The girl I'm dating has a BDSM "Master" who she sees a couple evenings each week... We haven't discussed it but do you guys think they're having sex?

I went into this relationship knowing they have a dynamic.
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UPDATE: I took some of you guys advice and straight up asked her, and yes, they are fucking. Now I can't get it out of my head imagining what he does to her... What's worse, in her smartassed fashion she asked if I wanted her to video it next time and show me, so me being a smartass said "maybe I do"... Should I tell her to to call her bluff or just put my tail between my legs on this one?
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  • She may or may not, some people are in the scene but have partners outside the scene.

    yes she may be having sex, however equally she may just be experiencing her kink (s).

    If she has said that sex is a boundary, limit, then she will not be having sex.

    Some go purely to be tied and spanked, caned etc.

    There was one woman went purely to be naked and serve food, drinks.

    • Ref your update Ask her where you fit in with Trust, Respect, Honesty & Communication As a sub, she should be keeping firmly to those.. If she has offered go video it, then fare chance she will make one with him. It really depends what you see as the final situation

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  • I would say that not only are they having sex, but some masters share their slave with other masters.

    It's hard to explain, but I've had two cyber slaves. I wasn't looking for that, but they both asked. One was very depressed that her master beat her and left her. I just wanted to talk about it, and see if I could offer any advice. As time went on she asked me to be her master. I had to clue what any of that even meant, but I gave it a shot. It's so strange because she would do anything I told her to do, and she expected me to not go easy on her.

  • Probably. There are some Master/slave dynamics that don't do sex, but do other things instead. That said, I think it's pretty common for that arrangement to include sex.

    I'd talk to the girl. Ask her to be open and trust you with the details, because it's important to you that you know them.

    Would it be a dealbreaker for you if she and her Master were having sex?

Most Helpful Guy

  • I would guess there would be a sexual component to it.

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  • Without a doubt.

  • Of course.

  • you'll have to just ask her. some do, some don't.

  • I'd say it's definitely a strong possibility.

  • Meh, …maybe, but not really. But kinda, maybe. …. I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s less about sex than it is control, n stuff. It’s more like play-acting than actual sex for sex sakes.

  • You need to have a conversation about it. I wouldn’t b able to date (nor would i). 🎀

    • To ur update….. I would leave if that is it. It would make sense.

  • Maybe they are, maybe not. Ask her.

  • I'd assume that they are having sex

  • yea..

  • do you want to see it?

    • A twisted, self hating part of me wants to but I don't know if I can handle seeing the woman I love getting fucked... Esp like that... And what if she enjoys playing with him more than me...

    • it can break you yeah

    • are you yourself into bdsm?

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  • I was the bdsm master in a few situations just like this before. Yes we were definitely having sex.

  • Yes lmfao. Of course they’re having sex

  • I would think so,

  • You said the girl you're dating. You didn't know about her dom when you first started seeing each other?

  • Yes the are

  • I would say it is very likely. But there is a small chance they aren't.

    • UPDATE: If you are into it, you should ask her to share with you. And maybe join in the fun. If not, if you can't see being with her while she continues with him... you should walk away and find a situation you are more suited for.

  • go for it. if she show you video, you will know

  • Definitely

    • You should see what they are doing. So you know if you want to continue with her or not.

  • I guarantee she's having sex. If she can't be loyal to you drop her.

    • So she's cheating on you. It's your own fault that you're a cuck in this relationship.. Drop her like the piece of worthless shit she is.