Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
First of all, I'm no expert, just interested. My best friend is a sexologist, who has noticed something rather scary. She believes in the 20/80 rule (or something like that), where in dating today, where casual sex is exremely popular, a small amount of guys get to bang most of the women (sorry guys). She did a lot of counceling sessions, workshops,etc for women, and apparently most of the time condoms are used, yet the top guys who are very popular (who have had over 20 sex partners, yes they exist) rarely use a condom. The women confirmed that indeed, with the most popular men, they often didn't use one. Here are some speculations of me and my friend about how this could be.
-The sex can take place anytime, anywhere. It's simple, but these guys are often getting unexpected sex. Often they just run into a girl they just met, or haven't seen i a long time and if she looks good, there's a big chance he is doing her that same day. How did he know he had to bring a condom?
-He's the boss. Girls are often honored that they get to be fucked by a popular guy. If he doesn't want to wear a condom, she won't tell him he does, cause she wants to be liked as much as possible by him.
-Ovulating. There have been tests, where they noticed a different sexual behaviour when the woman is ovulating. They suddenly get a lot more sexual and start taking risks they otherwise wouldn't. Also it appears that during their ovulation women feel a stronger attraction toward certain men (the well known alpha male) simply for their physique/genetics, while on other occasions they might prefer a safer, stable and more providing man. As a woman, I have to acknowledge that this feeling is very much there, althought I in the end still use my brains. But the hornyness can be verry tempting. That's why girls sometimes tend to rely on birth control, or simply hope he pulls out.
-Carrying "better" seed. Women would want to carry the seed of the top men, because they see them as genetically superior. I think it often happens in the unconcious but that the instict is there. Also since DNA research improved, a lot of men found out they have been raising another man's kid, which is kinda sad.
-Because they get the "clean" girls. Apparently, my friend looked more into this, most of these top men with really high numbers haven't caught an STD yet. That's because these guys don't get the easy/dirty sloots who give blowjobs for $20, but actually get so many of the top girls, who only give it up so easy for him, not for anyone. A lot of these girls might even have 1 steady partner or husband already but make an exception for that certain guy. Some girls who have cheated admit to have always used a condom with the boyfriend/husband, just not for this one guy. (kinda sad). So if the girl is clean, is on birth control or trusts you to pull out, and want you to have all the fun you want with them, why not just go ahead and fill it up?
Tell me what you guys think of this. I think it's kinda scary actually, and I bet a lot of guys with a girlfriend or wife, might be too...
What Girls & Guys Said
12 29I think the part about sexually active people not using condoms is true, but the reasoning is weird.
Especially the part about women using condoms with regular partners but not with flings, which sounds completely illogical to me.
From experience, I do use condoms with regular partners but generally haven't used with FWBs and such.
But this was simply because they were sexually active and were on contraception in the first place.
It'ss nothing but the instict to get impregnated by the higher males. They are simply trying to get pregnant, unconsciously. Since sleeping with the man you spend your time with is a man-made rule (it is), they make them wear a condom. Because subconsciously they know he's not the want whose baby they want to carry.
In animal groups that live in packs work that way. The alpha male of the pack impregnates the females, then whole pack of betas and females raise the offspring. Consequently, this is what their instincts are telling to human-beings.
Exactly
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We don't use condoms
My girlfriend, with birth control, won't be having any kids due to chemo when she was little
That's probably the only upside to that situation
I'm really sorry to hear that. This take wasn't about people in a relationship. And I didn't mean to offend anyone, so sorry if I did.
Woah woah I'm not offended at all
Ok, still that's a sad story.
Good take.
"-Because they get the "clean" girls" hahaha, wait? So, you mean to tell me, that hot guys get "clean" girls, most likely hot, to reproduce with, while the ugly guys and girls catch AIDS and die. If that's true, nature is into human cleansing!!! I love it.
Carrying "better" seed. Women would want to carry the seed of the top men, because they see them as genetically superior. I think it often happens in the unconciously
LOL LMAO GOOD LUCK WITH THAT LIE
Girls are often honored that they get to be fucked by a popular guy?
Then porns stars are the most honorable people in the world
Indeed. I agree. Everyone wants a superior mate. But looks are not the only criteria, you see women dating ugly men, bc they have full pockets so basically, the mam should be superior.
Money and look is not everything to what girl look. No girl want to be call a gold digger or slut, or bitch. They want to date a guy that she proud of having. Come on no girl want a useless guy. If he not good in bed or be good guy, then what the reason she go with. What does a street rat marry a princess ring any bells to you?
@cmale123 of course it's not. But being successful puts you in a condition of advantage already. It's hardwired, whether the girls know it or not, you have an edge over another man if you're successfull, and there are plenty women who don't care what everyone else calss them, she doesn't care, bc she's happy with her man.
80/20 is not valid, now it's 95/5 thanks to feminism and tinder.
preach
Lol a "sexologist,"...
I'm a sexologist, too!!!
B***h slap of truth right there.
Actually the girl of this true should be "THE MORE OF A SLUT YOU ARE THE LESS YOU USE CONDOMS"
I would marry a virgin only
Are you a virgin?
@bethhh29 yes I am... Why do you ask?
Good luck to that.
@GreatnessRevamped at his age its not a problem. he can still date 18 year olds
Your friend is a sexologist? Like a professional sexologist with published papers in the scientific literature? You know, it would be helpful if you could add your friend's papers as references for this article, because as it is, I'll just have to take your word for it with the benefit of the doubt.
As for the content, I'm just going to say that I'm not on birth control, and I never will be. I don't like to play mind games; I don't like to play risks. I'm just going to wait until I'm married to have sex with my one and only true lover without birth control, except intermittent abstinence.
This needs citations.
The concepts are contradicting. If "top guys" get "clean girls" but also 80% of women in general and rarely use barriers then either disease is generated by males or 80% of women can't hold STDs.
Or maybe, just maybe, hot guys are immune to STDs!
She doesn't need citations. She clearly stated it was just speculation.
@PippiL You are defending someone's making things up that make no sense?
Dang! It's good to be the king!
You used the term sloot. I feel like I know who you are and you're not a chick...
Well guess what, I am. Because I'm a girl, I can't say sloot? Really? Me and my GIRLfriends have been calling them sloots for years. Tell me, who am I according to you?
Sad indeed, like our society in general nowadays.
On the other hand, just because a guy may look good, it doesn't mean he is a TOP seeder, as they usually aren't.
It's also funny that I read the other day a study implying that the intelligence gene, the determining factor, may actually be the mother's brain/ DNA.
That's to say, the child of a dumb female will most likely be dumb, while the child of a dumb male still has high chances of actually being bright depending on the mother.
Just thinking that the females on your report don't actually have much to lose anyway. And the top guys who sleep around? Lol
I need to become one of these guys that sleeps around since that's what girls go crazy for.
Maybe if I throw away my condoms that will help?
I can then adopt that confident Yeah I don't give a fuck! attitude
Throws away condoms. Gets AIDS.
Thats the thing you don't have to be an "easy/dirty Sloot" to get an STD. Shit happens. 90% of the time STDs have no symptoms and go doormat.
Exactly thats why I recommend a berlap sack instead.
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Yikes 😱