Sexual Relationships
+1 y

The Problems I See With Both Guys and Girls On GaG

The Problems I See With Both Guys and Girls On GaG

I can say that I've observed particular behaviors on GaG from both guys and girls that are problematic. Some of you are just gonna try to cancel me out as a guy posting this and think it's sexist, but I'm actually giving knocks to both sides from things I see.

So we'll start with ladies. After all: ladies first! =)

The problem with the Girls:

The Problems I See With Both Guys and Girls On GaG

Females generalize...but are supported for it...

It's still a well-known fact that when females generalize guys most people agree with it and don't tell her she shouldn't be doing that, and that happens a lot here. When guys generlize women all hell breaks loose and he's said to be butthurt, even though the real butthurt ones are the females giving him hell for it in the first place. For the record, I really don't care if females want to generalize guys, I'm old enough to know better, but you gotta take what you give. Generalizing happens. Everybody does it, and even I have. And sometimes when we generalize we're not exactly meaning "ALL" of one group, it's just a way of noting a particular group.

However, what is curious is that women like to pick and choose how they want to be generalized, and how they want to generalize men. If people are saying a general truth about women that makes them uncomfortable or feel offended, they will address their problem with that immediately and say "You can't lump all women together." But if we were to say something in general about women that would be perceived as a positive or praiseworthy attribute of women, women would not complain that it's a generalization, even if it's a wrong one. They would be happy to agree with the positive thing said.

Girls agree with one another here just to get at guys...

Not all the time, but most times when you see a female's comment to a guy's question or Take and she has lots of upvotes from other females, it's really just to support her against the guy/guys if she's not agreeing with him. I see the guys doing it too, but I'm much more likely to see a comment from a female have lots of upvotes from other females than vice versa. Like a female friend of mine here said that I never thought about, women will support/agree with each other even if they're wrong, and this is mostly the case when debating with guys. They never want to be proven wrong by a guy or outdone by him, so others will come to advocate her even if her points are really very wrong, narrow, or weak.

Girls can't stand when one doesn't agree with their gender...

Any time a female isn't in agreement with her gender or notes things she herself dislikes or is annoyed with, other girls can't stand that, sometimes because it's a truth that they may see in themselves and can't face it. So a lot of times the girls here who don't like that just try to accuse the girl of trying to get points with guys, accusing her of really being a guy in disguise, or hating her own gender, to make themselves feel better about the fact that she spoke truth about her gender. And other times, they'll agree with a guy and upvote him if he disagrees with a girl talking about her gender. It's easier for females to find fault with the girl than to see what she's saying and find truth in it, and this is because an ego does exist in femininity, a lot more than they choose to realize. Women often - see how I generalized there? ;-) - want to view themselves or their gender as being above men, and it seems to be that many spend a lot of energy and head space having inner contempt for guys, so when a woman actually sees how women aren't perfect and have issues, the others get a bruised ego from it and feel like she's going against the sisterhood.

Guys can be the same way with our gender, calling a guy a white knight or pussy feminist for agreeing with women, but guys tend to care less often if another guy does compared to women. Women hold much more resentment towards other women for seeing that her gender has problems and does things guys hate too.

The female mods are no better...

The majority of moderators on GaG are female, and only ascended that far because they accepted their eligibility, but they're really not very different from the aggressive, immature females here. They too break the rules, act maliciously, and act against others. One of them I even had to report awhile ago, who is an "Uber Mod." And they also support the other females against guys; it's happened to me and I've seen it happen to other guys. The females on GaG are always saying how much sexism and misogyny goes on, but the vast majority of theirs is allowed to slide. And since most mods are females, you can see why nothing is done about it.

Asking if we think they're pretty...

It's gotta be one of the most common topics posted on social networking sites and I've long given up on answering. I won't even click on them anymore to see the girl's picture. I really don't care if you're pretty or not. If I like you or are sexually attracted to you, you'll know it.

And then other females are just looking to get their egos rubbed. Sites like these were not created for narcissism, but sure enough there are many narcissistic females online who live for all the followers they have and all the compliments they get, and spam our feeds with repeat questions about how they look and if they're pretty. That's a sad life.

Now for the Guys:
The Problems I See With Both Guys and Girls On GaG

Guys try to answer before anyone else...

One thing I notice a lot is that the guys try to answer questions and Takes before the girls do, and I'm pretty sure they do it calling themselves trying to beat feministic females to the punch. 98% of Takes or questions I see in the feed will have more guys than girls already responding, and sometimes it will discourage me from wanting to comment on the same post because the author won't care to hear anymore of what the guys say. And it could also be because the guys want to seem like they're such experts and have the best answer.

I for one, would like to see more females respond to my Takes and questions.

Guys try to battle feminists or those who think like it...

I used to do this when I was on Answerbag and Experience Project, and it's just not worth it. It bothers the guys to see feminists so much that they're always trying to fight them almost anywhere here. I myself am not a fan of feminism, and I will state what I think about it when I'm asked, but I really don't need to go all over the site looking for feminist prey to kill. It makes you look just as bad as them or worse. I don't care what they think and their ideas are not even that relevant to me unless there's really something I want to say, so I just move around it. And that's what the other guys need to do.

I myself can get into some heated discussions here, but it's not on the agenda for me to go at it with anybody anywhere I see it. You don't need to start a mass war campaign to get your point across. If they don't want to hear it and would rather tune you out, let 'em have it. And if they want to listen to your perspective and see your point, go with that. But let people think what and how they want to think.

Guys try to put us all in the same boat...

Guys who talk about how horny we all are and how hard it is for all of us to get a date or get laid, annoyingly try to put us all in the same boat because either they are very sex-minded, or they're the ones who struggle to get a date and get sex. So to make themselves feel better about it, they try to blame it on females' "high expectations," or try to break down the explanation in a bunch of university science equations that look like they make sense on paper but really mean nothing on the whole grand scale of real every day life.

I tire of hearing mathematic deductions about the number of single guys vs. single girls, how easy girls have it, the number of guys in the population all together vs. the number of women, how this works with girls at a bar vs. how it works for a guy, how you can have 10 guys and 10 girls in a room, etc. *exhaustedly drops face in palm*

If you can't get a girl or you've struggled to get laid, that's your problem. Quite trying to explain it away with a bunch of idiotic, unrealistic pop sci social experiments and shit that are supposed to encompass the rest of the male population to make yourself feel better about it. It looks pathetic and I'm even starting to see how some women are offended by talk of how easy it is for them to get laid.

Asking about penis size...

It's really not a thing to focus on too hard, man. True, there are women who really do like bigger and thicker - or you wouldn't have European and American women going to the Caribbean every summer just to have sex with endowed men - and those deny it and say it doesn't matter, but other women don't care. And you have to live with what you have.

Conclusion...

At the moment this is all I've noticed, but I fear I'm gonna remember something else by the time I've already posted this, lol. But having said all this, if we all consider ourselves mature adults - or young adults - you have to act like it. We want to be taken seriously and think we're such experienced individuals but are acting like kids on the Internet.

What it all comes down to is opinions and also truths. Things people don't like or can't handle, so they feel a need to antagonize one side for it. Truths and opinions are part of life. And they're not going to change because 8 or 10 females upvote or support another against it, or because 20 guys want to beat the girls to the punch with their perspective. Sometimes truths and opinions are one and the same, and other times truths and opinions only apply at some times with some people.

The Problems I See With Both Guys and Girls On GaG

Just want to take a moment to share this around with a bunch of Gaggers:

@Applefan1

@CHARismatic

@loveisbeautiful

@Redeyemindtricks

@Chief16

@IceEverest

@kaylaS91

@rgb008

@ThisDudeHere

@ElissaDido

@ConsultantIsBack

@LoveYouMeanIt

@Joc4Position

@BuchitaBuchys

7 13

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

14 21
Show Popular Opinions(20)

  • I agree with the "girls can't stand when one doesn't agree with another". I see that a lot on here. Especially with the feminism questions where some girls will literally attack other girls for their point of view. And if I'm a shitty mod, tell me! hahaha

    • You are a shitty mod. But you are excused... because of boobs.

    • @FakeName123 lmfao thanks

  • Your first points can all be summed up that girls are way more likely to think in a hivemind setting. Frankly speaking, girls are followers. For example there is a reason why the majority of cult-followers are female.

    • ... and why they travel in packs to places like the bathroom. 👍

    • @fondue

      Haha, yes. Also ask any guy if he wouldn't date a girl because his friends dont like her. Pretty sure the number would be quite low in comparision to girls ;)

      Also a link for OP and anyone interested about cults: www.csj.org/pub_csj/csj_vol12_no2_95/abs_women.htm

    • @FakeName123 Wow, you make a good point also.

    • Show All

  • Women are honestly the most protected, and definitely the most privileged, group of people in Western society. When it comes to legal and social advantages, it's all on women's side of the court and if there are laws that attempt to make it an even playing field to help men, women feel threatened by that and fight to keep their special privileges they have, and accuse the opposition of misogyny to silence their opponents. That's literally female nature.

    Want me to back up what I'm saying? Why don't you look at the Violence Against Women Act which is a law which states that even if you physically hit a woman back to defend yourself, you have to go to jail because of the law protecting women. Why don't you look at Title Nine, which protects women because they're considered "minorities". They abuse the hell out of that law to get positions of power or to get a man expelled because they didn't like what he said or did. Let's also look at Affirmative Action, which protects women as well: it gives women more priority over a white man who is much more qualified than her for a job or has a better academic record than her for a university just because she's a woman.

    Also, female privilege is where they can assault a man and nobody bats an eye, but if a man defends himself by hitting her back, he gets jumped and attacked by everyone else. Female privilege is where they can vote without being forced to sign up for the draft and possibly going to war because of those elected officials, which women helped put into office. Female privilege is where women are 98% of child support and alimony recipients and 96% of child custody winners. Female privilege is where she can falsely accuse a man of rape, sexual assault, or harassment, get him jailed for 20 years, and NEVER face legal consequences when his name is cleared and is found innocent after spending time in jail. Female privilege is where she spends only 64% of the time for the same crimes as a man simply because she's female. I could go on, but I'm running out of characters.

    So ladies: you should check your privilege instead of saying that I have to check mine. I don't have any. You do.

    • Oh I definitely agree with you.

    • I'm glad you agree!

  • What a luck @ManOnFire doesn't generalize.

    • I said I HAVE generalized before, lol.

  • you forgot the white knights and dudes who suck up to literally every girl on this site thinking they'll get virtual digital pussy. i see so many where the girl looks like she's 500lbs and got hit with a sack of shit and the dude straight up tells her how great she is and that girls who are actual models are "fake" and "shallow" (ironic, i know) and not that attractive. other than that, this is the best take i've seen. and i don't say that lightly! good job!

  • Haha love it! Good stuff. Ya mods are pretty pugnacious. I've observed that some female super and uber mods are, ironically, the more antagonistic of users.

    At the end if the day, gag is just a twisted fucked up website with tons of social losers and tons of really fun people too and is fun for twisted entertainment proposes. That's it! To come to this website expecting to receive legitimate insight is silly, although some can be found, it's very uncommon in my opinion.

    • OMG, dude, we think the same things it's so fucking scary! LMFAO! This place really is twisted, man.

    • Broooo <3 we have some special going on. Like a telepathetic link. Like our brains are beyond other people's. I think we might be the next stage of evolution bro

    • @ConsultantIsBlack Cool, but I want to be The Vision from Age of Ultron: "Humans are odd. They seem to think chaos and order are opposites, and try to control what won't..."

    • Show All

  • Might work for men but women are dumb as fuck in these matters

  • Agreed can't we all act civilized.

  • Another reason why I don't identify with a gender. This nonsense.

  • ❄⛄⛄⛄I can't believe that how can our thoughts match so much. There is not a single alphabet with which I didn't agree with.
    Also, not to offend anyone but
    GIRLS : 👸👸👸
    "Some" girls here have a mentality of " If you disagree with a female you are disagreeing with entire feminity" and would stand for her no matter how wrong she is and gang up against guys, Yet will complaint how guys dont see them as indivisuals but rather a group consisting of all alike people.
    GUYS:👱👱👱
    1. Stop generalising your gender as "every guy likes/does that" or "Every guy just wants... ...".
    It gives a bad name to the entire gender and girls think that all guys are just alike.
    Great take bro.⛄⛄⛄❄

    • YES! Right ON, and good point about guys generalizing guys.

  • At least you called the males "boys". As it says in Smashword's "Woman to Women", too many guys call women "girls" which (I suspect) is a term to put down or belittle/dismiss women as not as intelligent, not as important, etc.

  • "Females generalize... but are supported for it..." False. Women are criticized just as much if not more than guys.

    "Girls agree with one another here just to get at guys..." You don't know what a person's intentions are. Maybe women agree with each other because they make sense. How are they "getting at" guys?

    "Girls can't stand when one doesn't agree with their gender..." Generalizing! And there are a lot of guys who fit this description too. It depends on the individual, not the gender.

    "The female mods are no better..." Because when someone does or doesn't do their job properly, it's because of who they are, not whether they have XX or XY in their 23rd pair of chromosomes.

    "Asking if we think they're pretty..." And I've seen just as many, if not more, similar posts from guys. So what's your point?

    "Guys try to answer before anyone else..." How do you know that? And again, it depends on the individual, not their gender.

    "Guys try to put us all in the same boat..." Isn't that what you're doing: "guys"? But that doesn't mean all guys are doing that.

  • well said!!!

Home >  Sexual Relationships  > The Problems I See With Both Guys and Girls On GaG