orgasm, though.
Well, no not quite, I mean they're pretty intense sometimes but nothing like yours, no.
ah, well a lot of women do (Statistically orgasming, at least from vaginal sex only occurs about 65% of the time). My point was however is that when you are kind of feeling good, theirs a good chance that that is the male orgasm. Again, kind of sucks for us.
@hellionthesagereborn Only about 25-30% of women can orgasm from vaginal orgasm. When our partners focus on what actually does give us pleasure, our orgasmic potential is about the same as a man's.
@MlleCake nope. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, most of which are pleasure oriented, the male penis has only half of that.
Is that even with the foreskin attached?
@hellionthesagereborn None of what you said changes our orgasmic potential.
The foreskin has more nerve endings, considerably more (that's why we have circumcision because historically sex was bad and they thought by desensitizing the male penis they would focus more on school and work and less on sex (clearly they where wrong) which in the US was pushed by John Harvey Kellogg (the guy who created corn flakes and started the mayo clinic)) but you also have considerably more nerve endings in the whole vagina, the 8000 nerve endings was just the clitoris itself. So women still have more nerve endings for pleasure. Which is why as you can see from the brain scans the male orgasm seems rather anticlimactic, not as many nerves, tends to be more localized as well etc.
@hellionthesagereborn I must feel blessed and have pity on other men folk. Judging from porn and such it does seem like that's what a dude's orgasm is like. But for myself, no it's intense, I believe as intense as many women maybe more
I must be a unicorn, because mine can be very, very intense. Not always but it's like violent, is one way to put it. It's like convulsing, but I don't even think that explains it good enough. Like hard, heel of foot slamming hard fast on the bed, spasm, ab contractions, veins bulging out of neck, eyes rolling back. I didn't realize I was unique, but must lucky
@brennanhuff Apparently, never heard of that before, ever actually. But their are always exceptions.
@hellionthesagereborn Actually, our vaginas themselves are not particularly nerve rich. Almost all of that which we interpret as "vaginal pleasure" is actually pleasurable because it places pressure on the internal parts of the clitoris. The clitoris and the penis are essentially the same structure, with all the same parts. I have to think our orgasms have a lot in common, but I have never seen a man to completely abandon himself into the orgasm the way a lot of women do, and I think that's an emotional restraint more than a physical one. And men DO have a refractory period so when the penis says "ok, I'm done" the pleasurable sensations stop pretty abruptly, whereas women don't necessarily have that constraint.
@MlleCake Yes, like I said most of the pleasure sensing nerves are in the clitoris which is the only organ that's sole function is pleasure, but as I said their are nerves in the vagina as well, plus again the clitoris has twice as many nerves as the penis. Its not that men are secretly holding back its just we don't have the same amount of nerves (circumcision doesn't help either).
@hellionthesagereborn Well it's not always and I've never told women because I don't want them feeling bad. But it's more likely to happen for some reason being that intense when solo than with a woman. But I think it's because I can't be distracted at all or else it takes a little off of it. And Like I don't want to abandon myself completely as I wouldn't want to literally fall on a woman if in missionary or like fucking buck her off the bed if she's on top ha and hurt her. Never happened during a bj and kind of glad, because the lack of control of limbs, I'd hate to accidentally kick a woman in the head either.
@MlleCake A man I think can know how to milk out the orgasm even after the big one and get little sensations after. A man might hold off a bit too, to not hurt his woman too. I let go more by myself if I have a strong one than when with a woman. That brief moment I have to hold back, takes away some of the intensity whereas if I can let go and feel the sensations without an hold back or interrruption. That's when I can max it out. I've held back, because I can hold myself a little or enough to turn off and not fall on a woman. But an intense one like I've said, I wouldn't be able to hold myself up at all even for a second, and wouldn't want to just collapse from being upright just all weight on her or buck the woman off the bed if she's on top ha. It's like fucking poltergeist kicking ha
uh you do know what the video of the female brain isn't depicting a massive brain roaring amount of orgasmic activity right? It's a slide show, colored to show what parts of the brain activate and what parts deactivate during an orgasm, then it plays on a loop. The video of the male brain is a joke video. from what I've been able to learn on the subject, Some people, men or women, have stronger orgasms and others weaker, it's genetic and not much can be done about it. Men tend to have stronger orgasms and feel more release from one, while women tend to have longer orgasms. Women can have multiples that can build into more powerful O's. Men can have prostate O's. They are intense "full body" orgasms that repeat quickly and build on each other lasting up to an hour at a time.
All trash. Girls like sex more than guys and crave cock from hot strangers. That's why women prefer casual sex to relationships.
erections when aroused
Women can easily hide sexual excitation. They can even completely deny it to themselves. "Good girls don't ____"
Men always have that pointer ;-)
Remember the old "divining rod", a small branch shaped like a wish bone that a man would carry around his field until it bent down where he should dig or drill for water? Google it. Anyway my pointer worked like that for any moisture or wetness. It just spun me around to point at girl. Now my office had a long hall with another crossing the end left-right -left. One day 2 aroused secretaries passed left and right at the same time. I had to wear a tiny whiplash collar on it for six weeks.