The golden question?

I have a question of the century no male alive in my lifetime of any age has been able to be honest with me about this.

If you are sexually involved in a relationship of any kind with a man and he claims that he is completely satisfied why is there a need for porn?

Also why is it so hard for a man to be open about anything sexual?
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  • I’m always completely open and honest about everything. It’s in our nature as human beings to want things we can’t have. It’s a survival instinct. Men have natural instinct to spread their genes. So the more offspring he has the better the survival of the species and his genes. So even if a man has the most gorgeous woman in the world he will still look for other females. Case in point Tiger Woods. Porn is a way for us to imagine other women as well as somewhat satisfy our visual needs.
    Women have the same needs as men but they go about it in a different way. Women seek the best genes for their offspring as well as the best environment for those offspring to survive. Sometimes those things aren’t always in the same man.
    I think that men don’t talk about sexuality for one reason and one reason alone. Social pressure. Men love talking about sex to other men. But when we are growing up both boys and girls are told that certain things aren’t appropriate to talk about, like sex. Parents can barely talk to their own kids about sex and we teach them that everything that feels good is bad. Like incest or masturbating or being naked or anal sex etc. The fact of the matter is if a man has difficulty talking about sex it’s because he never learned and that it is socially unacceptable.
    PM me if you need a frank answer to any other sexually related questions. I’m completely open. 😘

Most Helpful Guys

  • Well porn really destroys a lot... thats fucking clear.

    And well I can say that in relationships where I had good sex partners porn really wasn't that present... But I understand what you are pointing out...

    So if was at my place for a day or couple of days I would have moments I would masturbate to porn.

    I remember times (long ago when I was 10 or 12) I acctually masturbated without visual arousal Porn or Nude magazines.

    If you start getting used to it, it becomes an habit.

    Despite all emanzipation happend and still happening. We still in a "man's" world...

    If a guy fucks almost all girls in his town, he's the "player" the hero or whatever...

    If girl fucks almost all guys in her town, she's mostly being seen as a slut or whore. WTF is wrong with us in general?

    For me a guy or girl can fuck as many people as they want. But again for me personally its not really important life achievement to fuck as many, as rough and big as often fuck what else...

    Over the past years I started training myself to judging people less...

    But HEY! Do you really need to stick the biggest Dildo possible inside yo

    MUST her pussy be as tight as possible and if not you can't enjoy?

    Just glad there far more women and men that can enjoy without havinb to have to most extremes possible always...

  • Because men compartmentalize sex away from relationship. I can fuck someone I don’t even like and I can watch porn like I would a cartoon, just for fun and maybe pick a technique or tip (usually a bad tip.

    To open up about something as vulnerable as sex to a woman seems weak. I don’t want to be vulnerable which can be weak. I don’t want to have a kink I am somewhat interested in seen as strange or off putting but I will get around to it if I want, all in due time. Talking and being vulnerable is not a strong suit of men.

    • Girls can do that to like see someone we find attractive and want to "fuck with no stings attached " if u will be aren't able to the way a man dose bc of what's considered acceptable for a man vs woman. Maybe pick up a skill or tip ourselves... but I personally think about the other person b4 anything bc our choices affect many. The whole treat others as u want to be treated. 🤷‍♀️ And as far as opening up and being vonerable you act like Girls constantly like being the only one to expose themselves and make ourselves vonarable... bc we don't at all... esp not myself. Guys don't even care about as much stuff as girls AT ALL. We constantly question if we are good enough etc for many reasons... Its not a strong suit of wemon or girl either... Just some perspective... Its more to it than that

    • You asked for my opinion and I gave it.

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  • No where near all men are like that. DM me and I'll gladly satisfy your desire to converse.

  • I'd wager most men you've asked have given you an honest answer, but you don't understand it.

    • No sir that's why I'm here... have never been given a answer with explanation Other that I dunno

  • Porn is addictive, so sometimes it’s literally just a habit and we don’t know how to stop (or don’t know why we should want to). I personally watch porn because my imagination isn’t always enough, and I like to hear the sound of my fantasy of my partner mercilessly railing me over the kitchen counter lol


    And your partner isn’t always there or isn’t always in the mood when you’re aroused. To expect my partner to satisfy me every single time I’m horny isn’t something I’d want to do to them.

  • Is it? I don't know. I guess because masturbation is personal, and so it's weird for a lot of people to talk about. But to answer your question for why, it's because it feeds the imagination. Lets you fantasize. Are you unfulfilled in your life because you allow yourself to dream? I don't think so. Why would it be any different here?

  • Because I've learned several earth shakeing technical ways to please ,

  • Literally for the same reason women still watch chick flicks while in a relationship or read smut like Fifty Shades of Grey while in a relationship. It’s called fantasy. natural sexual fantasy and reality have nothing to do with one another.

    • The reason men can’t be open about sexual things to women is because anytime we do we get shamed or attack for anything Women don’t like or understand

    • I can understand that but I don't do chick flicks and read smut... only thing I've done is actually make porn with my boyfriend trying to understand his interests etc...

    • What are your fantasies when you masturbate? The most common female fantasy is being force fucked by a stranger. You have to have something you use to get off.

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  • Every guy is different

    Some guys can go without porn in a relationship, some guys can't (could be because they're addicted?)

    As to why it's hard, well the reasons vary from guy to guy. Some guys don't feel comfortable discussing it with just anyone, so guys just aren't comfortable discussing at all, period.

  • It's not hard for a man to be open sexually. You just don't know him well enough.

    As far as a need for porn is concerned; people like variety. Humans are curious. Sometimes it's to look at things they would never do; sometimes it's to look at things they'll never have.
    People have very consistent diets throughout their lives. At varying points, they'll try other foods; that doesn't mean they'll abandon their staple foods though.
    No, it does not indicate, they'll cheat on their SO; they like to look and in a lot of cases, that's all they need. They always look at car crashes too, which is not an indicator they'll crash their own car.

  • Sexual shame and taboo is culturally driven and is engrained in men and women from the time they are children. As far as the function of porn. It can be a great stress relief or way to augment ones imagination. I think people get way too hung up on the fact that it is sexual. If it weren’t sexual it could be anything else and people wouldn’t think it’s weird at all for someone to engage in it while also being fully satisfied in their relationship. This is actually another great example of how culture makes makes something that involves sex taboo and “problematic” when it really doesn’t need to be.

  • Its a sacraficial alternative of those who are selfish and sexually imature. Phycologically a lazy alternative to the brinkhood of self satisfication in that department for those who chase the idea rather than those who implicate in a healthy selfless way instead.

    • Elaborate please

  • Great question maybe fasination. Most men are voyuers. When you sre participating its hard to watch yourself. Every guy will give a different answer

  • If he claims to be—and actually is—satisfied with you and the sex you have, but he still watches porn, it must be that you and porn satisfy a completely different set of needs. Perhaps porn is a quick stress reliever which doesn’t require the time, effort, patience, and care that you do. Having sex requires those things; at least good sex does. So when he does have those things to give, the deepest human longings that sex assuages are satisfied. When he needs to focus on work or something else, porn is a quick way to push the distraction of his sex drive out of his mind.